I have morning sickness and i'm scared.
Q. i am 12 years old. and i lost my virginity about a week ago. i have morning sickness i have strange cravings for pickles before i go to bed. but it may just be bkuz of my diet but i am scared.. wait no REALLY REALLY REALLY SUPER DUPER SCARED!!! ...
A. 20 August 2007: You can't be having pregnancy symptoms one week after having sex. Those don't usually come on until around three MONTHS after conception. Whatever are you thinking? Having unprotected sex is very irresponsible and irresponsible people should not be ... (read in full...)
Am I the only one or does anyone else feel that dearcupid makes you paranoid?
Q. Am I the only one that finds that dearcupid makes me paranoid reading about all the different questions people ask(cheating with bosses, having sex with brothers and sisters etc) Am I the only one or does anyone else feel that dearcupid makes you ...
A. 20 August 2007: I'm never paranoid by the postings but some them are certainly disconcerting and some are absolutely heartbreaking. However I think this site provides a valuable service and many people find comfort and help from the aunts.... (read in full...)
Was it truly just lust? Does he truly like her now?
Q. Hi, Is that right what he has done?: he has married his fiancee even though he was deeply attracted to me? I was married (am still now) but we felt attracted to each other for a long time. This grew in even lust but all this was non verbal.....
A. 20 August 2007: His relationship is none of your business, he's married, end of story. Focus on your own relationship with your husband. That IS your business.... (read in full...)
I'm sleeping with both my child's mother and an old high school friend! What should I do?
Q. I have a major problem. I have two women that love me and I feel the same to both of them my problem is one of them is my child's mother and the other is a old high school friend I have been sexually active with both of them which I know is wrong. ...
A. 20 August 2007: eeny meeny miny mo. Just make sure you support the child you have already fathered.... (read in full...)
I'm 14, he's 18. He wants to go out, but I've never dated before!
Q. I am 14 and I have a crush on this 18 years old guy. He is major cute and hot. I've known him since kindergarten. My parents know him well, too. Last week, he told me he really really likes me and want to go out with me. I want to go out but I'm not ...
A. 17 August 2007: I wouldn't do it. If you guys really hit it off the romance can't go anywhere because it is illegal. Your boyfriend is risking jail time. Endangerment of a minor, statutory rape, contributing to the delinquency of a minor....it doesn't matter ... (read in full...)
I don't find sex fulfilling with my boyfriend.
Q. First I want to apologize for my English.. Here is my problem - I have a boyfriend, who loves me very much, he is very kind and handsome but unfortunately I can't take pleasure in sex. Why is that?! In fact I'm really scared of a serious relation...
A. 16 August 2007: He may simply not be the guy for you. He may love you but I don't think you feel the same and that is why you don't find pleasure with him. You are also not interested in a serious relationship for this same reason. I think for both of your sakes ... (read in full...)
He thinks I'm cheating and had the nerve to ask if our daughters were even his!
Q. I have had a boyfriend/fiance for almost 4 years now and we ahve two small children together. He is a very jealous type. we went to counsleing over it but now im about to start school its starting up again. He has been accussing me of cheating cuz i ...
A. 16 August 2007: Did the counseling help him at all? Maybe he needs to get some more. Maybe the fact that you are about to start school again has his low self-esteem festering. I'm sure his jealousy makes him very uncomfortable and it needs to be addressed for his ... (read in full...)
He said that he doesn't want to have sex b/c we're around each other too often. Is this normal?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for almost two years. We were instantly attracted to each other and bonded so well. The first two months in our relationship we were intimate every evening and twice in the morning. It was great. ...
A. 16 August 2007: I kind of think it sounds sort of screwy but maybe he truly feels that you guys were together too much. It might also be the fact he is out of work and may be suffering some depression because of it. Depression can sure put sexual desire on the back ... (read in full...)
I want to feel loved and when we just get right to the sex I dont, so I end up crying
Q. Ok here it goes. For the last few months now, I notice that if I go to my boyfriend's place and he just tells me to get naked and lay down because he wants to play with me, I end up crying during sex. If we make out and work into touching, f...
A. 16 August 2007: Sandman is right, you don't want to feel like you are his plaything but rather his lover. How callous and cold to tell someone to strip and lay down so he can play with you! That's why you cry sweetheart. Lay it all out for him, if he's worth a ... (read in full...)
I keep catching my husband in lies...
Q. First a little about my situation. I have been married for six years. I am a stay at home mother of three beautiful children. I feel my marriage from the beginning was just a mound of lies. He lies about work, his past and constantly does dishonest ...
A. 16 August 2007: This was posted two years ago to this very day. I certainly hope she has found a solution to her problem by now.... (read in full...)
Should I let the past go in order to experience the best relationship I have ever had, or do I have a right to be worried?
Q. Should I stay or go?? I have been with boyfriend for a year now and it is the greatest relationship I have ever had. To me, he is a caring, beautiful person who generally always considers me. However, we have been honest with each other about our ...
A. 16 August 2007: Let's see, he had an affair with a married woman, he took a hike on his wife without telling her, he ogles other women in your presence, and you are wondering whether you should be concerned? Does that about cover it? I guess my answer would be a ... (read in full...)
I'm worried that getting back with my husband will upset the life I've built for me and my son during his absense
Q. I'm 23 years old, I have a little boy who is almost 2 and I am separated from my husband. He is a little younger than I am, and we have experienced many difficult times due to circumstance during the past six years. He has a sort of peter pan ...
A. 16 August 2007: Hard to say if you are fooling yourself, however you have reconciled before and it didn't work out. You ARE both very young and perhaps he has matured a bit but you need to decide how many chances you are willing to give the guy. If this time ... (read in full...)
I recently realized I am in love with my wife's best friend.
Q. I recently realized I am in love with my wife's best friend. I do not feel any less in love with my wife. I love her with all my heart, but I also love her best frient with all my heart. Luckily her friend lives clear across the country. How do ...
A. 16 August 2007: You can't necessarily "stop" the feelings but you sure as hell can try ignoring them and focusing all your attention on your wonderful wife. Let them stay in the far back of your mind and hopefully they will fade away in time. Don't do anything ... (read in full...)
I finished with my boyfriend and have since found out I'm pregnant, how can I get him back?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend 2 months ago. I left him for his cousin and it wasn't working out, plus I found out that I'm pregnant and that it's most likely his child.(my ex) I want him back. Will he take me back? How can I get him back?...
A. 16 August 2007: Yikes you are in a real pickle there, missy. You better make sure you know who the father is, what if it's the cousin's baby? You can't go up to your Ex and say the baby is "most likely" his now can you? As far as getting him back you'll have to ... (read in full...)
We're always arguing over stupid little things and it gets to the point where I slap him and I hate doing it but he gets me so angry.
Q. Me and my boyfriend love each other loads but the problem is we're always arguing over stupid little things and it gets to the point where I slap him and I hate doing it but he gets me so angry. He blames everything on me but I hate the arguing, it ...
A. 16 August 2007: You guys sound like oil and vinegar to me but what really needs to be addressed here is your anger issues. If you are physically striking him then you need to get some help. That is unacceptable behavior on your part no matter how angry he makes ... (read in full...)
I'm terrified I won't be able to have a baby in the future!
Q. I'm 17, I don't want a baby yet but I just want to ask a question. I've always worried that when I decide to start a family with my boyfriend [in about 7 years or something] that I won't be able to have children. I don't know why I worry so much ...
A. 16 August 2007: You are worrying unnecessarily. There is no basis for it and your own doctor said everything looks fine. Relax and enjoy these next years. ... (read in full...)
I've now changed my views about marriage and would like to get married some day, how do I tell him?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years, and, on the whole, we have a great relationship. We both love each other, respect each other and mainly want the same things out of life. We have lived together for 3 years and just bought our first ...
A. 16 August 2007: Of course you need to talk with him about all this. A nice calm discussion is definitely in order. I'm willing to bet that he is more open to the marriage idea than you think. Pick a nice relaxed time for you both, take a deep breath and go for it. ... (read in full...)
My periods are literally ruining my life!
Q. My periods are literally ruining my life! I have about 5 days (if i'm lucky) each month where I feel 'okay'. My periods are so painful I have to miss work, I get all hot and sweaty I feel so sick, and even wretch sometimes, the pain is just so bad. ...
A. 16 August 2007: You must have gone to quacks because there is lot more than painkillers they can prescribe for you. Find another doctor and talk to him about hormone therapy. Maybe something as simple as birth control pills can help with your periods. There is no ... (read in full...)
A relationship break???
Q. A relationship break??? I have been dating this wonderful woman for 9 months now. We hit it off perfect and everything was going great. I can remember about 3 months into the relationship she could not wait for us to move in together, have kids ...
A. 16 August 2007: Well hang in there Buddy. She will appreciate the fact that you allowed her this time to reflect.... (read in full...)
My wife and I don't get along - would it be wrong to have sex with my ex?
Q. My wife cheated on me several times. We started to divorce but then we decided to give it another try. I must admit I hold onto a lot of resentment for all the lies and deciet along with her excuse that it was my fault she cheated. Things were good ...
A. 15 August 2007: Why don't you do the right thing and divorce your wife before you take the other woman up on her offer. Your marriage sounds pretty crappy anyway and you certainly don't want to lower yourself to being just another cheater.... (read in full...)
Should I marry my fiance even although I am not in love with him?
Q. Hi, I have been dating my fiance for 1 year and we have just got engaged. He is a very kind, caring and thoughtful guy and would do almost anything for me. I have never been out with anyone who has so wanted to take care of me and thinks of me...
A. 15 August 2007: Of course you shouldn't marry the guy. You both will be miserable in short order and full of regret. Have a chat with him, he deserves to know how you feel.... (read in full...)
Don't know whether to marry my "a-bit-boring" boyfriend, or not!
Q. I have been with boyfriend for over 5 years now and we are about to get married this year. We also have a place together. In the beginning I was truly in love with him and couldn't imagine my life without him, but as time went by I fell out of l...
A. 15 August 2007: hee hee... (read in full...)
Don't know whether to marry my "a-bit-boring" boyfriend, or not!
Q. I have been with boyfriend for over 5 years now and we are about to get married this year. We also have a place together. In the beginning I was truly in love with him and couldn't imagine my life without him, but as time went by I fell out of l...
A. 15 August 2007: I'm willing to bet this poster has moved on by now...... (read in full...)
A relationship break???
Q. A relationship break??? I have been dating this wonderful woman for 9 months now. We hit it off perfect and everything was going great. I can remember about 3 months into the relationship she could not wait for us to move in together, have kids ...
A. 15 August 2007: Let her contact you. Sometimes people need to be alone to think. Marriage is a big, life-changing event so let her do her "me" time. Stay busy with a project or a good book. I'm sure you won't have to wait too long. Keep us posted.... (read in full...)
He looks away when kissing me
Q. What does it mean when my boyfriend looks away when kissing me. This happens when kissing me goodbye or just a quick kiss, not during an intimate moment....
A. 15 August 2007: He probably has something on his mind that's distracting him a little bit. No big deal. Enjoy the kisses.... (read in full...)
If he has a kid then it changes things, why can't he be honest with me?
Q. I'm 20, I had a boyfriend, were still 6 months in the relationship and I've learned to love him... it so happened that one day when we were in his uncle's house, I found something that I was never really sure of..... and it's killing me! I gave ...
A. 15 August 2007: If he has a kid then he has a kid. Nothing you can do about it. If you can't accept the fact then you have to move on and find someone who doesn't have children. What's the big deal?... (read in full...)
He is texting another girl saying i do his head in!!!
Q. I've been with my husband 6years now and married 2years and got a 1yr old daughter. Recently things haven't been good between us and I found messages on his phone from and to a girl who he works with saying how they missed and loved each other and ...
A. 15 August 2007: Doesn't sound like "just friends" to me. Time for a nice long chat. If he doesn't agree to knock off this nonsense with his co-worker then you might want to think about a separation. Good luck and keep us posted.... (read in full...)
I have an online bf and a real-life lover! Feeling guilty..so how do I make sense of all this?
Q. Hello, In Dec 2006 I was introduced to my 40yr old boyfriend who lives in UK while I live in South Africa. I’m 31 yrs old. We’ve never met physically but I love him to bits and because we are both divorcees and HIV+, the relationship has so much ...
A. 14 August 2007: Long distance romances only work when two people truly love each other and couldn't fathom the thought of being with someone else. You obviously don't love your boyfriend quite this way. Not that that is bad it just is the way it is. You need more ... (read in full...)
Do you think that it is possible to have many sexual partners in 1 night stand bases without her looking for sex?
Q. I'm 29, my partner is 21. I had 2 sexual partners 1 through marriage and 1 short term relationships, never 1 night stand. My partner was sexually active since the age of 14, she had 30 sexual partners most of them were 1 night stand. She keeps ...
A. 14 August 2007: Oh she was looking for sex alright but whether she ever enjoyed it is another thing. Starting out so young is unfortunate but she probably thought having sex made her cool or popular which is what most immature girls with low self-esteem think. I ... (read in full...)
Does the 72 hour pill go on my record?
Q. will the 72 hour pill go on my doctors record? really worried, just had sex and was unprotected :S i no it was stupid of me..but i wanna get the 72 hour pill but my mum doesnt know ive lost my virginity? any ideas???? please help x...
A. 14 August 2007: It's not worth worry about your medical record, my dear, a possible pregnancy hangs in the balance here. Get yourself to nearest clinic or to your doctor. I'm sure once you experience the side effects of the pill you won't be having any more ... (read in full...)
I found out my girlfriend made out with some guy and went down on him at that party.
Q. My girlfriend and I had been dating for a few weeks when she cheated on me with another guy. She confessed about it to a friend of hers, and told me about it at a party a week after it happened. She only told me she kissed him though. A couple ...
A. 14 August 2007: No future here Buddy. She's trouble with a capital T.... (read in full...)
I know he loves me but he's still married, he says that he is going to get a divorce and we will get married and have a life together, but when!
Q. I am in life with a married man who in return really adores me as well. The problem is I do not know if we will be together or not. We have both liked each other for ten years, we use to go out drinking together with mutual friends and...
A. 14 August 2007: Tell him you won't see him until he files for divorce. And mean it. The writing will be on the wall in short order.... (read in full...)
He'd rather masturbate to porn than have sex with me.
Q. I have been married about 5 years. My husband wanted to have babies when we were dating so I said I would but only if we get married. So then we got married. I got pregnant but he never wanted to have sex unless it was to make a baby. Once I was ...
A. 14 August 2007: I really think you have no other choice than to separate from your husband and file for divorce. You didn't have much of a marriage anyway. Your kids will be okay as long as both Mom and Dad handle it correctly. Good luck.... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Anti-spam technology now live :-)
Q. Hi everyone After the recent spate of "spammings" I've introduced some anti-spam measures. I don't want to go into them all in detail here but there are numerous systems in place now to help stop, mitigate and allow you to report spam. The...
A. 14 August 2007: I rather like spam every once in awhile, with my scrabbled eggs especially. I know it's kinda a mystery meat but it has such a unique...huh? Nevermind.... (read in full...)
I'm devestated... My knight in shining armour wasn't supposed to sleep around!
Q. I thought I had the perfect boyfriend. Yes he's been married twice but he has always appeared genuine and loving and he has been very good to me. He was my knight in shining armour, he swept me off my feet after a very abusive relationship. I ...
A. 14 August 2007: Why do feel cheap and humiliated by something he did before he even met you? You shouldn't you know. Nobody should be put on a pedestal anyway, their feet of clay show. Now that you realize that everyone makes mistakes you can move on with your ... (read in full...)
What's right, what's wrong, the poor guy doesn't deserve any of this, but I can't pretend or stand it anymore!
Q. He doesn't deserve the hurt he's going to get, married for 21 years, partner has always worked away, called home about twice a year, we have two children, lived alone, very little outside contact, bored lonely depressed, moved with his job ...
A. 14 August 2007: Sorry but your post is so poorly written I can't begin to understand what you're trying to say.... (read in full...)
How can women want to touch someone with a small penis?
Q. Is it wierd to go from wee-man to Andre the Giant I have a serious problem, Im not a virgin but See i fear sleeping with women alot cause i have a terrible fear of being seen....well... soft. I have a very tiny thingthang when im soft ...
A. 13 August 2007: Large or small doesn't matter but a well-dressed penis is truly in style. Always wear a condom.... (read in full...)
We are going out together and getting on like a house on fire but he's been offered a job in another country and I'm devastated...
Q. After spending a few years in a bad relationship I spent a few months with friends having fun and enjoying the single life. But over the past year I have felt ready to meet a new guy. Since then I have had the worst luck! I have met a few guys but ...
A. 13 August 2007: Patience my dear, you are still young. He'll come along. Your right man might be getting a divorce from his shrew of a wife right now. Relax and enjoy the single life while you wait. Whatever you do don't rush into a commitment just because all your ... (read in full...)
How do I handle this jealousy problem?
Q. I'm 30 a year old male and in a relationship with a wonderful attractive 25 year old female who adores me and I adore her. I've always had jealousy issues with ex's liking other people/celebrities and I've never managed to get rid of it. My girlfr...
A. 13 August 2007: Jealousy usually stems from poor self-esteem or a feeling of being out of control. Are you a guy who likes to be totally in control of a situation? Do you feel threatened by other guys who are better looking than you? Do you purposely avoid watching ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to have a long term relationship? i'm beginning to wonder.
Q. Is there anyone who has been in a successful long-term relationship and is still very much in love? I've been visiting this website long enough to see that it seems like it's almost hopeless for men and women to stay together over the long haul. ...
A. 13 August 2007: I've been happily married to my husband for 32 years. We had a few fights and disagreements over the years, mostly about the kids or money, but now that all the birds have flown the nest we have rediscovered ourselves and are having a ball. It's ... (read in full...)
I live in a town where everyone knows me, and i want to get the pill.
Q. Hey all. ply answer my question. its very important to me. k im 16. me and my bf are having sex. i want to use the pill. whats the posabilitys of getting pregnant with the morning after pill? where can i get it? i live in a small town where every...
A. 13 August 2007: First off the morning after pill isn't something you want to take repeatedly. It's for the hopefully rare case when you accidentally had unprotected sex. Now the birth control pill is used as a daily preventative. Many women use it because they have ... (read in full...)
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