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writes:Hi allI am a in a true predicament, I am a lawyer and about a year ago i met this guy who was a client of mine, after his legal matters were sorted, we became really close telling each other our secrets etc. WE SPOKE EVERYDAY THEN ALL OF A SUDDEN HE STARTED MAKING COMMENTS LIKE YOU LOOK SEXY TODAY OR i LOVE THE WAY YOU DRESS etc. He would visit me at my home but always brought a friend, I thought we got on really well and I started falling fro him then one night i called him to say I have smthg to tell u and if i dont tell u i think ill burst. he told me to calm down and that he would call me just after he has eaten so we could talk. He never called but two days later sent atext saying that he doesnt look at me like that. he sees me as a best friend and that's all. he said that he thinks i'm confused and ended the message saying regards without even leaving his name. Not sure what to make of the message as it really hurt my feelings. This guy and I share certain looks eg the way he looks at me when i walk into a room is almost as if he wants to gobble me up... I could be fooling myself but as a lawyer I am trained to prerceive these things... when i got the text i guess pride got in the way so i said i wanted to tell u that i was getting engaged not that I like you...anyway he said he was happy for me etc but now he has distanced himself from me. he doesnt call or chat with me as before. About a week ago i told him i broke up with this guy who i was supposedly getting engaged to and he was like BUT WHY??? with smiles in his eyes. He still isnt talking to me..last night we were meant to go clubbing and he said he would call to confirm and never did. Can anyone make sense of this. Your advice is greatly appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2007): It's my understanding that it is against the rules of the law society to date former clients. Be careful..is it worth the possibility of losing your lisence over?
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (26 July 2007):
 As a "lawyer" I would think you could spot a dead-end case when you see it. This relationship isn't going to happen. He is playing with you. Best move on and find someone doesn't enjoy the game playing so much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2007): The two of you have been playing all sorts of games - but you upped the ante by telling him you were engaged; next you say to him that you have broken the engagement.
He tells you he will call you, but does not; then you were going to go clubbing and he was again going to call to confirm, but failed to make the call.
After all this weirdness on your part and his, it sounds like a lost cause. Let it go and resolve not to play games with the next man you meet! Just chalk this up to experience.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (26 July 2007):
 first of all while i see why you told him about an engagement rather then the truth i dont think it was the best thing to do! i think you need to come clean with him and explain why you told him that - that you were feeling embarrassed and a bit bruised, im sure he will understand that. second of all i do think that you need to sit down and tell him how you feel and that your confused because your getting mixed signals, and ask him why he has been obviously avoiding you! if anything you need clarification as to wat is going on between you two so you can move on knowing wat went on. i hope this helps hun ive been in the same position so email me if you want more advice xxx
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