I lost my virginity to a guy then he abused me. How do I get over feeling betrayed and used?
Q. I had sex with my bf after 10 months of going out with him. He was my first kiss, my first bf. I am 18 years old. However about a month after we had sex for the first time we broke up. I broke it off with him, however the reason why I did was ...
A. 4 September 2007: You certainly aren't alone, we receive many postings here from women (and sometimes little girls) who feel they were used and betrayed. But what you need to do is learn from it and move on. Of course there are guys out there who will love you and ... (read in full...)
I'm a lebian and i'm 13. I'm fine with it but how do I tell my mum and dad?
Q. Heya every1, please can you help me with something. I am 13 and am a lesbian. I am fine with it and don't mind what the outside world thinks of me but I am worrid about how my mum and dad will react if i tell them i'm a lesbian.I would hate to upset...
A. 4 September 2007: If you are sure that you are a lesbian, this site may help:
http://www.hrc.org/issues/coming_out.asp
... (read in full...)
I didnt grow up living with my mum and we are having problems getting on. Have I done something wrong?
Q. HI, Please help. My mother never raised me but now i am grown up she is being sooooo to me, as i know its normal for parents and kids to argue and fight. but with her its differnt she raised my brother and my other two half sibling. but whe...
A. 4 September 2007: You are an adult. When she starts in on you, just walk away. If you are living with her then maybe it's time to find your own place. Sometimes distance can make people behave better. She should realize you are grown and treat like an adult so maybe ... (read in full...)
Hi, I'm 13 and I want to have sex.
Q. Hi, I'm 13 and I want to have sex. My girlfriend said no. I don't want to pressure her but i want it sooo bad. I really love her but i don't know if i should break up with her. please help me i don't know what to do....
A. 2 September 2007: No means No. Leave her alone, if that means breaking up then fine, she's better off. Use your hand, buddy.... (read in full...)
Do guys care as much about weight as girls imagine them to?
Q. Do guys care as much about weight as girls imagine them to? Or do girls simply create this belief that most guys like slim girls? I'm in a fairly new relationship and i'm really happy with my boyfriend but i'm extremely insecure and am completel...
A. 2 September 2007: Obviously he likes you the way you are, It's a new reslationship and he was very attracted you so what's to worry? Enjoy yourself. Don't sweat the small stuff sweetheart.... (read in full...)
Anal sex is painful for my wife but I like it. Advice please!
Q. Anal sex is painful for my wife but I like it. Is there any way to have anal sex without hurting my wife?...
A. 2 September 2007: Are you having sex or are you making love? If you are making love to your wife you will do anything and everything to please her. If anal sex doesn't, then quit it. Why do you want anal sex anyway, just curious?... (read in full...)
I'm thinking of tricking him into fatherhood!
Q. I have been seeing a man for nearly 1 year, I do not have romantic feelings for him and neither does he for me, he is special to me and I class him as a friend more than anything, we purely have each other for sexual satisfaction. I am however ...
A. 2 September 2007: ME, me, me. Please do not reproduce. You are not ready to have a child. Children come first and you obviously care for no one but yourself. Again I plead, do not reproduce.... (read in full...)
I looked at his bills, he saw me and ripped them out of my hands! Is there something to this?
Q. my boyfriend lives far from me. he visit me every 4 months. he just visit me last week and we had a great time together. but there was one thing confused me. i saw he has lots of bills from his bag. and i started to checking one by one. some of them ...
A. 2 September 2007: Sorry sweetie, there is no bond closer than a husband and wife. If you aren't married, you wouldn't understand. You still have no right to look at his receipts or bills UNLESS he's spending YOUR money. Period.... (read in full...)
I love to perform oral sex on my girlfriend on a daily basis, as many times as possible, but it is even better when she is on her period and I insist that she sits on my face...
Q. hello my name is vince and I am curious to know whether anybody else out there believes in vampires, I believe I am of this origin. I love to perform oral sex on my girlfriend on a daily basis, as many times as possible, but it is even better when ...
A. 2 September 2007: Lighten up Frank.... (read in full...)
I'm still worried I could be pregant!
Q. Hi everyone, Well about 3 days ago i lost my virginity and he was protected , we had sex for about 30 mins , but we had to discontinue because my mom came home . so he came over the next day and we had sex once again but unprotected this time ,ye...
A. 31 August 2007: Of course you could be pregnant. Go to the drug store and buy a pregnancy test and follow the instructions.... (read in full...)
I've lost a lot of weight which is good, but my cleavage went with it! Help!
Q. About a year ago I lost 25 lbs.through a great program. Unfortunately my boobs also got smaller, which is to be expected I suppose, but even now that my weight has stablized and I haven't lost any more (In fact I've gained back 10 lbs.) but my boobs ...
A. 31 August 2007: There are all kinds of lingerie that makes what you have look bigger. Bras, teddies, lots. Google pushup bras and see the massive results. ... (read in full...)
How come guys never noticed me as brunette but now i'm blonde i'm sexy. How come??
Q. hey, Recently i dyed my hair blonde, and now that i have guys make comments about me and stuff like that. Im not bothered im just curious to why guys are making comments about it, im also getting called sexy now that im blonde where as when i was br...
A. 31 August 2007: You probably feel really good about how you look as a blonde and it shows by your behavior. You probably feel more confident and outgoing. Men pick up on that stuff. ... (read in full...)
I love to perform oral sex on my girlfriend on a daily basis, as many times as possible, but it is even better when she is on her period and I insist that she sits on my face...
Q. hello my name is vince and I am curious to know whether anybody else out there believes in vampires, I believe I am of this origin. I love to perform oral sex on my girlfriend on a daily basis, as many times as possible, but it is even better when ...
A. 31 August 2007: Thud, thud, thud, I think your post just made Drac roll over in his grave. What's that Drac? There goes the neighborhood?... (read in full...)
How do I handle my relationship with my ex? We're both happily married.
Q. Hi Am a married woman of eight years,a mother of to 2 kids. Two weeks ago, i met my ex -boyfriend for the first after departing for studies in australia, we gave each other our contacts. A week ago, he invited me for lunch of which i didn't t...
A. 31 August 2007: End this relationship right now and you won't have to worry about "handling" it. Do the right thing for the sake of your family.... (read in full...)
I looked at his bills, he saw me and ripped them out of my hands! Is there something to this?
Q. my boyfriend lives far from me. he visit me every 4 months. he just visit me last week and we had a great time together. but there was one thing confused me. i saw he has lots of bills from his bag. and i started to checking one by one. some of them ...
A. 31 August 2007: I'm one of those people that Tellulah warned you about. I don't think you had a right to go through the bills. He doesn't live with you, his bills are his business. By his reaction he must feel the same way. People need privacy whether they are in a ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and the 22 year old guy I met online wants to meet me!
Q. I met this boy over a chat room started talking but the problem is hes 22 im only 14 i know hes not an old man or anything becasue he sent me a picture with my name on i told him first that i thought he was a fake but now i know hes not. He wants ...
A. 31 August 2007: First off this is no BOY he's a full grown man. He is also looking at jail if he soliciting underage girls on the internet. Do not meet up with this perv unless you want to become a statistic, honeybun. No, nope, nada.... (read in full...)
I'm not keen on my mother-in-law. My spouse would love us to get along. Any ideas?
Q. How do i deal with a hypocrite mother-in-law and still have a great relationship with my spouse? he loves me and his mom and would want me and her to have a good relationship....
A. 30 August 2007: I suggest lots of deep breaths. My mother in law had the incredible ability to telephone at the most importune times and it drove me up the wall. But we did end up being very close. Try to remember she was the co-creator of the man you love, so if ... (read in full...)
Two weeks ago I lost my dad to a massive heart attack. He was still young and I don't know what to do. There's such an empty silence in my life and in our house.
Q. Two weeks ago I lost my dad to a massive heart attack. He was still young and I don't know what to do. There's such an empty silence in my life and in our house. He was always here because he was retired due to ill health. I miss him so much. I come ...
A. 30 August 2007: This is one of life's most difficult events. You will feel the pain for awhile but in time just the fondest of memories will linger for you and they will give you comfort. Your Dad lives on through you now. I'm sure you will make him proud. Best ... (read in full...)
I have been having sex with a married man. He says he loves me and his family. Could he just be after sex?
Q. i have a colleague at work who is married with a 3 year old kid..i was new and got atrracted to him, i was the only one single in the office and many guys wants to court me, but i fell inlove with this married man and we see each other secretly,we ...
A. 30 August 2007: Of course he is just after sex, sheesh! I'm amazed you had to ask!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is breaking up with me cause he says I dont trust him
Q. hi,my partner said he is leaving me!!!!!!! he recently found out that he has an 18 year old daughter from a woman he went out with at school, then had a 1 night stand with her a few years later, i accepted he had a daughter, we havent got kids ...
A. 30 August 2007: How long have you guys been together?... (read in full...)
What does this recurring dream mean?
Q. Since the beginning of the week Ive been having the same dream everyday. It includes me and a guy, the situation is somewhat complicated but I have alot of feelings for him we are just not in a together. In the dream, I'm taking the train to and ...
A. 30 August 2007: That you like trains and train stations?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is breaking up with me cause he says I dont trust him
Q. hi,my partner said he is leaving me!!!!!!! he recently found out that he has an 18 year old daughter from a woman he went out with at school, then had a 1 night stand with her a few years later, i accepted he had a daughter, we havent got kids ...
A. 30 August 2007: Have you been accusing him of stuff that he hasn't done? Do you keep comparing yourself to the other woman? Do you keep harping on this? Are you coming across as too needy? All of those behaviors can be very tiresome and draining on a relationship. ... (read in full...)
So close to my daughter feel like I'm losing her to her boyfriend... Anyone feel the same?
Q. Hello, I have a daughter who has recently fell in love with her long time boyfriend. I think that he is a great guy, with some flaws of his past, but who doesn't. Anyway, I like him, but do not like having to share my daughter's heart...
A. 30 August 2007: As the mother of two grown and married daughters I can certainly relate to your situation. When my daughters were teens they got really busy with their social life and I felt kinda left out. But now that they are young mothers themselves we've grown ... (read in full...)
My friend is really bugging me about our size differance
Q. im 15 and lately my friend has been bugging me, she is kinda overweight and says its weird that im two sizes smaller in clothes than her because we look the same, and the other day i did a test to find my BMI (body mass index) which shows you if you ...
A. 30 August 2007: Let it go. If she brings it up just change the subject. This is no biggy don't let it damage your friendship. At your age girls can be very hyper-sensitive about physical issues. Your bodies grow at different rates so just let it go. You both will ... (read in full...)
Angel Broken heart
Q. I went for a job interview 5 years a go and met this nice lady, also met her husband.. I felt something that never happened before in my life when saw him, i was looking at him and he was looking at me also.. since that day i could forget him i ...
A. 30 August 2007: Answers? What the heck?! I'm not going to tell you what you so obviously want to hear.... (read in full...)
I hadn't seen him for 12 years. I like him. Does he just see me as a friend???
Q. hey dearcupid.. I am 14 and met up with this guy today and have known him since i was born as our parents were really good friends. Today was the first time i saw him in 12 years or so. At first it was slightly awkward as i fancied him and ...
A. 30 August 2007: You say you are 14 but you say " Today was the first time i saw him in 12 years or so." Frank just did his math.... (read in full...)
I've just slept with my best friend's boyfriend....
Q. So my problam is kind of confusing.... me {Amanda} and my bestfriend {Taylor} are going out with these two guys {Dylan and Josh}. Taylor and Josh have been going out for over a year and a half and me and Dylan have only been going out for about 3 ...
A. 30 August 2007: Actually the only thing to be done in this situation is for you to break up with Dylan and for Josh to break up with Taylor. Then when the dust settles perhaps Taylor won't have any problems with you and Josh hooking up. You guys are just starting ... (read in full...)
I virtually met my ex after over 37 years, without our spouses' knowledge, and we love each other again...
Q. I found my ex-girlfriend after 37 years, she in Denmark and I in Canada. We e-mail, MSN and talk (hours every day) without our spouses knowledge. We are both happily married. Now we tell each other how we love each other agin and plan to meet. Any ...
A. 29 August 2007: That's "First off stop claiming", and that's "playing with fire" and that's "knock this nonsense off" I guess you really pushed my buttons!... (read in full...)
I virtually met my ex after over 37 years, without our spouses' knowledge, and we love each other again...
Q. I found my ex-girlfriend after 37 years, she in Denmark and I in Canada. We e-mail, MSN and talk (hours every day) without our spouses knowledge. We are both happily married. Now we tell each other how we love each other agin and plan to meet. Any ...
A. 29 August 2007: If off stop claiming you both are happily married, obviously this is not case for either of you. You are playing with firs and your poor wife will be devastated. How can you look yourself in the mirror knowing you are destroying her? My advice is to ... (read in full...)
I have been married to my husband almost a year now and things have just been going down hill.
Q. Hi everyone I have a problem. I have been married to my husband almost a year now and things have just been going down hill. We have a daughter together and we are expecting another one. I just cant take this marriage any longer there is no respect, ...
A. 29 August 2007: Could your pregnancy be contributing to your negative feelings? Sometimes the imbalace of hormones during pregnancy can do that to a woman.... (read in full...)
I fell over whilst out and have done damage to my leg. Should I be worried about it?
Q. I was out on friday, and fell over while walking i got two seperate cuts on my leg one being worse than the other. it feel on a sharp object and got two puncture marks. i left it and came home. It is now tuesday, my knee has swollen up, the veins ar...
A. 28 August 2007: When was the last time you had a tenus shot?... (read in full...)
What do you think about affairs?
Q. What do you guys think about affairs? Esp when someone has one when only in the first few years of their relationship. Does this mean generally they are unhappy, missing something? And if so once the affair has started and even stopped, will that...
A. 28 August 2007: I had a boyfriend in college who two-timed me but we weren't all that serious. However, I have been married to my wonderful husband for 32 years and neither one of us would dream of cheating. The thought of losing my husband's respect is just as bad ... (read in full...)
What do you think about affairs?
Q. What do you guys think about affairs? Esp when someone has one when only in the first few years of their relationship. Does this mean generally they are unhappy, missing something? And if so once the affair has started and even stopped, will that...
A. 28 August 2007: The previous poster has yet to meet the love of her life. And her excuses for hurting her boyfriend have just left a puddle on the floor.... (read in full...)
What do you think about affairs?
Q. What do you guys think about affairs? Esp when someone has one when only in the first few years of their relationship. Does this mean generally they are unhappy, missing something? And if so once the affair has started and even stopped, will that...
A. 28 August 2007: There is NEVER a valid reason for cheating, ever. We hear all kinds of excuses but not nary a one holds any water. What it boils down to is lack of honor and integrity and sheer disregard for another's feelings, pure and simple. that goes for males ... (read in full...)
How do I help my partner have courage to stand up against his ex wife's divorce demands?
Q. My partner and wife split 3 years ago. The kids are 21 and 20. He did not wrong her, it just all broke down. He is a loving man and tries to be a good Dad but , as to be expected I suppose, has been receiving loads of hatred. They have been ...
A. 28 August 2007: He's got absolutely nothing to lose and everything to gain by getting a lawyer involved at this point. Let the lawyer deal with it all that's why they get paid the big bucks and it will be less stress on him.... (read in full...)
My dad was in prison for sex offenses, I've never met him and my family wont talk about it! Any advice out there please???
Q. Hi There people! Hi, my name is Brian and I am 24 years old. I don't really know how to start this, but basically my problem in life is that I have never met or known who my real dad is. The only vague details I know, through speaking to my n...
A. 27 August 2007: You have every right to know about your Dad, good or bad. And I think with his name and approximate age you can discover quite a bit. It's a shame your mum won't talk to you about this but it just might be too painful for her. As you begin your ... (read in full...)
My guy doesn't like me going on dear cupid! He says it's porn with words!But i enjoy it..
Q. My boyfriend gets mad at me when I go on Dear Cupid! I am a stay at home mom, and I'm pregnant so I don't have much of a life. I go on Dear Cupid and I like to try to help by giving people advice. My b.f. gets mad at me and says that the ...
A. 27 August 2007: This calls for a compromise, you give up Dear Cupid and he gives up buying anything on line. See if that will solve the problem.... (read in full...)
I feel like my boyfriends not interested anymore. How do i get him to love me again??
Q. hi Ive been dating my bf now for 6 months but the last 2 months ive had this feeling he's not interested in me. How do i get him to love me again, show affectoin like a bf should. clueless...
A. 27 August 2007: Some relationships are just not meant to be. You just might be wasting valuable time on the wrong guy. Sit down together and have a nice long chat. Hopefully you both can be totally honest with each other and find out just exactly where this ... (read in full...)
Is it selfish of me to expect to be paid to babysit my sister's daughter?
Q. I am a stay at home mom with a 4 mo. old, and I'm also pregnant. My older sister works full time and whenever her day care woman is unavailable, she asks me to watch her 4 y/o daughter. She gets here at 6 a.m. to drop her off, and doesn't pick her ...
A. 27 August 2007: Well I would take a deep breath and just come out and tell her that you want to be compensated or she will have to find another substitute for her day-care provider. Also don't let her drop her kid off when she's sick your sister should stay home ... (read in full...)
Our child passed away, he blamed himself, we've tried sorting our problems but he's txting someone else. Help..
Q. My boyfriend has moved out of our home and told me he needs his own space. I really need some advise. I been with my boyfriend for nearly seven years we've had two boys but our younger one passed away whilst in the care of my boyfriend he has ...
A. 27 August 2007: Congratulations on making the best decision in your life! Be strong, each day will get easier. You will always look back at all this as the first day of your life! You go girl!... (read in full...)
My fiancee becomes mad at me, screams, offends. I didn't deserve it, what should I have done?
Q. My fiancee and I flew out to a diff city for a weekend. We were out walking out in public, while sitting on a bus stop he rips out the map that I was looking at since we were lost. So, I told him he can wait till Im done looking at, but he ...
A. 27 August 2007: "What would you have done if you were me?" I'll tell what I'd right NOW, show the jerk the door. He certainly can't love you and treat you like this. He most likely is incapable of truely loving someone because he has too many issues. You will be ... (read in full...)
Is it selfish of me to expect to be paid to babysit my sister's daughter?
Q. I am a stay at home mom with a 4 mo. old, and I'm also pregnant. My older sister works full time and whenever her day care woman is unavailable, she asks me to watch her 4 y/o daughter. She gets here at 6 a.m. to drop her off, and doesn't pick her ...
A. 27 August 2007: You are being taken advantage of because you are allowing it to happen. Tell your sister you want to be paid or that you want equal time with her babysitting your baby. Fair is fair. If she gets emotional on you just ignore her, sounds like she uses ... (read in full...)
How do I help my partner have courage to stand up against his ex wife's divorce demands?
Q. My partner and wife split 3 years ago. The kids are 21 and 20. He did not wrong her, it just all broke down. He is a loving man and tries to be a good Dad but , as to be expected I suppose, has been receiving loads of hatred. They have been ...
A. 24 August 2007: Right on Irish! I would like to add that He didn't Abandon he Separated from his wife after numerous pleadings. Sounds like her pride was hurt and that doesn't necessarily mean that she actually loved him. If she had she would of listened to him. He ... (read in full...)
How do I help my partner have courage to stand up against his ex wife's divorce demands?
Q. My partner and wife split 3 years ago. The kids are 21 and 20. He did not wrong her, it just all broke down. He is a loving man and tries to be a good Dad but , as to be expected I suppose, has been receiving loads of hatred. They have been ...
A. 24 August 2007: Well really, if the marriage just broke down why should he lose out on the house and assets? He should speak to a lawyer so he doesn't get ripped off by his very vengeful first wife. I mean the kids are grown after all, most couple would just put ... (read in full...)
How do I help my partner have courage to stand up against his ex wife's divorce demands?
Q. My partner and wife split 3 years ago. The kids are 21 and 20. He did not wrong her, it just all broke down. He is a loving man and tries to be a good Dad but , as to be expected I suppose, has been receiving loads of hatred. They have been ...
A. 24 August 2007: He deserves to have half of the house. He should buy out the wife or she buy out his share. I'm sure the judge will demand it. Also any other assets should be divided in half as well as any debt. That is what the Divorce Court will say. He certainly ... (read in full...)
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