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*adysfeisty
writes:My boyfriend usually treats me very good, but I feel I am a possession instead of a partner, what can I do?Most times he treats me great but there are times when we are out or something and he gets done with his food or drink and expects me to hurry up and be done too. I am a very independent woman and feel like he is making me into a slave and not valueing me as his companion. This man is older and set in his ways and when I try to speak my opinion he tells me to shutup. Telling me to shutup is just not a thing you tell a person you care about. When I ask why I cannot voice my opinion, he says "it's his way or no way". I told him we are not in the 1950's anymore and that women can speak. He took me home and did not talk to me for 3 days. What can I do to make him see that what I value does count? I am not trying to go against him as a person, yet when I speak he acts like I am assaulting him and he cant handle it. Help! Reply to this Question
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (31 July 2007):
 You go girl! I'm betting you won't be alone very long!
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reader, ladysfeisty +, writes (31 July 2007):
ladysfeisty is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your responses. They were all excellent. Sometimes being alone is the better option than being with someone who treats you like a doormat. I am too strong willed for that. Say la vie and adios for that loser :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2007): I agree with Eyeswideopen's rather comical yet straightforward answer. Dear, your bf has a major charcter problem. He has no respect for you and we both know 'respect' is a major component in a quality relationship. Time to set some boundaries, girl. There is no way on earth, any one would ever tell me to 'shut up'. In fact, no one ever has. I would show them the door. I think you and he need to have a good talk and you tell him to listen. If he decides to 'punish' you for 3 days because you stood up for yourself, then get smart and take that as a good way to exit this relationship, for good. Plain and simple... don't put up with his crap
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (26 July 2007):
He would only have to tell me to shut once. His way or the highway...start up the car.
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reader, lukabazzoo  +, writes (26 July 2007):
 Hi,you are a human person - with rights. Do not let him speak to you like that. I believe he will not change as he is set in his ways. You need to weigh up the pros and cons of this relationship. If you want to be treated like this-STAY, if not- GET OUT.Hope this helps
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reader, DJ8433 +, writes (26 July 2007):
 I think most women like a strong confident in control man, but he sounds like he's over the top with control to the point of being abusive. At this age do you think he is going to change? Probably not, then why try. You're choice is simple, deal with who he is or move on.
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