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writes: Help !!Basically I got dumped after 5 years. It was done over the phone and it was the worst thing that evey happened to me in my life. Its been 6 months and it was starting to get better, but the other day I found out that she has someone else. It hurt me so badly. This has been the worst of it all, thats she happy now in her new life.I just wanted her to have some of the hell that I have had to go through recently in my life. But that looks unlikely now.I know I sound bitter, and I am a bit, but deep down I am a nice person.Please someone help. Reply to this Question
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (26 June 2006):
 It takes a big heart in order to feel that much pain. You'll be hurting for a awhile, but trust me, with your big heart and capacity for love it will be worth the wait when you do find your true love. She'll be the luckiest girl in the world and hopefully the ex will see what a fool she was.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2006): I feel very sorry for you but you must try and get over it now. I was in a similar situation there are a lot of us out their. You must remeber you are a spethe good times you had with her but try to tell yourself that anyone who could be so callous and hurtful just wasn't right for you. Time is a great healer and you can be certain she is probably heading for a fall herself. She will not know what the hell is like until she has a taste of her own medicine, but try not to be too bitter now you have to move on and keep telling yourself anyone who could dump you like this just wasn't worth the time and she wasn't right for you. You will find someone, they say it takes 2 months to get over every year of a broken relationship properly, enjoy a bit of freedom now, take a break from heavy relationships and just have some fun. Good luck.
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reader, andyfish +, writes (26 June 2006):
andyfish is verified as being by the original poster of the question Great end to a relationship init !!Today was like it all came back again just as bad as it was at the start. All over her having someone else. Feels like your heart has been ripped out
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (26 June 2006):
 Well shes sounds so insensitive that I wouldnt now waste my time on her. Cant believe in this day and age someone could act so calously towards someone that they have been with for such a long time! She's probably not that happy, just appears it on the surface, its only natural to feel bitter I would too! She would have gone through her guilt at some point if she hasnt already then later on she may well regret how she did it, so what leave her to get on with it. Concentrate on you and what makes you happy! Get new friends stay away from areas shes likely to be, move on and accept that part of your life is over and she's not worth it, if she was she soo would not have dumped you the way she did, shes heartless and a coward, its the weak option. Take up a new hobby and direct your attention to that rather than focusing on being cross at her, the longer you are cross at her the harder it is for you to get over it, Im not saying its easy, ive been through a really hard break up but i came out the other side a stronger person. Your a special person, treat yourself as such and allow yourself to move on and be loved again, its not until you get rid of the anger that you will be able to love and be loved back. Take on new challenges and rise above it, you will be a better person for it.
Take care x x
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (26 June 2006):
Over the phone? Boy, she sure sounds like a real class act! People that insensitive always end up getting a payback sooner or later, have patience and keeping moving on with your life. Good luck, Buddy.
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