| A
male
,
*ayski66
writes: How do I win my wifes trust back again? We have been married since 1992 have 3 children and a pretty good marriage. Recently we have had more downs than ups, thus leading me to start chatting to other women on the internet - nothing too serious but at times went on things between me and my wife drifted further apart and the internet got more fun(exchanging pics and webcams with the women i chatted to).'My wife found this out and now thinks I have gone to far as this is as bad as an affair. All I was doing was trying to enjoy the areas of life i was missing with her. Do you think i was wrong to turn to the internet for fun? Do you think this is fun or and addiction?yours rayski66
View related questions:
affair, the internet Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (18 June 2006):
 If it's no big deal to you then just knock it off. If you love your wife and family you would do it for them. If you feel that your internet women are more important to you then divorce your wife so she can get on with her life (in the real world) and maybe find someone who can fill in HER gaps. Sheesh!
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2006): hi sorry to hear your troubles but yes i think it is wrong as a women i have been in that situation and yes i understand why she is not happy she feels lonely second best try and help her soon
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2006): The key here is when you say, " all I was doing was tying to enjoy the areas of life I was missing with her"To save your marriage and rebuild your relationship with your wife you need to do just that....rebuild your relationship with your wife..No woman can cope with the pain of knowing that her husband fills the gaps by using other women.Yes this is a form of infidelity.Please stop, cancel your internet accounts, and begin living honourably in your real world.This situation can so easily get out of hand, and you could end up talking to someone who understands you so much better that you need to talk to them even more.Then you are talking about breaking vows, hurting families and three children living a different life from the one they live now. This addiction gets out of hand. You are so lucky it has been found out now. The harm done to your wife will take time to recover from. Don't forget you knew what you were doing, she has just discovered the man she thought she knew well has a secret life. She will hurt, take her out, make her feel special, look for whatever you are missing in her,with her, it is there.. you married her for it......
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2006): I think thats considered cheating. Put yourself in your wifes shoes and look at things from her point of view. How would you like it if you caught her on the internet doing the things that you do? HELLO??? Yes I do believe that you could get addicted to things that they show on the net. I mean, if you cant seem to get it off your mind and arent content without the internet fun (sex chat, or cyber sex), then you are addicted, but if thats not something that is on your mind 24/7 then I dont think its an addiction, I think you might then just be doing it for fun. But either way man, speak with your wife and try to work things out. Stop doing what you're doing on the net, its cheating. Even if you're not doing cyber sex and are only talking about sex and fantasies, its cheating because you're sharing these personal feelings with an other woman and not your wife like you're suppose to. You're getting satisfaction from other women, which is cheating! Even though your arent physically intimate or havent met these women, the point is you're getting off with these "other" women and getting your satisfaction from them other than your wife! DUH! Doing what you're doing on the internet is just only going to make the problem a whhhooollle lot worse between you and your wife! I hope you understand and are able to work things out with your wife.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2006): Would writing erotic literature and selling them out in books considered cheating?
Anyway, if you're just chatting and having conversations about sex here and there, it's just talking. However, if you're having cybersex, then I think that's considered cheating. Mind u this can be vague because if you're doing it for the hell of it, then blah. If you're doing it because you want to get off with her, then yeah...
Vague eh?
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2006): I think that rather than trying to solve your problems by looking elsewhere you should be talking to your wife about it and see if it can be fixed. I can completely understand why this is hurting your wife, it certainly isn't doing anything to help.
...............................
|
