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writes: Why do some women get jealous if their son has a girlfriend?I mean isn't that sort of wierd. I could probably understand her getting jealous if her son had a close relationship with his step-mom, she may feel replaced. But his wife? I mean how do you get jealous of a spot you can never take (this goes for the wife too, since some women are jealous if their husband is close to his own mother). I mean treating your mother like your wife..... ew. So whats the deal?
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (21 June 2006):
 My mother-in-law was overjoyed at my marriage to her son. I now know why.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2006): I dont think its jelousy, just being protective.
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (21 June 2006):
 My dad is the one in our family!! Me and my sis were not even allowed to mention the word boyfriend when we were younger as he so wasnt having anyone near his girls!! Now we are both grown up and have our lives, he's still cagey about our men, no man will ever be good enough. Its almost like he has been replaced and he doesnt like it! Doesnt matter how you tell him that its not the case, he feels that his nose is out of joint and we now have someone else to do things for us. Its a rivalry thing I guess, makes my dad feel less of man in a sense as I dont need to call on him as much anymore as my man does the DIY etc... Its the same with women, they have nurtured thier sons all this time and cared for them, then someone comes along and scoops them up and takes them away! They cant stand the thought of others doing things for them as they will never be able to do it as well as they can! oh no!! Most come round in time, but alot just see them as thier little boy and thats it!
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reader, camille +, writes (21 June 2006):
 Is it jealousy or is it just a whole negative package of disapproving unfavourable critical scrutiny! I think Mothers can be so hurtful. They have taken care of this man and brought him into this world. Now there's someone else there that they think won't/can't measure up. I mean they probably expect him to be looked after and fed, but your cooking will never be as good as theirs and your house never as clean, you just won't be good enough. There's something we can give their son that they never have and never can though, so surely we've nothing to worry about! Wives 1, Mothers 0
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (21 June 2006):
 I don't know the answer but I do know that mothers can get jealous of their daughters relationships too. I think it could be an attention thing or a control thing for some parents - they just cannot let go of their babies, and they never think anyone is good enough for their kids. They meet their children's partners and immediately try to find fault because they want to construct these 'outsiders' as the enemy.
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