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writes: I recently found out that my husband has posted himself on a website for finding adult friends for sex/relationships etc. I have been cheated on before and am going paranoid. He says he's never cheated but has lied to me before about pornographic websites.filmsis there something wrong? Is he tired of the relationship? what should i do?Please answer asap
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2007): hi dont worry about it, my wife does/has done the exact thing to me and im very sick of it!
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reader, pashun8tly +, writes (29 June 2006):
being a military wife is hard: i know. i was an af brat & ex-army. one thing i can tell you about the military family: the males in the military know how to use a lot of military law & policies against thier own wives to subjugate them. the major thing is economics.
you're overseas w/ 2 small children...that's isolation...& you probably depend primarily on his paycheck...that's economic dependency.
i don't know if you should so far go under a guise to catch him red handed (because that's crazy) but if you do, DOCUMENT it somehow. then if he tries to pull the crap of sending you back home with nothing, you got something to show to his command & to a JAG officer.
study military family law, go online or go to the JAG office (especially pertaining to overseas) & work through his command but don't be surprised if they don't work with you because it's their job to protect their own no matter the cost & no matter who is involved. how else are they able to sweep things under the rug time and time over, since the induction of the armed forces...from child support/child abuse issues, rape accusations, to even murder?
i have served this country and i can tell you the military is still one of the good old boy institutions still existing in this day and age.
educate yourself! & document, document, document!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2006): Thank you all for your response. Good advise.We are in the army and it makes me more paranoid if he goes 'away' on exercise. Like i say i really don't know what to do, we have 2 small kids and i i leave him i will have to return back to the uk from Germany. I think i will return his post and try to meet with him, any more advice would be great.Thank you
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reader, pashun8tly +, writes (27 June 2006):
okay i'm not going to pussyfoot around this: your man is a LOSER.
your question should not be ..."is he BORED with me" it should be "where the hell is the EXIT?"
that man is a closet FREAKAZOID...& he's seeking other FREAKAZOIDS...so be glad you're not & RUN as fast & as far as you can...i agree get a check up...not knowing what he may have given you.
& stop making excuses! be a woman & stand your ground! i am tired of hearing how men are dominating this world and living so unapollogetically, because there's always some sissy woman who will clean up after him & make it all better. WAAAAH!
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reader, Dr. Reality Check  +, writes (26 June 2006):
 I'm not going to lie...it doesnt sound good. I disagree with the others saying you should masquerade as someone else to find out...that puts you at his level and will just upset you more. You need to have a good long conversation with your husband and wait for his bullshit excuse...then lay into him. Give him one more chance, if u think he deserves it, but then you say he has been lying before. Trust is a cornerstone of any relationship. If you cant trust him, its over.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2006): Dump his ass suger! He's not to be trusted.....
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (26 June 2006):
 Whatever his motives for advertising, if you are still sexually active with this guy then I sincerely hope that you are protecting yourself with appropriate contraception. Just remember that you can repair a broken heart with time, but you can't fix some STD'S.
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (26 June 2006):
 Hey I like the answer that Eyeswideopen gave! Yeah go for it.. Advertise, put up a fake pic, chat to him for a bit, make out your local, arrange to meet see if he turns up!
(I dont normally consider this the best option as two wrongs dont make a right and a trap isnt always the way, but its hurting you not knowing though right ?) If he does show up you will know he had every intention of cheating on you, and he cant get out of it! Then you can actually have your chat there and then and you will probably feel really cross to ditch the so and so and be strong and move on. If he doesnt turn up you will know that he does it for kicks and to get pics of other woman for masturbation purposes, and you can then decide whether you confront him about that and tell him that you dont like what hes doing and if he had any respect for you then it would stop immediately!
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (26 June 2006):
 Why don't you answer his post and see if you can arrange a meeting. Then have your chat with him (rolling pin optional). At least then you'll have the proof you need and be on the upper ground. Good luck!
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reader, Smiler +, writes (26 June 2006):
 Hey Sweetie
All i can say to you babe is I'm sorry your so upset :o( don't be sad your husband is in the wrong here and definitely sounds like he's eager to cheat i mean advertising on the net for sex is lower than low especially when your already married he obviously has no respect for you or your feelings.. he's well out of order and needs to nip that behaviour straight in the bud, he is so far past the crossing the line he can't even see the line anymore. You need to get rid of the fool before he cheats on you and breaks your heart.
I hope my advice was of some help to you sweetie :o) good luck ok... If you ever need someone to talk to or just a shoulder to cry on or maybe a little more advice, truly I'm always here for you ok :o)
You Take Care Babe And Good Luck X
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