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writes: Eventually i thought of ending my affair with this married man. I did not reply his sms and answering his call n did not want to see him as well for three weeks already but the true is i still miss him deeply. Pls advice, i am already suffer emotionally as i know is wrong to be with a married man but i ve already fall in love with him...
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reader, Wild Thaing  +, writes (17 July 2006):
 As you can see, you are not alone in your struggle!
Your instinct, finally, came shouting through and you ended this lopsided relationship with this cad.
It may take you months to get over this relationship, but try to concentrate on what you stand to gain. Self-respect is pretty high on the list of gains. One day you will realize that you settled for sloppy seconds, that you were a tasty side dish for this guy but would never become his main course.
When you have taken back your self-respect, I doubt that you will ever get involved with a married man again. Good luck and take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2006): I know it it hard. I am in the same position. Friends told me not to get involved with a married man but I listened to my heart (too much).......it is painful when you find the "right" man but he is married to someone else and either too weak to leave his wife or wants to have his cake and eat it!
Take care, occupy yourself and re-find your friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2006): I have been in a relationship with a married man who is 15 years older than me for 9 years, but I have come to realize that I need to end it because I want to fix my life and have a family of my own. The problem is he will not let go. He has helped me finacially over the years and emotionally. We see each other everyday , we have travelled and have done so many things together. Practically we are like hunsband and wife acept we dont live together. I have asked him to let go and carry on his life so that I can carry on with mine, but he says that he loves me. What should I do. I love him so much but I know he will never leave his wife.
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (19 June 2006):
 Let us know how you get on.
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reader, Smiler +, writes (18 June 2006):
 Hey SweetieIt has to be said again honey, you should really get your own man, why lower yourself to be the other women... why continue to be 2nd best your worth so much more than this, think of it this way sweetie if he can cheat on his wife, he will cheat on you just the same way a leopard will never change his spots... I would say he will definately without a doubt call you again claiming he's missing you can't live without you but don't be fooled babe it only the sex he's missing :o( sorry don'tmean to sound so harsh i know you have ended it but thats how these married cheating men work.. You hold your ground here end this do the right thing, time does heal you don't need him, have faith in your self find someone new... Be someones one and only number one priority let someone actually put you first not second best! You know you deserve that much deep down at least right? dump this cheating loser before he breaks your heart... :o)I hope my advice was able to help you out with your situation sweetie and good luck with this... if you ever need a friend or a chat or just more advice don't hesitate to email me sweetie, I would love to hear from you again and know how you got on... Remember i'm always here for you anytime okYou Take Care Sweetie X
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reader, willywombat +, writes (18 June 2006):
Breaking free of a toxic relationship is never easy. It has a knock on effect that can last for a long time. I applaud you for taking the step of dealing with this now - even tho you have feelings for him still. Stick to your guns honey, it will eventually get easier and I promise one day you will meet someone single who will mend your broken heart.Take care.xx
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (18 June 2006):
 You have taken the first step in the right direction. If you cave in and take the dog back when he comes sniffing around you'll be right back in the soup again. There is no future happiness in this relationship only misery and loneliness. It may take some time but you'll never regret dumping him. The sooner you get going the sooner you'll be smiling again, good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2006): your seeing married men for gods sake! they are not available and you should not get involved even if they are as bad as you for seeing you in the first place!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2006): i agree with the person below, get your own man. i am not married but my bf has recently cheated on me and its the worst feeling ever. of course we stayed together and the other woman who was also my friend is feeling extremely lonely now all our mates hate her! its the lowest of the low. the other woman always ends up hurt the most so sort yourself out, get your self a man who is not attached and stop being so selfish. I do believe in karma, ive seen it! and you will get yours. his poor wife is sitting at home unaware of all this going on. do they have kids? if so even more reason to stop.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2006): You women need to get your own men!!!!You need to look at yourselves and answer why would you want to be second choice! The wife will always be there! Do you people not believe in karma? I hope one day you get married and your husband has a "lady friend" on the side, so you would feel the pain you are inflicting on this man's wife! Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2006): I have been going through that same problem. I have been dating a married man for awhile now. At first I was okay with it. I was like 'obviously his wife is not doing something right, and that's why he has to come to me.' He assures me that I am the only woman in his life, besides his wife. This of course is very hard to believe, since if he can cheat on his wife...I know that he would have no problem cheating on me. I want to break up with him, but I am very much in love with him. I have tried several times to end it...even told him never to call me again...but I end up missing him...and when he does eventually call...I end up taking him back. I want to move on with my life, but I don't know how to let go.
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reader, shania +, writes (17 June 2006):
 You have done the right thing.This married man will try to contact you because he needs the sex.If he truely loved you and wanted to be with you then he would of left his wife...its as simple as that.You will get over him eventually,time is a great healer...just keep busy,go out with your friends because somewhere out there...is a fella just waiting to date you...and he wont be married.
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