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writes: I'm 14 and I have been going out with my boyfriend for months and he wants to have sex. I would but I don't know if I will ruin my 1st time. Like I think I want to have sex now. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2007): No you should no hav sex with this man because if the polic find out who had sex with you, he will go in to jail.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2007): hey im 15 I had sex when i was 11 with my boyfriend thst was 12 I thought it was great I had so much fun we did it in the school toilets
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2006): I think you shouldn't aswell. I think you should wait until you are absolutely 100% sure but if you were 100% sure then why are you on the site asking that question.
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reader, Will1000 +, writes (20 August 2006):
 To be honest, I don't think you should, I've got a friend with exactly the same problem and I'll tell you the same thing, I don't think you should, you're too young and well...is it worth it? It doesn't sound as though you'll think it's right and if that's the case then it's not a good idea...remember whatever anyone says IT IS ALL ABOUT YOU if YOU don't want to do it then YOU don't have to..don't get forced into ANYTHING W1000
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2006): no i honestly don't think you should it really hurts and yu will bleed it won't be a very pleasent experience for you hold back and of this doesn't help then make sure you use protection, the best protection is absonence
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2006): hun if i was you i would wait intill older and sure its what you want i had sex when was only 13 and now 16 not much diffrence but now i with someone and its serious and my past just about finishedus also i wish i had waited intill i was 100% sure.hun if u r 100% and dont think you will wish you hadnt then go for it but if you are even 99% dont. good luck tell us how you got on xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2006): 14? That's pretty young. In fact, it's too young.
Great advice from the others.
99.9% chance you won't know this guy in a few years [or months] is it really worth it?
If you do, whenever you tell people in the future how old you were when you lost your virginity you'll have to get used to a disapproving look as they think "slut" to themselves.
Saying no to a guy is a great way to see if they actually care about you whatsoever. And if not - don't worry about it 'cos when you do meet someone who cares, it will mean a lot more to the pair of you.
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reader, SXYBB91 +, writes (13 August 2006):
i think u should make ur bf wait to make sure he isnt just useing u for sex and dont let him persuade u into it i wanted to give my bf everything he wanted and my first time wasnt that specail. u should do it wen ur ready and make sure it is romantic dim the lights do a bit of fourplay with him get him turned on really bad get him to turn u on u get what i mean. only have sex with him if ur certain u are ready and make sure it is specail and romantic.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (12 August 2006):
 If you think of it as "having sex" and not making love then you really shouldn't do it just yet. I agree with the aunts who told you to hang on to your gift of virginity. At your age the guys are pretty fickle and he may dump you as soon as he gets into your pants. Hold off and see if he stays in the relationship with you if you don't hit the hay. If he truly loves you he will. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2006): When I was 14 me and my boyfriend were in a similar situation, I decided to wait until I was 15, and I believe it was the right decision. I'm 18 now, which doesn't seem much older on paper. But although I know it doesn't seem like it, you will mature and change as a person, and you'll realise when you are older how young 14 actually is to be commiting to something like that. It is also very unlikely that you and your current boyfriend will remain together forever, and you'll have to consider that the fact that you had sex with him could come back to haunt you when you break up. He might tell his friends and they could get the wrong impression about you..I'd also like to warn you how horrible it can be when your parents find out that you're having sex, it really does change a family dynamic. I guess I'm just saying think about it very carefully and I'm advising that you wait, if you were sure enough about having sex you wouldn't have needed to post this thread.
There are tons more guys out there, better guys out there if he doesn't understand. Good luck and be safe!
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reader, bonym  +, writes (11 August 2006):
 My dear, if you are in doubt dont do something you may regret. I would be inclined to say you are way too young and I believe you are, but when I say things like that, people think I am lecturing them, but I am trying to warn you, not lecture you thats all. I personally would wait, having sex very young can cause major issues in later life, but ultimtaely whatever advice I give you, the choice is yours, I am not going to tell you to have sex, I think its irresponsible to encourage an underage girl to have sex, but the choice is yours. xXx
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reader, katzkitten +, writes (11 August 2006):
 im also 14 and have been in a similar situation only i wasnt going out with the guy he was a close friend. i said no for about 3 or 4 months, but then he started sayin things like im gna find sum1 else so i agreed as i really fancied and admittedly still do. About two months ago we had the chance but we didnt have any condoms so we did other stuff instead. this was to prove to him that i was interested.but you no what he still went n got sum1 else! i was gutted but also soooo glad i didnt have sex with him that day. just think. at an age like this chances are you wont last long but i may be wrong.my friends sister waited till she was 17 then did it and she engaged to the guy now. but it depends on what you want. 1 man forever? alot of them? or a few then 1 to stay with? Only you can make the desicion but remember protection whatever you choose! Good Luck
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Emz
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2006): Hiya, I am also a 14 year old girl (nearly 15) with a boyriend and although we have been together for only a couple of months he has mentioned sex. Even though I feel he is the right person and we are incredibly close I dont want to loose my virginity just yet. My advice to you would be wait. If you really do feel you need to become more physical maybe try other things such as fingering or giving head like most other teens do instead of the full blown thing. You only live once so make your 1st experience a special and close one. hope this kinda helped. xxx
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reader, Amethyst +, writes (11 August 2006):
 Your virginity is the greatest gift that you could possibly give your husband, whether or not he saved his for you. Sex isn't something that you should take so lightly. Sex should only be done to express your love, and commitment to your partner, and 14 is NOT a good age to start. Think of the risks! You could get pregnant, get an STD, get AIDS, it's just not worth the risks! Besides, if he's pressuring you to have sex, here's a question: How many others did he ask and receive? Are you ready to confess to your parents that you had sex, and now you're pregnant? Do you think he's mature enough (or even old enough) to take responsibility, get a job, and stick with a lifetime commitment? If so... then it's your choice. Choose wisely.Also, you're just around the age of puberty. That's still moist tender tissue, so it'll be more pain and bleeding than "fun." Well..... for you. If he's worth giving it to, he'll wait.And being a virgin now a days is something so rare, be out of the ordinary!! Virginity = bragging rights!! :DHey, I'll brag, I'm a 16 and a half year old virgin! I have met the man I will give it to, after we get married. He's already working for a place for us as we speak.
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reader, peachykeen +, writes (11 August 2006):
NOT a good idea. You are way too young to be thinking about having sex!
Think about it this way - if you start having sex now, at age 14 because your boyfriend wants you to...then how many other boyfriends will you have by the time you are 18 who also wanted sex? You shouldn't be so eager to give away something so personal.
When guys have multiple partners, they are celebrated for it, yet what do people call girls with many sex partners? Do you really want to become known for having sex? At this age, I'm sure he will brag to his friends, and when you two are no longer together, any other guy that has heard you "give it out" will try to date you for that reason.
It's not worth it so young.
Do yourself a favor and wait!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2006): i would say wait. you can only lose it once, and only to one person. so make sure it's a person you want to remember for the rest of your life. because i guarantee you will always carry a piece of him with you. anyway, just make the right decision. the one that's best for YOU. don't let him persuade you in any way. if you do it, do it only because you want to.
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