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writes: I love my siste in law what can I do?I was married 7 years ago and I am 30 now I have a son and love my wife.But I have 3 sisters in law but I feel love to one of them she is 22 now.I find this love when I feel her watching me and every time I see her , I find her eyes watching me. Also I feel so lovely and sexy feel to her. We send SMS together and with this way , we transfer our love in hide mode.She comes to me very closly some times and I can touch her body.This feels so nice to me.Please say we have the same feelings? Is it ok I start any relation with her. I like her and she said she loves me too.
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reader, leeghaderi  +, writes (15 November 2009):
ive got the same problem.im married but im in love with my sister in law.i dont know what to do? i cant stop thinking about her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2008): This is so difficult. I struggle with the same situation. My wife's younger sister is 24, and an incredibly confident, motivated, and beautiful young lady. She is single, and has no love interest right now. I do care for my wife, but I'm afraid that I have never loved her (in the feeling sense, although I show her love in action); I never had butterflies about her. My wife is a good person, but I am not overly attracted to her physically, nor even personally. Looking back, I believe the reason I ended up with her is because she was a good friend, specifically at a time when I needed to confide in someone. I probably should have never let it go past friendship, but oh, she was persistent and determined to marry me, and I felt so terrible for letting her down when she had been such a good friend to me. We have no children, she still loves me, although I still struggle to 'feel' the emotions. It is difficult for me because her sister and I have so many little things in common. We truly are two peas in a pod. We find the same things funny, adventurous, moving, and peculiar. She and my wife are best friends. I know that on this fact alone, nothing could ever transpire. But I will say that this is true: If in old age, we each lose our spouses first, I would certainly attempt a courtship with her. Few people make me want to be a better human being. She certainly does, and in this, I know that I must act righteously so as to never love her beyond kind words, friendship, and embraces of gentle decency that will never attempt to dishonor a vow I made to my wife before God, and her sister as a witness. To show love to my SIL means to show true commitment to my wife that will be an example to my SIL of a quality she should seek in a future husband.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2007): She tries to kiss me when we are away from the others. One time while the others were having breakfast, I went upstairs and she greeted me in just her panties and braless in a loose t-shirt, with her 36-D's defying gravity for my eyes. She wanted some fun. Well, I gave her a quick kiss. I know she hungers for me. It is not easy, but she is not in a relationship because guys don't want her to manipulate them. So I see that clearly. Sex is sex. Love is something you build over time with care and devotion.
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reader, Maxfana +, writes (18 December 2006):
Maxfana is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh...yes your feel is same me. We both love SIL
Can you say how you handel your feel and enjoy of relation with her.
Could you say Love her? or you feel she love you too.
I feel my SIL love me too , but she can't say to me because of our family relation. Same meeee
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2006): Trust me. It is the feeling of love that one can't control. It is obvious that it is the wrong thing to do to fall in love with your own SIL but how can you control your feeling? especially the feeling of love. I am in the same situation and trust me it is love, the feeling of having butterflies. That is when you know you are madly in love. I am happily married with 3 kids but my wife's sister is just too hot and so pretty that I just can't keep my mind of her. I am not looking for a sexual relationship but just a person where I want to talk to and obviously for me to look at. She is the most beautiful woman I find and with a explosive and dynamic personality...
The common sense for everyone else is to comment it as such "don't do it", "immoral", "stupid if you do it" etc. but the fact of the matter is it is very easy to say so but when you are in in, you will realize what I meant. It is not as easy as one thought.
I am crazy about my sister in law. The feeling gets stronger and stronger everyday. I must say I am madly in love with her!!!
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reader, Maxfana +, writes (29 September 2006):
Maxfana is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAny way , I love her. I can't control my heart
I enjoy when I touch her hand and talk her. I feel happy
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reader, danno75420 +, writes (24 August 2006):
I must agree, and i'm in a similar situation. Regardless of HOW you may feel, thebottom line is some people you can never be with. I'm VERY attracted to my SIL, and we are VERY close. We know things about eachother our spouses will never know, and speak about the most personal issues to eachother. We flirt on occaision and we've both made it VERY clear that if we weren't brother/sister in law's...we would have an unbelievalble time, but alas...Nothing COULD ever come of it. Even a one time thing could open up a whole can of worms :/ The feelings would only get stronger and you would have to live an even bigger lie. Just be happy you have someone that cares for you, and vice versa I guess. It's hard, especialy when things aren't that great with your current spouse, but remember, a REAL relationship with her is impossible, if for no other reason than the family. Keep it a fantasy!!!
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reader, bonym +, writes (19 August 2006):
 Before I even read Babygirl's response the same three words came into mind as she wrote but let me put it another way just as efective.
ABSOLUTELY HELL NO. Why would you even ask if its ok to start a relationship with the sister of your wife? Do you honestly expect any decent thinking person so encourage adultery? My friend, please think long and hard about what you have written, it really defies belief. What is the current situation with your wife, are you separated temporarily, do you even love her? What is the 411 with the 2 of you's? Friend, listen to me, dont start playing with flames, thre heat will consume and destroy you. Think about what you are doing. xXx
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (18 August 2006):
 You ask "Is it ok I start any relation with her" the answer is NO. Now go take a nice long cold shower.
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reader, Lostandalone +, writes (18 August 2006):
 I agree fully with babygirl and you two are playing with fire. You will do more harm than good. By even contemplating leaving your wife for her sister is totally selfish. Real men do what they must not always what they want. Be man and leave her be.
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