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writes: I'm married and I do love my husband,but there's a man that lives next door to me that I have been attracted to for a few years and just in the past months I have felt as though I would like for there to be more, I get vibes from him that he's interested but he too is married. I don't know what to do or how to fix these feelings I know if there was an option for me to be with him I would please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, sweetdreams +, writes (14 August 2006):
sweetdreams is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for your help, I know you are right and there are kids on both side. This is something I will have to really work on and its hard since we live right next store to each other and the sad thing is that I'm friends with his wife, my heart aches everytime I see him I will keep you updated, thanks again.
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reader, Italie  +, writes (11 August 2006):
 Hi. I REALLY would recommend that you dont go there with your neighbour. I know its what you want now and i know it all seems so exciting but soon that turns into hurt. There are 4 of you in this decision plus any kids involved and WITHOUT A DOUBT at least one of you will get really hurt. It's not worth it.I am in a long term relationship and i recently started seeing a married man because we were instantly attracted to each other and were both flattered. The problem is we didnt think about where it would lead. It is not possible to continue the rest of your lives with your spouses and have the affair on the side. It will have to end sometime either by leaving your spouses for each other or by a spouse finding out and blowing the whole thing out of the water. You can NEVER keep these things a secret for long and the hurting of yourself or an innocent party is just too much of a risk to take. Believe me, i have just reached this point in the last few days and it's horrible. I am hurting because I cant see my 'fling' and as a result cant act normally at home, therefore my boyfriend knows something is not right so we now argue at home. Please trust me, it's a terrible, terrible thing to go through and you should avoid it if you can. Yeah its great and exciting at the beginning but that CANT and doesnt last forever. I know its hard to resist but you really should.xx
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (10 August 2006):
 Whatever you do DO NOT GIVE INTO THOSE baser lusts. Take the high road and focus on your husband. If you don't I guarantee you'll regret it. When those feelings come over you, go take a cold shower then hunt up the hubby. Good luck.
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reader, unclerich +, writes (10 August 2006):
if your unhappy with your marriage try and fix it rather then cheating it doesn't solve nothing at all the problem is wiv in.lust is a very powerful tool!don't cave in u could lose everything 4 a affair is it really worth it??
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