I'm 13 and pregnant! please help me!
Q. Hi. I am Samantha and im in a terrible situation.... I think I'm pregnant. I'm only 13. I have missed my period for about 2 months, and i am really scared. There are 2 possible fathers to this baby... I have not told either of them... What should I ...
A. 19 August 2009: Pick up a couple tests at the dollar store. If you are indeed pregnant then you have no choice but to tell your parents. Sorry for your lost fun filled, foot loose and fancy free teenage years. So sad.... (read in full...)
Why do I burn after sex?
Q. I'm 16 and ii been haveing sex with my boyfriend WITHOUT a condom and we have sex 10 times a day so i was wondering why my pravit part burns after we finish ???...
A. 18 August 2009: Once school starts I'm sure you won't find the time or opportunity to have sex 10 times a day. That will take care of your "pravit" problem.... (read in full...)
The deadline for telling his wife has come and gone. How do I tell her anonymously?
Q. I have been carrying on an affair with a married man. He is going to leave his wife, I do believe that. The thing is, the original timeline for him leaving her has already come and gone. Circumstances have just naturally happened that have caused ...
A. 17 August 2009: I'm with the goodwoman, what makes you think the wife doesn't already have an inkling at least that her husband is cheating? He's probably done it before and a wife can usually tell. Go ahead and tell her, I think you'll be very surprised at the ... (read in full...)
I think I'm just the trophy wife!
Q. Hi, my husband has been having a few problems regarding his ex wife, I think he is still in love with her and I’m just here as the trophy wife. If she asks for anything he gives into her and I’m left with no opinion on anything. I don’t think I can ...
A. 17 August 2009: Lots more info needed...are there children involved? Did her cheat on her with you? Does he feel guilty about their divorce? What sort of unreasonable demands does she make?... (read in full...)
Would there be a problem with a 19 year old going out with a 15 year old?
Q. Well, I met this girl at a party I recently went to. We had a good laugh and joke plus a nice talk together, cuddle and kiss. Last night I took her to the cinema to watch a film she wanted to see, paid for her and everything including picking her up ...
A. 17 August 2009: How do HER parents feel about you dating their daughter? I would never allow one of my daughters to date a 19 year old when they were only 15.... (read in full...)
Pregnant and the father wont accept responsibility....will he come around when the baby is born?
Q. In a way I would like to make things work out between my ex boyfriend and I. I found out I was pregnant with his child at 14 1/2 weeks, after we were no longer together. It was always an on and off relationship so I did not expect him to have such ...
A. 14 August 2009: I think you had best start planning on raising this child on your own. By law he will have to pay child support but it doesn't force him to have anything else to do with the child. If you don't expect any more from him then you won't be disappointed ... (read in full...)
Is a month too soon to tell someone you love them?
Q. Me and this girl i met a month ago have been talking a lot almost every day. well 2 days ago she out of the blue tells me she loves me. I'm like huh? she said i love you. i love everything about u. i like her but can't say love. Is a month too soon ...
A. 12 August 2009: Not at your age, girls tend to be rather dramatic in their teens. Don't say those words until you can mean them.... (read in full...)
After dating, this younger fellow,he tells me he wants to be with a woman closer to his age! Advise appreciated
Q. 3 months ago I met a lovely man and we had an almost instant connection. We shared the same intellectual level, and revelled in each others company. Our friendship deepened and we became intimate. The big problem was that he is 50 and I am a young ...
A. 12 August 2009: I'd say you did the right thing. It sounds like your relationship is pretty much over.... (read in full...)
I was told my BF of 3 years lives with his wife and kids
Q. [Mod note - two questions merged] If I was told my bf of 3 year lives with his wife ands kids and he says its not true. What do i do? How do I deal with my issues from my passed relationship its harming my new relationship... ...
A. 12 August 2009: You have a boyfriend for 3 years but you haven't any idea where he lives? That's whacked. Go to his house and check it out.... (read in full...)
Why is he putting so much effort into getting a rise out of me?
Q. SO here's a tough one: A month ago, the guy I was seeing (for two months) told me he started talking to his ex. After he told me that, I never responded- like with anger or sadness... nothing. I didn't want to feed his ego and I was really upset...
A. 12 August 2009: This isn't so tough. He's not interested. I don't think he's trying to get a rise out of you. Ignore and move on.... (read in full...)
Is this the start of any affair?
Q. I am confused about whether I am in a frienship or the beggining of a relationship as I have lost confidence and self- esteem . I am divorced with three children after my husband walked out on us. I have known a this guy as a friend for three years ...
A. 12 August 2009: You say your confidence and self-esteem are in the toilet right now...if you allow this married man into your life you will be flushing that toilet. Don't go there.... (read in full...)
I would just like opinions on this situation with my ex, please.
Q. I've written about my situation before - it keeps progressing. My ex and I have been talking/slept together.We broke up cos he was "no longer feeling it".It made no sense to me seein he was contacting/seeing me daily,made sure I met his fam etc ...
A. 12 August 2009: Being friends with someone you are romantically attracted to is a recipe for unhappiness. I'd probably would just get on with my life and let him work on his issues without you, at least for the time being.... (read in full...)
I would just like opinions on this situation with my ex, please.
Q. I've written about my situation before - it keeps progressing. My ex and I have been talking/slept together.We broke up cos he was "no longer feeling it".It made no sense to me seein he was contacting/seeing me daily,made sure I met his fam etc ...
A. 11 August 2009: You aren't still sleeping with him are you?... (read in full...)
We broke up and I'm lost without him! Any advice?
Q. i just broke up with my boyfriend yesterday and i truely thought we had something special. he told me we'd be together forever and he even knew when he was gonna propse. im lost without him, i know it sounds stupid but i just really need someone to ...
A. 11 August 2009: Aww Sweetie, I know it sucks to be dumped but most of us do at least once in our lives. Of course you are upset, I mean gee whiz it just happened yesterday! But each day gets a tiny bit better. Try to stay busy and keep your mind occupied. You'll be ... (read in full...)
My BF likes to kiss other people.
Q. My boyfriend is great we get along great but he's a heavy drinker (not an alcoholic). We've been dating for 7 months. He's a forgetful person, even more so when he drinks. He really lets lose and has fun when he's drunk but sometimes does things ...
A. 11 August 2009: What makes you think he's not alcoholic? If his behavior changes when he drinks then he may very well be one. What does he say is the reason he drinks so heavily? ... (read in full...)
Want to lose my virginity and the most likely candidate is a married man! Should I go for it?
Q. i grew up believing that virginity is the best gift u can offer to ur husband so up to now im still waiting for that lucky guy to come. but until when should i wait? im already 41 yrs old and still a virgin. there are times i wondered and curious ...
A. 11 August 2009: Out of the question, leave him alone. ... (read in full...)
How can I convince my mum and dad to allow me to spend time with my boyfriend alone?
Q. My mum and dad wont leave me and my boyfriend alone. Hes 17 and im 15. We do love each other. But were not aloud to be on our own in a house together and were not aloud upstairs. I want my mum and dad to stop worrying so much about it. I just want ...
A. 11 August 2009: It would make me very nervous seeing my daughter walk out the door and get into a car with a kid who has barely been driving a year. But I'd let her take the dog for a walk with the guy. Maybe you can ask your parents nicely and promise it would be ... (read in full...)
He told me he wants to be with me but I havent heard from him in days!
Q. I have this friend, we both want to be more than friends but we are taking it slowly, starting as friends and seeing if anything develops. there are two reasons for this 1) he is getting over a marriage breakup (6 months ago) and 2) i am already ...
A. 11 August 2009: Take care of your own marriage situation first. You have other fish to fry at this point in time, leave him alone. Do things the right way so you can look yourself in the mirror without cringing.... (read in full...)
I know he still loves me, what should I do?
Q. Hi, Im 23 and had been in a relationship for the past three years. A month ago he told me it was over through a text. Over the past three years Me and him had been through so much and talked everyday and night. I was heart broken that he could ...
A. 11 August 2009: I'll tell you what I would do: I'd tell him to piss or get off the pot. If he loves you and misses you why is he with her? Don't allow any wiggle room. If he is going to stay with her then you don't want him texting you anymore. Then I'd get busy ... (read in full...)
I fell hard for my therapist.
Q. Hi, I went to a psychotherapist last week and when I was filling out the questionnaire in the waiting room he came in and it took me about 5 seconds to fall for him. I immediately knew I was attracted to this man. I even thought about leaving an...
A. 11 August 2009: Get a new therapist, this one causes you too much distraction and they aren't cheap so you need to be able to focus and get your money's worth. More bang for the bucks so to speak.... (read in full...)
I'm scared I might be pregnant!
Q. im on my period . im eatong less and im scared about being pregnant , i barely sleep . could this be worrying about stuff so much or what ? HELP!...
A. 11 August 2009: If you are having your period then I doubt very much that you are pregnant. If you have had the stomach flu for three days then why not get checked out by a doctor and ask him about both things. We are not doctors.... (read in full...)
I've been cheating on my wife because she won't blow me.
Q. Hi. my problem is i love blow jobs so so much but my wife doesn't like to give them (she says it hurts her mouth too much cos I'm quite big, which i don't think i am) i have even on a few occasions gone else where for them but would like to receive ...
A. 11 August 2009: I hope she blows you off permanently but not before she gives you a blow upside your head. You are going to end up being a very lonely old man I'm a thinking.... (read in full...)
She's a friend I like a lot..but she doesn't have much spare time to date...what the best way to approach this?
Q. hello I am writing as I need advice on my current situation, i deeply care for a friend and would like to hook up with her as more then just good friends, my problem is that she is a carer for her disabled mother who suffers from pain iss...
A. 11 August 2009: Maybe bring a movie over to watch with her at her Mom's house? Hopefully Mom will be resting comfortably in another room.... (read in full...)
He's dumped me twice before and now again! How do I get things back on track?
Q. My boyfriend of 6 years has just broke up with me due to alot of problems. He's now saying he doesn't have enough feelings to be in the relationship with me. He's done this twice before so how do i get things back on track?...
A. 11 August 2009: Are you sure you want to get a relationship, one that if fraught with alot of problems, back on track?... (read in full...)
I've found a girl that I really like but I don't know if she likes me back!
Q. Hi my names Chris and I live in American. Maine, to be more specific. Now, about three months ago I met a girl at the campground that I go to. Well technicaly I met her before then but we didn't talk much before then. Anyway, I fell for her the ...
A. 11 August 2009: Next time you are at the campground, ask her if she would like to take a walk with you. Once you two start talking to each other you will be able to find out out if she likes you. By the way, Maine is very beautiful in the summer.... (read in full...)
Want to lose my virginity and the most likely candidate is a married man! Should I go for it?
Q. i grew up believing that virginity is the best gift u can offer to ur husband so up to now im still waiting for that lucky guy to come. but until when should i wait? im already 41 yrs old and still a virgin. there are times i wondered and curious ...
A. 11 August 2009: Of course you shouldn't lose your virginity to a married man. Are you nuts? If you are so curious to know what sex feels like, I'm sure there is some single guy in the Philippines that would be more than happy to educate you. Find him.... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm being pushed away by my friends because of a silly argument on holiday!
Q. I'm really not sure what to do anymore, i went on holiday with 3 other girls 2 of which i haven't known that well. but i get on like a house on fire with 1 of them even tho we haven't been friends that long, for this i'll call her beth. the 2 that ...
A. 11 August 2009: Wow you really need to chill out a tad. You have some very major esteem issues you have to deal with before you can be friends with anybody. There are all kinds of self-esteem books and articles available online but perhaps a therepist would be the ... (read in full...)
He put his penis inside me. Am I a virgin?
Q. I was on my summer vacation and I was fooling around with the cutest guy and we got naked and all. He fingered me and one thing led to another and umm he put his penis in my vagina (his penis was maybe 9 cm long, I dunno and I'm a virgin, or at ...
A. 11 August 2009: Sometimes I sing and dance around my house, that doesn't make me Madonna. You are no longer a virgin.... (read in full...)
Trying to survive the family
Q. My entire family (sisters and their husbands/partners, nieces, nephew, father, etc.) is descending on me in a few days. There has been some tension because of how my mother's last days/months were handled, and other things. Now we will bury her ashe...
A. 11 August 2009: They will be leaving soon...They will be leaving soon...They will be leaving soon....They will be leaving soon...... (read in full...)
I need help in my decision to lose my virginity and have a baby!
Q. hey... im a 15 year old girl. and i jus wana no wat people think and if they have any advice.. ive been in a relationship with this boy for jus over a month. and i reli wana lose mi virginity and have a baby!! i no people are goin 2 say im ...
A. 10 August 2009: Amen Sista!... (read in full...)
I can't deal with the affair I'm having with my teacher knowing I will lose him one day
Q. Am in emotional turmoil. Please don't pass moral judgment on me because I know that I will seem wrong. I lost my virginity the other day to my married former teacher. We have the most intense, intimate, amazing friendship I know I will ever expe...
A. 10 August 2009: Pompeii springs to mind....... (read in full...)
I feel men lack a moral compass
Q. I have issues with men and am not really sure what else can be done. I dont like feeling this way and dont hate men but I simply feel that the majority of them lack a moral compass. I look around the world and see rapes and murders daily on the news ...
A. 10 August 2009: q often has his tongue firmly implanted in his cheek. If one reads his responses out loud, they can make excellent sense and are quite melodious.... (read in full...)
I can't deal with the affair I'm having with my teacher knowing I will lose him one day
Q. Am in emotional turmoil. Please don't pass moral judgment on me because I know that I will seem wrong. I lost my virginity the other day to my married former teacher. We have the most intense, intimate, amazing friendship I know I will ever expe...
A. 10 August 2009: I wonder how hie wife will feel about her life when she finds out about your little "trysts".... (read in full...)
One of my boyfriend's friends loves him!
Q. A few days ago I found out that one of my boyfriend's friends are, apparently, 'in love' with him. And that he may like her back. I love him so much, and that thought is making me go crazy. I can't stand the thought of him being with someone else. ...
A. 10 August 2009: I know you don't want to hear this but it's true non-the-less: boyfriends at your age come and go and that's exactly the way it should be. It's how you learn what traits you like and what ones you don't like in guys so when you are much older you ... (read in full...)
How can I stop wanting him back so much?
Q. I was in a relationship for close to a year. It was long distance, but we were making plans to move in with each other and my boyfriend had proposed. I accepted his proposal and we were happy. Being 18 and a senior in high school I could not go down ...
A. 10 August 2009: What are you a yo-yo? I'd cut that string right fast and in a hurry if I were you. He's treating you like last week's meatloaf.... (read in full...)
I'm falling for my cousin...but he has a girlfriend! What should I do?
Q. I slept with my first cousin about 3 weeks ago.. i then started to care for him very much and he the same. i dont know what to do bc we text eachother and talk everyday. it is becoming a long distance relationship, bc he lives 2 hours away. I do ...
A. 10 August 2009: He'll leave his girlfriend if he wants to, he'll be with you if he wants to be. Just don't let him use you and that's exactly what this sounds like to me.... (read in full...)
Are there risks in marrying a man whose never even kissed anyone else?
Q. Hello I was just wondering if there is any risk in marrying a man who hasn't even kissed or been with another woman sexually? Is there more likelihood for cheating and/or divorce? Thank you =)...
A. 10 August 2009: Threesomes and you aren't even married yet? Nice breeze from that flag waving in the wind, isn't it?!... (read in full...)
I'm In a terribly sad place in my marriage, and want to leave, but I don't know if it's the right thing to do
Q. I am in a terribly sad place and am looking for any advice from people who may have been through something similar. I was married in 1991 when I was 24 to a woman that is a few years older. Since then we have had 2 wonderful kids and lived a ...
A. 10 August 2009: I can't say whether she'll change or not but if you separate for awhile it may put some things in perspective for her as well as yourself. I wouldn't consider it to be walking out on your marriage just yet. And if you do decide to dissolve your ... (read in full...)
How do I stop wishing he would come back to me?
Q. My boyfriend and I graduated high school two months ago, and though we're not going to the same college, we had never really discussed what was going to happen with our relationship this fall. We're both virgins, and recently he started pressuring ...
A. 10 August 2009: You'll be surprised how your feelings about all this will change once you get to college. Just hang on until then sweetheart. You'll have the best time in your life, you'll meet so many fascinating people, learn so many fascinating things. It will ... (read in full...)
My married lover went back to his wife when he said he wouldn't!
Q. I'm in love with a married man. he was thrown out of his home on several occasions. 4 out 7 times he came to live with me. so the last time he said to me he wasn't going back. he did!!! I'm so hurt over it but knows I got to move on ! please help me ...
A. 10 August 2009: Here it is in a nutshell, 99% of cheating married men will always go back to their wives if they'll take the losers back. There are your odds, now what are you going to do about it?... (read in full...)
Do guys prefer slim girls to chubby girls?
Q. i wonder if guys like skinny girls more than chubby or fat ones?like one day it was this guy and he was in the restaurant sitting down then he will look at all the skinny girls and say hi and stuff.but when a fat girl went pass he didnt say ...
A. 10 August 2009: Yep and I'm for world peace too.... (read in full...)
Are there risks in marrying a man whose never even kissed anyone else?
Q. Hello I was just wondering if there is any risk in marrying a man who hasn't even kissed or been with another woman sexually? Is there more likelihood for cheating and/or divorce? Thank you =)...
A. 10 August 2009: It's all a matter of honor and integrity, both of which are not dependant on sexual prowess or the number of sexual encounters. They are character traits that are very valuable and crucial to good marriages.... (read in full...)
I'm In a terribly sad place in my marriage, and want to leave, but I don't know if it's the right thing to do
Q. I am in a terribly sad place and am looking for any advice from people who may have been through something similar. I was married in 1991 when I was 24 to a woman that is a few years older. Since then we have had 2 wonderful kids and lived a ...
A. 10 August 2009: You need to separate from your wife for a while. It would be good for both of you to have some time apart to think things over. Consider it to be a trial separation if that will make it easier. It may end up being permanent but I think you will both ... (read in full...)
How can I convince my mum and dad to allow me to spend time with my boyfriend alone?
Q. My mum and dad wont leave me and my boyfriend alone. Hes 17 and im 15. We do love each other. But were not aloud to be on our own in a house together and were not aloud upstairs. I want my mum and dad to stop worrying so much about it. I just want ...
A. 10 August 2009: The sister is right, your parents are just doing their job. You should be grateful you have such caring parents and if you don't see it that way right at the moment, some day I know you will. Enjoy the security they are giving you.... (read in full...)
Trying to survive the family
Q. My entire family (sisters and their husbands/partners, nieces, nephew, father, etc.) is descending on me in a few days. There has been some tension because of how my mother's last days/months were handled, and other things. Now we will bury her ashe...
A. 7 August 2009: When my family decends on me I find solice in drugs and alcohol. Just kidding, sort of... Anyway, I recommend you just keeping saying to yourself, "they will be leaving soon...they will be leaving soon". Hang in there, dear.... (read in full...)
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