Are any women actually trustworthy?
Q. I'm losing faith in humanity in general and myself in particular here. A little more than five weeks ago, my fiancée dumped me. I'm 25, she's 21, and we had been together for over 3 years, engaged for over one year. We were making good progress pl...
A. 29 October 2009: Just stay as visible as you can and you'll meet girls. Glad you found a new friend, can't have too many of those.... (read in full...)
Should I have a child while I can? Or is he just not Mr. Right?
Q. i met my partner 18 yrs ago when i was 19 and he was 43, i realise this is a very large age gap but we had a happy relationship for about 15 years, the only problem we had was my desire to have a child, it always seem to cause a row if i brought up ...
A. 7 October 2009: If you realize and can handle the fact that you may end up being a single parent then go ahead. ... (read in full...)
Is he really going to leave his wife for me? Or is he just saying the things I want to hear?
Q. Hi, I really need some advice on my situation. Have been seeing a married man for 2 and half years and both in love with each other and see each other lots, had few holidays and weekends away etc. He has 2 children under 18 but not babies a...
A. 7 October 2009: Listen to the kitten. He's stringing you along and will always come up with an excuse why he can't leave his wife "right at this point in time but definitely in the future". If you keep buying it you will end up all alone looking back on a very ... (read in full...)
Does he like me, or just the idea of someone liking him?
Q. Theres this guy who works with my dad that i think is really cute and funny and i think he knows i like him but he never seems interested. Hes normally very shy but recently hes been talking to me on the internet and hes asked for my number and he ...
A. 7 October 2009: Well you made the first baby step by asking him to the party. Next up you will just have to find the courage to speak to him. Take a deep breath and walk over and say hi. Things will be much easier once the ice is broken. You can do it, Sister. Be ... (read in full...)
How can I get over my shyness?
Q. How do I increase my self-confidence? I was valedictorian of my high school and captain of the football team, but I can't help feeling like I'm a huge loser. I mean, I've never been on a date, never had a girlfriend, didn't go to prom, never held ...
A. 7 October 2009: Do you have a girl in mind at the moment? If not join a club or organization and start meeting people, people you have common interests with. Once a lady catches your eye you will have to take a deep breath and ask her if she would like to grab a ... (read in full...)
He's mad at me...should I make first contact or let him do it?
Q. When your guy is really mad at you .... Do you think the no contact thing is the best way to go? is it best to wait for him to call even when you were at fault? (and you know he is angry) Or do you think you should call and push for resolut...
A. 7 October 2009: That's fine q, time to snap out of it.... (read in full...)
He's mad at me...should I make first contact or let him do it?
Q. When your guy is really mad at you .... Do you think the no contact thing is the best way to go? is it best to wait for him to call even when you were at fault? (and you know he is angry) Or do you think you should call and push for resolut...
A. 7 October 2009: After reading your follow up, I think I'd wait for him to call. Something is fishy about his not returning your initial calls. Add in the fact that you had been away and he in a hurry to meet up with you or talk to you...yeah I'd definitely wait for ... (read in full...)
10 Things that Women should never allow any Man to talk her into...
Q. Men can be pretty persuasive. They've been known to talk women into almost every poor situation imaginable under the disguise of love. If I've said it once, I've said it a thousand times that when a man starts a sentence with "If you love me", what ...
A. 7 October 2009: How about these:
Never let a man talk you into learning:
How to change a tire...you'll be the one doing it from now on.
How to change the oil in your car...you'll be the one doing it from now on.
Small engine repairs (ie lawn mower)...you'll ... (read in full...)
Torn between two men - what do I do?
Q. I have been married for almost 20 years.I began an affair with my first true love 6 months ago. I can't continue like this. I am so torn. I don't want to hurt either, I love both. The person I am having the affair with is out of state. We have ...
A. 7 October 2009: I think you should knock off the nonsense with the ex-boyfriend and focus on your marriage. Your husband is the one you vowed to honor and cherish. An affair is not going to fill any void in your life, it will only cause more problems and pain. ... (read in full...)
I think I'm depressed, and my doctor won't help me. Help!
Q. Hi, I'm a 20 year old female and I believe I'm suffering from depression. I'm constantly tired and just don't want to get out of bed. I have no energy to do anything anymore and I'm beginnin to really hate my job (think this is making matters ...
A. 7 October 2009: I'd go to another doctor. It sounds like depression to me and anxiety attacks can be very debilitating. Make an appointment with a different doctor, this is a very common ailment and there are a variety of medications and treatments for it. Do it ... (read in full...)
He's mad at me...should I make first contact or let him do it?
Q. When your guy is really mad at you .... Do you think the no contact thing is the best way to go? is it best to wait for him to call even when you were at fault? (and you know he is angry) Or do you think you should call and push for resolut...
A. 7 October 2009: Depends on what you did to make him mad.... (read in full...)
Could a woman please translate what she's telling me here?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for about 9 months and have grown to love her alot. We are opposites in some ways ( I'm a yuppie. She's a hippie) but our core values are the same. We both adore animals. We both love cooking and baking. We both see ...
A. 7 October 2009: Well I'm a mere female and I haven't a clue what she means. She was pretty darn vague. See if you can get her to truly explain what's bugging her.... (read in full...)
I look great now - is that the only reason he wants to be with me?
Q. Hello, I'd love to hear your opinions. I'm 37 and have been divorced 5 years with three great kids. Since my divorce my self esteem has been pretty low and I ended up putting on 3 stone in weight. Two years ago I became friends with a man 8 years ...
A. 7 October 2009: Maybe he just needed some time, I'd say go for it. Have some fun.... (read in full...)
We are at a standstill. Now what?
Q. Me and my 24 year-old girlfriend have been dating for 3 years. We have now reached a point where I want us to get our own place together, but she still wants to stay at her parents' place. Last year she said if I got my place first then she w...
A. 7 October 2009: Maybe she feels she needs to be married before she lives with a guy. I noticed you didn't mention anything about getting married, have you two discussed this at all?... (read in full...)
Should I move on or email him? It's an online, LDR.
Q. I have been talking to a 45 year old man (I'm 23) over the internet for about 5 months now. He lives about 13 hours away from me and I plan on moving to the state he lives in, in about 3 months (for college). Hes not married (is divorced). So we ...
A. 6 October 2009: You are playing with fire. What kind of pictures are you sending him? How do you know he's telling you the truth about himself? He's one year short of being TWICE your age and don't buy the crap about age being just a number, that only works when ... (read in full...)
Is it weird that I like being fat?
Q. I used to be very skinny. When I was a teenager and went on holiday I would eat and drink loads and not gain weight. Sometimes I would lose weight. Over the past couple of years this has stopped. A couple of years ago I took a year off from wo...
A. 6 October 2009: It's refreshing to have a female post that she actually likes her body. It sure doesn't happen very often.... (read in full...)
Can you get pregnant from grinding?
Q. My boyfriend and I were naked and grinding each other's genitals. He was hard, but he didn't release. I was in my second day of menstruation that time. He also didn't even enter me (we're both virgins). What are the chances that I'm pregnant?...
A. 6 October 2009: Grinding each other's genitals? That's a triple leg wrap for me, folks.... (read in full...)
Went through divorce, thought this guy was interested, now he's got a girlfriend! Did I misread him?
Q. Two years ago I agreed to allow my real estate broker (single) to join my team even though I thought I was a conflict of interest. I was married at the time but shortly afterward the broker began to flirt with me (i.e. checking me out and letting me ...
A. 6 October 2009: Looks like you did indeed misread him. Just curious, if this guy hadn't been in the picture, would it have made a difference in your marriage anyway? I mean you must have been unhappy or his attention wouldn't have been any big deal to you. So now ... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant?
Q. Hey all. my period was suppose to come over the weekend (i could really tell it was close) so on saturday night my bf and i had sex he did come inside me. suddenly all of the premenstrual pains stopped cud this mean that im pregnant coz i still ha...
A. 6 October 2009: I'm assuming you want to get pregnant, correct? I mean nobody has unprotected sex if they aren't looking forward to the patter of little feet, correct? You of course accounted for all the costs and responsibilities required in rearing a child so it ... (read in full...)
I know I can't ask him to stop having contact with her. Any suggestions?
Q. I am getting married very soon and currently my fiancé and I live apart due to selling houses etc. My fiancé has a close female friend whom he has known for over 15 years. I also know her as we all used to work together. My fiancé and her have ...
A. 6 October 2009: I assume she no longer stays over and sleeps in the same bed with him. Talking to her is one thing but I would insist that she no longer stays at his house if you aren't there. I think once you are married and living together things will improve ... (read in full...)
She wont let him see his baby if he stays with me!
Q. my boyfriend's ex recently gave birth to his baby and now she wants to get back with him. hes told her hes staying with me, but shes saying that as long as were together he cant see his baby!. ive stressed my opinion on how this unfair for both my ...
A. 5 October 2009: I assume your boyfriend is a teenager like yourself so he most likely can't afford a lawyer on his own but how do his parents feel about not being able to see the baby? Maybe they would be willingly to help with the cost of a lawyer.... (read in full...)
This married man has really got me confused big time.
Q. No moral judgements please it's to late for that. 30yrs ago i met a married man we had a 3yr affair,i moved away that ended it. now 6yrs ago we catch up again and we have started this all over again,he is still married i am not,the thing is i have a...
A. 5 October 2009: You said "but he seems to only want to be with me." It should read, but he only wants to be with me AND his wife. You also wish you could know what he feels about this, my guess is he feels things are just fine and dandy.... (read in full...)
I need advice about proceeding with my marriage plans.
Q. Dear Cupid: I have a dilemma. I recently got engaged to someone who I have been involved with for two years. To be honest, the person was involved in another relationship for a number of years when we got together but last year, things were ove...
A. 5 October 2009: My biggest fear is that if you let him off the the hook this time you are in essence giving him permission for this behavior in the future. If there are no repercussions for bad behavior then why not just carry on?... (read in full...)
How do I NOT creep him out?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for only about 2 months, but I have known him for about... 8-9 months. I have always liked him since I met him, I want to tell him i love him, but I don't want to creep him out or anything. I know that I love him ...
A. 2 October 2009: Just relax and enjoy your relationship, you don't need to profess your undying love at this point. Lighten up and have fun.... (read in full...)
Treats me like a queen for awhile and then turns into a monster
Q. I am married and my husband is a cheater and a liar. I been with him every since i was 16 and got married to him when i was 18 every since we have been dating he have been cheating on me. When i leave he comes to my house and beat on the door ...
A. 2 October 2009: You should leave, no ifs ands or buts. He sounds like a dangerous man even without adding in the cheating, you need to pack your bags and escape. He will continue to cheat and he will continue to beat you. Do it for your baby if you don't want to do ... (read in full...)
Is there any help for self inflicted heartache?
Q. How can I get over the girl I love? I met the perfect girl about 10 years ago at the age of 12 and instantly I was in love. Even though we were friendly and I knew she liked me, throughout the next few years I never once asked her out as I was extr...
A. 2 October 2009: I think you have put this "perfect" girl on a pedestal and you just can't see her feet of clay. You could dump your wonderful girlfriend and try to pursue this "perfect" girl but I think you would soon realize that all this perfection was pretty ... (read in full...)
Are any women actually trustworthy?
Q. I'm losing faith in humanity in general and myself in particular here. A little more than five weeks ago, my fiancée dumped me. I'm 25, she's 21, and we had been together for over 3 years, engaged for over one year. We were making good progress pl...
A. 2 October 2009: q has a very unique way of cheering up our most depressed and disillusioned posters. And his methods are also very effective, colorful certainly, but effective. See? Even our dear Illithid got a chuckle out of his answer. Thank you q for being you.... (read in full...)
The man I love wont leave his wife for me and I feel so lonely!
Q. The man I'm in love with never told me that he would leave his wife.He pays all my bills,rent and still gives me extra money but,I'm just so lonely.He doesn't spend time with me like he use to in the beginning.He has keys to my house so he comes ...
A. 1 October 2009: (whispering and looking both ways)....is she gone yet????... (read in full...)
Are any women actually trustworthy?
Q. I'm losing faith in humanity in general and myself in particular here. A little more than five weeks ago, my fiancée dumped me. I'm 25, she's 21, and we had been together for over 3 years, engaged for over one year. We were making good progress pl...
A. 1 October 2009: Aww Buddy it's just the pain from your recent break up that is causing all this bitterness and disillusionment. You are only 25 and only had two serious relationships, for crying out loud. Once your pain subsides you'll be able to get right back out ... (read in full...)
Why is he so bothered about remaining friends with me now that he has a new girlfriend?
Q. My ex and I finished about 3 weeks ago. He had admitted to having feelings for another girl so I ended it with him. We still kept in contact for a couple of weeks even talking about trying again. However he started going out with her a couple of ...
A. 1 October 2009: He may truly value you as a friend but he also may just want to string you along just in case his new relationship doesn't work out. Do what's best for YOU and YOUR best interests.... (read in full...)
Why does my husband feel the need to lie to me about silly little things?
Q. its been like 1 year for my marriage and now for few months i have come to my moms house for some work and i talk to my husband daily over phone and we chat online also but sometime he lies to me. Like, if i ask him what are you doing now he says ...
A. 1 October 2009: Maybe he thinks if he says he's on the computer you'll think he was surfing porn sites.... (read in full...)
Cheating-my husband knows, his wife knows, will our relationship go somewhere?
Q. I have been having an affair with a married man for 14 months my sister informed my husband of the affair last year and my husband confronted him but the relationship with my lover continued since then his wife had found texts on his phone from ...
A. 1 October 2009: Why are you asking us a question you should be asking the cheater? And let us know what he says, I'll bet it will be something along the lines of:
"I love you so much BUT I can't leave her just yet because of the kids" or
"I love you so much BUT... (read in full...)
Had to leave her due to accidental sex, want her back!
Q. i had a girl, because of an accidental sex i had 2 leave her. but now she's out and i'd like the first one back. (i dont know whats in her mind. what shall i do?...
A. 30 September 2009: Accidental sex? She's out now? Who is the first one? We need a translator.... (read in full...)
What is PMS?
Q. Does anyone know what PMS stands for ? I hear a lot of people saying it but i don't know what it means....
A. 30 September 2009: Probable Murder Suspect... (read in full...)
How to deal with this situation of possibly dating a co-worker
Q. Hello I was angry at a guy who is my colleague and did not talk to him because I thought he wasn't nice to me. Today the guy asked me:" to be friends and see where this will lead, also he said that we can meet each other outside our working plac...
A. 29 September 2009: All of you questions are testimonials for why people should NOT date co-workers. Sure when the dating is going fine then no problem but when things go sour you are stuck working with them every day. It is just a bad idea at the get go. You can try ... (read in full...)
What pubic hair design should I have for first time sex?
Q. Me and my Boy friend are planning to have sex for the very first time, at the moment i am a virgin and am ready to loose my virginity. And i do cut my pubic hair but i realli don't know how boys like it. boys do you like all pubic hair gone or a l...
A. 29 September 2009: heh heh okay which one of you nutty Mods picked this title?... (read in full...)
The man I love wont leave his wife for me and I feel so lonely!
Q. The man I'm in love with never told me that he would leave his wife.He pays all my bills,rent and still gives me extra money but,I'm just so lonely.He doesn't spend time with me like he use to in the beginning.He has keys to my house so he comes ...
A. 29 September 2009: You may find this hard to believe but there are other postings on this website that have nothing to do with cheating spouses and home wreckers. You really came here for some affirmation I guess and you just haven't gotten it and it pissed you off. ... (read in full...)
How do I cope with turning 30?
Q. I am stuggling about turning 30 this saturday. I dont know why but i cant get excited. Im kinda sad and feeing down about this situation. I guess a part of me doesnt want to grow up. I am so used to being in my 20s and im not looking forwa...
A. 29 September 2009: It's funny but I had a hard time with my 30th birthday too. In fact it was much harder than when I turned 40 or even 50. I don't know why either. Looking back, I actually enjoyed my 30's much more than my 20's so all of that dread was for nothing. ... (read in full...)
I feel like my ex is just using me now...how do I get over him?
Q. My ex broke up with me after 5 years together about 6 months ago. We had been together since I was 17. We've been sleeping together pretty much since we broke up. In the beginning he would say things like "You're a girl I'm thinking about marrying ...
A. 29 September 2009: Stop the sex, stop the calls and texting, in fact just stop everything with him. Stay busy, go out with friends, take a class, do some volunteer work, just try to keep your mind off him, whatever it takes. That's the only way to get over someone who ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my girlfriend's best friend!
Q. I am inlove with my girlfriends best friend and i realy don't know what to do. I once kiss her, which has makes me fall inlove with her more. What must i do?...
A. 29 September 2009: Your girlfriend has a lousy girlfriend and boyfriend, first off I got to say. Tell your girlfriend you want to break up and stop the goofing around behind her back. Show her some respect, after all she will most likely be losing a friend as well as ... (read in full...)
Why don't guys like to talk about feelings or their exs?
Q. why don't guys like to open up and talk about their ex or talk about feelings in general? My guy recently broke up with his girlfriend of 8 months (i think it was because of me and the fact it was a long distance relationship) but he still say...
A. 29 September 2009: Not all guys are like that but certainly many are. I am a respecter of a person's privacy however and sometimes it's just plain best to let the past stay in the past. Quit trying to pry, he'll tell you what he wants to tell you and when he's ready. ... (read in full...)
I'm obsessed with my teacher and its ruining both of our lives!
Q. For the past 2 years i have been obsessed with a female teacher and it is really affecting BOTH are lives. I think its an obsession not love, because i dont want to kiss her or anything like that- i just want to be with her all the time. I l...
A. 29 September 2009: She made the "ploice" story up which also makes me wonder whether she is "storking" her at all. Maybe this teacher is blessedly unware of all of this or at least can ignore it. ... (read in full...)
The man I love wont leave his wife for me and I feel so lonely!
Q. The man I'm in love with never told me that he would leave his wife.He pays all my bills,rent and still gives me extra money but,I'm just so lonely.He doesn't spend time with me like he use to in the beginning.He has keys to my house so he comes ...
A. 29 September 2009: I just love it when after a little dialogue, some people will show their true nature. Sad little person.... (read in full...)
I'm obsessed with my teacher and its ruining both of our lives!
Q. For the past 2 years i have been obsessed with a female teacher and it is really affecting BOTH are lives. I think its an obsession not love, because i dont want to kiss her or anything like that- i just want to be with her all the time. I l...
A. 28 September 2009: You should see the PM's she sent me, Uncle Phil! Sorry she's on your side of the pond, Buddy. Whew!... (read in full...)
I'm obsessed with my teacher and its ruining both of our lives!
Q. For the past 2 years i have been obsessed with a female teacher and it is really affecting BOTH are lives. I think its an obsession not love, because i dont want to kiss her or anything like that- i just want to be with her all the time. I l...
A. 28 September 2009: Why are you answering your own post?... (read in full...)
I'm obsessed with my teacher and its ruining both of our lives!
Q. For the past 2 years i have been obsessed with a female teacher and it is really affecting BOTH are lives. I think its an obsession not love, because i dont want to kiss her or anything like that- i just want to be with her all the time. I l...
A. 28 September 2009: I've only have three words of advice and I truly mean them: Therapy, Therapy, and Therapy. You need to follow this advice immediately if not sooner.... (read in full...)
The man I love wont leave his wife for me and I feel so lonely!
Q. The man I'm in love with never told me that he would leave his wife.He pays all my bills,rent and still gives me extra money but,I'm just so lonely.He doesn't spend time with me like he use to in the beginning.He has keys to my house so he comes ...
A. 23 September 2009: This is a problem you created for yourself. What on earth were you thinking? Take off those rose colored glasses and get real. You have a daughter for crying out loud, what kind of an example are you setting here? Give him his walking papers and ... (read in full...)
I need advice about proceeding with my marriage plans.
Q. Dear Cupid: I have a dilemma. I recently got engaged to someone who I have been involved with for two years. To be honest, the person was involved in another relationship for a number of years when we got together but last year, things were ove...
A. 8 September 2009: I'd put those marriage plans on hold. Trust is crucial in a marriage and you guys have zip. An apology from a guy who cheated ON you and who has cheated WITH you is pretty much meaningless if you ask me. The proof is in pudding.... (read in full...)
Does he like me, or just the idea of someone liking him?
Q. Theres this guy who works with my dad that i think is really cute and funny and i think he knows i like him but he never seems interested. Hes normally very shy but recently hes been talking to me on the internet and hes asked for my number and he ...
A. 29 July 2009: Ask him out for some coffee.... (read in full...)
Does he like me, or just the idea of someone liking him?
Q. Theres this guy who works with my dad that i think is really cute and funny and i think he knows i like him but he never seems interested. Hes normally very shy but recently hes been talking to me on the internet and hes asked for my number and he ...
A. 29 July 2009: How old is this guy? Sounds kind of fishy if he doesn't speak to you in person or if Dad is around.... (read in full...)
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