A
female
age
41-50,
*onfusedlady25
writes:Hi, my husband has been having a few problems regarding his ex wife, I think he is still in love with her and I’m just here as the trophy wife. If she asks for anything he gives into her and I’m left with no opinion on anything. I don’t think I can take it anymore. Should I leave him? Please some advice is really needed thanks.
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reader, confusedlady25 +, writes (17 August 2009):
confusedlady25 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthere are no children involved in the situation.
he didnt cheat on her with me they had been spilt up for around 2 years before i met him.i thought he may feel guilty about his divorce but when i asked him he says he gkad he divorced her as he cant trust her as she cheated on him several times.The sort of unreasonable demands she making is visiting my home and useing it as a supermarket and if i say anything my husband hurls abuse at me saying im just a jealous bitch whom is trying to control him she also asks him for money in which he gives,its like im running 2 homes. She came for £700 at christmas and the again about 3wks ago and he handed it over like it was pennys to him.I also have my mother living with us as she is very ill with heart problems and also depression & anxiety and my husband just says if i leave him he will kick us both out on the streets and as i dont fully understand my rights i really dont think it would be wise to put my mother under that kind of stress as it could make her condtion worse
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female
reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (17 August 2009):
 Lots more info needed...are there children involved? Did her cheat on her with you? Does he feel guilty about their divorce? What sort of unreasonable demands does she make?
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reader, confusedlady25 +, writes (17 August 2009):
confusedlady25 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni have been married to my husband for 6 years he has very close contact with his wife whom went on to marry my husbands brother and had 2 children with him. through out the 6 years she visits my home daily and when she arrives she goes into my kitchen and takes food out of the fridge and cupboards and my husband doesnt say anything, i once commented on this saying my home is not a supermarket and my husband shouted and hurled abuse at me saying im a jelous bitch and i should just allow this to happen.Also when she comes to ask for money he just hands it over she has already been for 2x £700 and he gave it to her no problems or questions asked. She is well known in the family circle as not being faithful,he on the other hand says he has never cheated on any of his partners which im in 2 mind weather to believe or not as i am his 4th wife and according to him all his other partners have cheated on him.He is also well known for his lack of respect for women which i only found out after we were married.i think im stuck between a rock and a hard place at min as i have my mum living with us whom is very ill with heart problems and depression and anxiety and she doesnt need the stress,my husband on the other hand is fully aware of her condition and is still saying if i leave him he will throw both me and my mother onto the street.I donnot know my rights towards joint tenancy and cannot find out as i would have to phone the council and then he would know what i was thinking and it would only cause more problems for my mum as then he would casue nothing but arguements with me please could really do with some help x
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2009): i think more info about your whole situation is required.
thanks
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