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writes:Hi. I am Samantha and im in a terrible situation.... I think I'm pregnant. I'm only 13. I have missed my period for about 2 months, and i am really scared. There are 2 possible fathers to this baby... I have not told either of them... What should I do please help me... My mom would freak out if I told her and my dad would never trust me again.... How do I find out who the father is? And my brother has a baby too and the baby just turned 4 months old....But I dont even care if my mom doesnt want it.... She'll never support me and I'll be a good mom i already take care of my nephew half the time. I think the father is my new boyfriend and I know he'll support me and our baby so dont go judging us! I'm gonna keep this baby I mean my dad found me and this 15 year old in the bath tub naked! Ok so just please help! I don't want to be bad any more!
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reader, wishb +, writes (2 May 2010):
your only 13, will you be able to support the baby? babies cost alot of money especially as they get older and you can never tell if your bf will really stay with you he might have to move or just leave hes new too! your mom says get an abortion that is killing the poor child but there is another choice... adoption you could get and open adoption and see the child or closed either way its up to you. i was adopted and i have seen my birth mother since a young age and mine was partially open you can get it so you can see the child like almost as often as you like! just please i know its hard being so young but dont get an abortion...
P.S. when the child is your age you will only be 26... think ahead past and now if you keep him you wont be able to do all the things you want in life and school will be reallly hard when your like a sophmore and hes like 2 y/o
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reader, mommy2009 +, writes (18 April 2010):
hii understand, I gave birth to my 4 month old babygirl on december 8th, 2009 and I'm 14 about to turn 15 in July. It was hard telling my mom, she started to cry but then she understood it's already to late... Just tell you parents they will understand but it's really hard with scool and everyone telling you that you ruined you life... Just say "its only the beginng" and being a mom, you mature way better I had a 2.0 in school and now I have a 4.0... But honestly hun you should kno who the father is.. You don't have to have sex with a guy to like you.. Because you'll end up like me a single 14 yearold mom.. But I know who the dad is..
sorry if this made no sense I had to time to heck is.. Sophia is crying
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reader, Barbiegurl23 +, writes (19 February 2010):
Heyy, well 1st I think you should go to a near by clinic or take a home pregnancy test. And if it turns out negative you dont have anything to worry about but if it turns out positive I think you should tell your mom right away. Yes she will be mad but she will get over it and she will support you.Hopes This Helps You.Love
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reader, miss_poppy  +, writes (19 February 2010):
heyy, i know this is a really hard situation and you are scared but think about the baby you are only 13 and the baby is the one you should look after ! think about it you can get a flat, or house because you are too young and then there is the problem with money you dont have a job or anything! Just think of the baby and what is good for it...
Love Miss_Poppy
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reader, 19queen +, writes (3 December 2009):
 i had my baby at 12, but i was pregnant at 11, i was pregnant under very horrible circumstances.
i didnt have an abortion because i think it is wrong but, if you think you cant cope with a baby, honestly, then have an abortion. but i havnt looked back since i have had my little girl.
i have to be honest it was hard. Really hard, but i jusst had to cope.
good luck to you in the future, and what ever dession you make.
tell you mum, either by telling her it straight out, texting her, or sending a letter to her.
and i tihnk it would be eaier to be more honest with your boyfriends, just tell them both, then do a DNA test when the baby if born, so the baby wont be confused who its real dad if for all its life.
and i dont see why you are proud to have let your dad see you doing it in the bath. so by that comment i dont think you are really yet for a baby so have an abortion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2009): Well im 16 now. I got pregnant when i was 12 and had my baby girl when i was 13. I told my mom as soon as i found out. She wouldn't talk 2 me for like a week but she realized there is nothinh we can do. What happened is what happend and we can't change that. Now she is 100% supportive and i love her. The father of my child is also 100% supportive. We have been dating for 4 years. Well all i have to say to all of you teen moms who are scared to tell your parents is tell them as soon as you find out because the longer you wait the more pain you will be in especially if you were as tiny as me. i respect every teen mom.GOOD LUCK SWEETHEARTS 100%
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2009): hey, I'm 13 too. I got pregant to... i'm do in like 2 mounths. My mom got really mad when I told her but when she understood I was in love and I wanted this baby she didn't like it but she got use to it. My boyfriend is 16.. I know he's a little old but I love him ok? haha. Your not "bad" your just tryng to have fun. Well that's what i was trying to do. and my dad didn't find me and my boyfriend in the tub he found u=s in my room, witch stinks. haha. well good luck hope you last with your baby.
love, a 13 year old for care.... (i don't sing my name haha)
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (19 August 2009):
 Pick up a couple tests at the dollar store. If you are indeed pregnant then you have no choice but to tell your parents. Sorry for your lost fun filled, foot loose and fancy free teenage years. So sad.
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reader, Honest_Answers +, writes (19 August 2009):
 There are a million things you have done wrong that I could lecture you about but that's too late now so I'm going to help you think about your next step.
Step 1: Check you're pregnant, 13 year old girls have very irregular periods. Go to your local drug store and get a pregnancy test. Take your boyfriend with you for support (I'm assuming you've told him your fears, if not that is your first step).
Step 2: Go to your doctor and find out how far along in your pregnancy you are. This way you know who 'Daddy' is.
Step 3: You and boyfriend/the daddy go to your Mother and tell her the situation and you deal with the consequences of this like grown ups. She will get mad but you must admitt you would if that were your daughter.
Step 4: Be a good Mom to the kid and get a good education so you can get a good job. You need to make sure that you love your child 100% and make them feel safe and supported so they don't make the illegal mistakes you have done.
You have made some awful mistakes and a girl of 13 should not be doing the things you've done and you've paid the ultimate price. Love yourself and love your child.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2009): who do you think you are may i ask aphex?
leave her alone!she is not a disgrace for sleeping around,you are for being so cruel to her when all she wanted was advice.illegal or not its her choice as to if she wants sex or not,and she doesnt need a bollocking from people like you.
now honey do calm down as samantha x said.you may not be pregnant.take a test to be sure.you may have not been on a period for so long,as it can delay if you are stressed or worried. its happened to me before when ive been stressed.seeing as you are stressed over a possible pregnancy that may be why your period is delayed.so calm for now,take a test,and then you can be sure.
in the future please remember to go on the pill,implanon or use a condom.take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2009): Okay, firstly, calm down. Just try and calm down. It sounds like there is a lot swirling around in your head at the moment, and that must be difficult right now.
I understand you not wanting to tell your parents, but one way or the other, they will find out. Surely it would be best to tell them sooner rather than later? They may be a lot more supportive than you expect. My older sister got pregnant at a fairly young age, and my dad hit the roof...at first. But he came round in the end. This will be a shock to them, so if they do react badly, just remember that they are probably scared and surprised, and give them a bit of time to get their heads around the situation.
If you want to keep the baby, that is fine. It's your choice. I do think it would be a good idea for you to get some support through this though. Is there an adult you trust who you could turn to for help?
I also think it would be a good idea to see your doctor or nurse. They will be able to tell you whether you are pregnant or not, and will be able to help you find out who the father is if you are pregnant. There will be some big decisions if you are pregnant, so you really need all the help and support you can get.
I encourage you to talk to an adult about this, rather than keep it bottled to yourself. People will want to help you, not punish you. You are not bad. So try to get some support through this, and give yourself time to adjust to this too. Good luck. x
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (19 August 2009):
 I don't want to be bad any more! --- then stop doing things that are illegal. for a start your gonna have to tell your parents their is no real way around it but to be sure your pregnant go to the doctors or a local family planning clinic and take a test to see if you are pregnant.. and on the side stop having sex if you dont want to be pregnant and stuck in a situation that your scared of, or ruining your future. you tell us to not judge you but in reality your just one of the million girls who breaks the law and cant handle the consequences then another little child is brought into this world stupidly and illegally.your adult enough to have sex so it would seem so your adult enough to stand up and tell your parents what you have done ! and as for not knowing who the father thats a disgrace close your legs more often!!
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (19 August 2009):
 I'm 13 and pregnant! please help me! thats what the virgin Mary said and she was a virgin imagine how she felt.
Relax whats the worst your parents can do, you live in america so they cant take you out back and stone you.
you need to find out who the daddy is buttt that can be tricky no matter what they said the reality is they migth not be so ready and willing to help with this baby plus it would mean they would have to admit to statutory rape if the boys are older then you.
I beleive you can get a paternity test before the baby is born, i suggest you look into that. You do not want to tell the wrong guy hes the father and get his hopes up if hes not so just be honest with these guys tell them your going to have a paternity test and will let them no results. Of course you will need there cooperation.
Tell your parents its actually there fault in my opinion your a teenage girl they should have had the sloman sheild sewn into your back pocket,victorias secret should have been king arthurs chain mail so they have kno rite to complain or blame you did they ever even tell you about the birds n the bees or Condoms, and getting up at all hours of the night to feed a crying baby is all the punishment you will need for the next 18 years and probably longer cuse theres those pesky 20 somethings.
That said i will say you can do this i hope you have this baby and all the involved parties are supportive, you will have to grow up a bit faster your going to be responsible for someone now so all your actions everything you do will affect some one else
have faith and good luck.
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