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*kynetplus
writes:Well, I met this girl at a party I recently went to. We had a good laugh and joke plus a nice talk together, cuddle and kiss. Last night I took her to the cinema to watch a film she wanted to see, paid for her and everything including picking her up and dropping her off.I wouldnt mind taking this further but my only problem is she is 15 and I am 19. There is nothing sexual going on and I dont plan for it until she is of legal age. I don't know how my parents would react as I don't talk to them much about my relationships (it always feels awkward).Help would be appreciated. Reply to this Question
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reader, RobL +, writes (25 August 2009):
 Rifraf said:"How strange would this kind of relationship look to outsiders??"Who cares? Their relationship is their business. I'm 20 and my girlfriend is 15, and frankly I couldn't care less if people don't approve, it's my business, not theirs.Short answer, if you care for her, go for it! Of course it is illegal to do anything sexual until she turns 16, but as long as you both know and understand that, I wouldn't worry about it.Rob
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2009): To the cinema to see the movie she wanted to see. And have you read what you have written? Wow!!! What a guy. You go with any girl you choose. You are a lovely man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2009): You said it yourself, she's underage, and even though you said it's not a sexual relationship, it's still morally wrong!! How strange would this kind of relationship look to outsiders?? What could you say if people asked you who she is, or what kind of relationship you two have, what would you tell them?? Thats she's your sister or something along those lines. I wouldn't go down this route if i were you, but hey, it's not my life so what do i know.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (17 August 2009):
 Well when I was 16 I was in a relationship with a 21 year old so the gap was pretty big - and yes my parents were horrified at first but when they got to know him and realised we were actually serious about each other they were ok with it.
I guess if you both really like each other and want a real relationship (not just sex) then there is no real problem. I would say you just need to be honest with both sets of parents from the start - hiding it from them will only make things worse. I dont think your parents will mind too much, it is her parents that will have the biggest problem with the relationship. You are just going to have to make an effort with her parents to get them to like you and try and show them that you are serious about their daughter and not just after one thing.
Make sure you do wait until she is 16 to have sex - you dont want to run the risk of getting into trouble with the police over this.
But aside from that I dont see the problem with you two dating! If you were 25 and she was 21 then no-one would have an issue with this, it is just because she is under 16 which makes it a little weird.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, skynetplus +, writes (17 August 2009):
skynetplus is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell she told her mum that she was going to the cinema with me and her mum was fine with it, but her step dad was shocked at he goin with me. Im sure if I met them and I could prove myself things would be fine?
I'm a sensible lad, I dont want to end up in prison or even a registered pedo soo I wouldnt take things to the next level until she was about 17.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (17 August 2009):
 How do HER parents feel about you dating their daughter? I would never allow one of my daughters to date a 19 year old when they were only 15.
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