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writes:Hi, Im 23 and had been in a relationship for the past three years. A month ago he told me it was over through a text. Over the past three years Me and him had been through so much and talked everyday and night. I was heart broken that he could actually up and leave me with out talking to me about it. He has a child from his ex-girlfriend, but through out our relationship she never gave up. I know that he is seeing her now but I feel its only for his daughter. But this whole month that we have been split Im constantly getting text messages from him, saying how much he loves me and misses me. And he doesnt know what to do. So Im stuck and depressed because In my heart I know we love each other. What do I do?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (11 August 2009):
 I'll tell you what I would do: I'd tell him to piss or get off the pot. If he loves you and misses you why is he with her? Don't allow any wiggle room. If he is going to stay with her then you don't want him texting you anymore. Then I'd get busy with my own life. And by the way, what kind of cad breaks up with someone he's been seeing for three years by text?
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reader, graham103  +, writes (11 August 2009):
Sounds as though he might think doing the right thing to see his ex-girlfriend because of the child. It might be hard and I have been there so know how painful it can be but stop answering his text's. He needs to know that you are not there to be his emotional blanket, he needs to sort his head out and you being there it wont happen. Absence does make the heart grow fonder and no contact might make he realise how much he needs you. Answering his text is not doing you any good at all so yes it is hard but don't answer them.
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reader, Omegahero09 +, writes (11 August 2009):
 If I were you, I would hang tight. Be there for him and keep your arms open for him. Obviously he is very torn inside because of his connection through his child. I feel for ya, and I know its tough. But think about his child, children with split parents have really hard childhoods, and he probably is going back for his kid. But... I don't know him, or his ex. He could be very selfish or incredibly selfless- for his child. Try to figure out what he is doing and see if it's for the right reasons. If it is- walk away. Start over and believe me when I say that I know how much it hurts. And believe me when I say that I've seen far, far worse. You have strength. You're a woman. Stand tall and keep going. If it is for the wrong reasons- like he loves this 'other lady' more than you, or he gets off on her more than you or something like that... then leave him be. Keep it up- I'm rootin for ya.
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