A little humility goes a long way
Q. I’ve been a moderator here on DC for a while and it’s a great forum. It really irritates me though when the OP shows no regard for the aunts who’ve taken time to answer questions. We moderators don’t know you, yet we spend time poring over ever...
A. 28 March 2011: I find the battles can be more invigorating than a thank you.... (read in full...)
Will my shorter penis please her as much as a longer one?
Q. Hi, been lurking here, and have seen all the questions on penis size. I know these get asked a thousand times, but I have another one, sorry. I have never been insecure about my size before, but I am with a girl who was with a guy much, much ...
A. 28 March 2011: Whew! I was so worried we'd get through this day without having a penis question...and OP have her get on top.... (read in full...)
Why do some women get themselves pregnant on purpose?
Q. One of my ex co workers got herself pregnant on purpose. She even told everyone about it. She had a short fling with someone and knew that he didn't want any children. They weren't even in a exclusive relationship. But she lied about what ...
A. 28 March 2011: Sorry but if I didn't want to have a child I'd MAKE SURE there was adequate, effective birth control before I did the dipsey doodle with someone. It's the guy's fault if he gets "tricked".... (read in full...)
I had sex with someone else while we were on a break and now he says I am 'dirty' to him, what can I do?
Q. My boyfriend who I love more that anything else told me we should take a break so he could deal with some issues. A week later I saw he was taking someone to prom and I knew he liked her. Out of jealousy and a need for security, I had sex with a ...
A. 28 March 2011: I totally agree with the aunts, especially Honeypie. Your boyfriend will use this incident as a club to keep you under his control and in his back pocket. Wise up to his machinations and show him the door.... (read in full...)
I've been sexting with a friend and he wants to stop now. Can we still be friends?
Q. I am married and had been chatting with a married friend via text, chat, phone sometimes- mostly sexual talk. We are both very attracted to each other, have a lot in common and definitely have chemistry. He would tell me how much he thinks abou...
A. 24 March 2011: Maybe he was just playing you and realized you were taking things too seriously. Decided to cut bait and run. what does it matter anyway? You need to knock this nonsense off and get focused on what really does matter.... (read in full...)
Maybe you are the right one and his wife is the wrong one?
Q. Hi everyone. This is my question. Is it possible a married man could be falling for you instead of wanting an affair? Or are all these guys the same, wanting their cake and eating it, too? How do you know he is not truly happy in his marriage ...
A. 24 March 2011: Wait for him to divorce his wife, that's the only true test.... (read in full...)
Should I tell my friend's girlfirend that I like her?
Q. my friend has a girlfriend and i am starting to really like her. we spoke a little on facebook after i first met her but since i added her on msn the other day we have spoke everytime she has come on which is a few times a week. i thought that she...
A. 24 March 2011: How much do you like your friend? Are you willing to lose his friendship? And if you do tell her how you feel you may lose both friendships.... (read in full...)
Is it just physical? How do I find out?
Q. Confused - been dating almost 4 months and he has only called me once. We text maybe once a day, but see each other at least 3 times a week. We're exclusive. When we're together he hardly asks me anything but we do have fun together....lots of fun! ...
A. 24 March 2011: Cut off the sex and see if he stays interested.... (read in full...)
Online dating. 17 year older woman. how to come around the hurddle of special friendship for sex?
Q. hi everyone, I have communicating with an acquarius woman for more than 3 months now.I am 23 and she is 40. Despite the age difference we have talked about everything. Her life, marriage, children, her passion, dreams, EVERYTHING!! Same with m...
A. 24 March 2011: She's just playing around on the internet. Take it at it's face value. Nothing but talk is going to happen here I'm afraid.... (read in full...)
I'm too attached to my boyfriend and it is affecting my relationship! Help!
Q. im recently in a relationship and i cant seem to control myself, i feel so attached to him i need help, i need advice. i always find myself calling him wanna know where he at, i cant seem to concentrate at work and when we go out im always looking ...
A. 24 March 2011: You need to find out why your self esteem is in the toilet. There are all kinds of books and websites that deal with building self esteem. Google it. But you do have to address this ASAP because not only does it make you miserable it will drive this ... (read in full...)
Do men avoid women they're interested in and are attracted to?
Q. If a guy is interested in a woman, would he avoid her? I normally see this guy at th gym and we talk almost everyday. We're both attracted to one another and he's quite the gentleman, if you ask me. But the past few days, however, he's a no show. ...
A. 24 March 2011: He's probably just busy. Men don't avoid a woman they are attracted to UNLESS the guy is married or already is in a relationship and wants to avoid the temptation to cheat. Relax you'll have your answer soon enough I reckon.... (read in full...)
Since he already has kids, would kids we had together be less special?
Q. I met my boyfriend a year ago, and immediately fell for him and have been totally in love with him ever since. The problem is he has a son and a daughter with someone else. The ex (of course) is making everything hell for both of us. Anyway thats ...
A. 23 March 2011: Each baby brings additional love with it. I've had three and I have 8 grandkids, love each and every one of them and so does my husband. You are not born with only a certain amount of love that has to be spread out like peanut butter.... (read in full...)
Married man used me, and is back in his cozy state of mind...
Q. Hello...my name is Stupid and I've been seeing a married man in my building for six months... I know, so wrong but he was persistant. He claimed I was whom he loved. Everything was perfect, we would text each other, cuddle, date all the above until ...
A. 23 March 2011: Well Stupid, it's time to pick yourself up and dust yourself off. Fool me once, shame on you,etc...Don't think about revenge just move on and don't make the same mistake in the future.... (read in full...)
I can't hav sex with my gf...because she reminds me of a horse.
Q. Hey aunties I feel really terrible about something about a dashing lady that I've been seeing for almost 7 months. That's why I'm here looking for advice. We get on well, have lots in common and here lately we've been getting frisky. We haven't had ...
A. 23 March 2011: If there is no attraction, there is no attraction, pure and simple. Time to find a new girlfriend.... (read in full...)
How do I repair my shattered confidence? my ex is telling all my penis is small
Q. im 15 and my ex is 13. we went out for a few months and during this time we did have sex. it was my first time so i was insecure about how i looked, what i was doing and like all guys, my penis size. its only 5.5 inches and my ex is now spreading ...
A. 22 March 2011: Your penis hasn't reached it's mature size and your girl hasn't reached the maturity to handle having sex and not blab to the countryside. Good lord, doesn't ANYONE enjoy those wonderful teen years anymore?????... (read in full...)
How do I ask my new girlfriend to lick and finger my ass?
Q. About a year ago, for the first time i got a prostitute. She said she would do anything. I always wanted a girl to lick my ass, so i asked and she did. Since then i have stimulated my ass as much as possible, by stroking around it and even putting ...
A. 22 March 2011: Be prepared for a freaked out girlfriend.... (read in full...)
Scared that my small penis will cause my first experience to be bad
Q. hi i m 24..asian.. i have never had any kind of experience with any women.. but now i m kind of desperate becoz i think its time to get into a relationship and know women.... above that what makes me most conscious is i have a average sized ...
A. 22 March 2011: Yahoo our first penis question of the day...I was worried there for a minute! Poster check out the archives you'll find tons and tons of comforting responses to your post. Why? Because we get TONS AND TONS of posts like yours. ... (read in full...)
What would cause you to cheat on your partner?
Q. Women, a question of honesty! Why do women decide to cheat on their men? Plz in detail...
A. 22 March 2011: A woman with honesty and integrity would never cheat on her man. Those who do are missing those two traits. ... (read in full...)
B/f thought I was going to dump him so he broke up with me!
Q. My bf now ex and i broke up a few days ago.....I am still madly in love with him! he says he is still in love with me and I am the best thing that ever happened to him. I am asked why he broke up with me in the first place and he said it was b/c ...
A. 22 March 2011: Hey MamaBear, let me buy you a coffee! When they bring the High Five back, I owe you one!... (read in full...)
Wife cheated, broke the law, I just want to end marriage but hate divorce!
Q. Hello: This has been going on for 2 years. Been Married 20. She IS controlling, manipulative and abusive both verbally and physically. She had affair/lived with another man/Filed for divorce 10 years ago. She broke the law, was convicte...
A. 22 March 2011: Absolutely finalize your divorce. She's already made your life hell so her threats don't even hold water. You need to be shed of her so you can start planning the life you really want to have. And by the way, nobody likes divorce but sometimes it is ... (read in full...)
B/f kept talking about a girl to make me jealous and now he won't respond back to me
Q. Hi My bf of 2 years was keep on talking about a girl he met yesterday. I got insecure and i asked him whether he liked her more. He said he liked me more, and he was just trying to get me jealous. Ofcourse he succeeded in that. After sometime ...
A. 22 March 2011: Wow, did you guys step into a time machine set for the 7th grade? I think the best thing that could happen to you is to lose this guy. ... (read in full...)
He doesn't know how to break off with his 19 year old g/f to be with me!
Q. First,let me start with my mistake. I started an affair before I decided for sure to leave my husband of 9 years. Husband is a good man, but we married at 19 and my feelings have changed. I love him, but no longer in love or desire him. We have a 6 ...
A. 22 March 2011: You need to face the fact that your boyfriend ain't gonna leave his teenager for you and your kid. Start getting your life in order for your son's sake. Once you get things stabilized then you can start thinking about your love life. Your first ... (read in full...)
I have destroyed my own marriage, my life is a mess...all for my lover who refuses to leave her husband. How do I get her to come to me?
Q. All, I have been reading this post for about 6 months now and can see that what I have been involved with is Wrong! However, I found my soulmate in a younger woman and If circumstances were right she would be my wife. Nearly 2 years ago, I met...
A. 22 March 2011: You really have made a mess out of your life now haven't you?! Looks like you are SOL on the "soulmate", there Buddy. She has decided to stay in her marriage. All you can do is to pick up the pieaces and move on. Also try to make it up to your 3 ... (read in full...)
NC with someone who doesn't love you anymore?
Q. my ex GF of 3 years broke up with me because she doesn't love me anymore. I want to be with her so i was wondering... Has anyone ever done NC with someone who says they don't love you anymore? was it a success or failure?...
A. 22 March 2011: That was supposed to be "most likely" not "mostly", I'm a spaz.... (read in full...)
How do you forget the mother of your children?
Q. I was in a relationship for 7 years we have two kids she had a previous daughter..... we have been separated for 3 years now and I cant stop thinking about her I dream about her I feel stuck that I cant move on with life I am miserable we have joint ...
A. 22 March 2011: You don't, if you have children together. You can only try to recover from your broken heart. As far as I know, there are only 3 medicines for that: time, staying busy and visible, and finding a new love.... (read in full...)
Do men get connected through sex like women do?
Q. What kind of feelings does a man experience during sex? For men, is it love language? Do they express love through sex? How does sex play a role in love for a man???? Ive been seeing this man for a while and we didnt sex it right away. We ...
A. 22 March 2011: Sometimes yes and sometimes no. Aren't you a little long in the tooth for this question?... (read in full...)
I'd like to cook my b/f something nice. Any suggestions?
Q. hello everyone in 2 weeks time my boyfriends parents are going away for the week, were together 1 and a half years now and i've never really cooked anything special for him, well while his parents are away i want to cook him something really nice. h...
A. 22 March 2011: Since you are Irish how about some corned beef and cabbage? yum.... (read in full...)
Is is possible to fall back in love with someone?
Q. Hi There: I have been in a relationship for 11 months. My son has a severe anger problem he is very violent, my boyfriend has broke up a few fights. He told me on March 12 that he is no longer in love with me, but he loves me very much. I broke upo ...
A. 22 March 2011: I think this "I'm not IN love with you but I love you" is a bunch of crap. Either you love someone or you don't. It's like being "kind of" pregnant if you ask me. Tell him to piss or get off the pot.... (read in full...)
Can her loss of love be cured by staying away?
Q. I was in a 4 year relationship with my ex-gf and she called it quits because of a loss of love interest. I'm trying to move on, but I would LOVE to get back with her. Friends recommend giving her space because she might be confused and not sure ...
A. 22 March 2011: I answered your other post:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/nc-with-someone-who-doesnt-love-you-anymore.html... (read in full...)
Boyfriend hiding and texting his friend. how do I set boundaries without seeming too jealous?
Q. Hi all! I have been with my bf for about 15months now. My bf has a "just friend" at work. She has worked there 15yrs he has worked there 8yrs. She is married (4yrs) with 2 babies. She recently came back to work from Maternity leave. While o...
A. 22 March 2011: Sounds like an emotional affair to me. Texting at 1:00 a.m.? Please. Tell him to knock this nonsense off, it's gotten way out of hand.... (read in full...)
NC with someone who doesn't love you anymore?
Q. my ex GF of 3 years broke up with me because she doesn't love me anymore. I want to be with her so i was wondering... Has anyone ever done NC with someone who says they don't love you anymore? was it a success or failure?...
A. 22 March 2011: If she said she doesn't love you anymore then mostly not communicating with her won't phase her a bit. But one way or another it's the thing to do. ... (read in full...)
I'm on 14 and I'm scared he'll dump me if I don't have sex
Q. I met this guy and we have been going out for a while now. I think I am falling in love with him. He is so good to me and makes me so happy. The thing is he wants to have sex and im not ready for it. I have never done any sex stuff before. I am...
A. 22 March 2011: Okay here's my take.
Once you have sex with this 19 year old, and I don't care whether it's "in your bum" or in your ear, he has committed a felony.
Once you have sex with this 19 year old, and I don't care whether it's "in your bum" or in ... (read in full...)
Are these good baby names?
Q. I am hoping to have a boy. If I do, his name will be Kylan Jake. But if I have a girl, her name will be Joselyn Nicole. Do these names sound good? Please help!...
A. 22 March 2011: Almost 16? Okay that changes everything.... (read in full...)
My husband has been unwell for a long time and it disgusts me to have sex with him, as I'm just not attracted to him anymore...
Q. Hi dear cupid! I have a huge problem and I realy need help! My hb and I have been married for 10 yrs and he's been sick for 8 of those 10 yrs. We still don't know what his condition is. But he has dropped a lot of wieght to the point he's skin and...
A. 22 March 2011: All marriages need work and tweaking every so often. I'm willing to bet that things will improve if you stay the course. Good luck and keep us in the loop.... (read in full...)
What does "I care for you" mean to a man?
Q. What does "I care for you" in man language mean??? We've already said I love u. Is this another way of saying I love you? He doesn't say the "L" word a lot he says the word scares him. ...
A. 21 March 2011: I'm with DB, if he's told you he loves you then he's just more comfortable saying he cares for you. However, if a person NEVER mentions love, "I care for you" is something quite different. I mean I care for the neightbor next door, but I sure as ... (read in full...)
Do you think the man I am having an affair with is seeing someone else?
Q. Please don't judge me... I am married and am having an affair with a recently separated man. (We hooked up when he was married last year). To give a brief hx, I knew him from the past yet never hooked up. Well we did last year and had sex. I never...
A. 21 March 2011: So when you are off spending the night with the boyfriend, who's watching the little kids? Your alcoholic husband?... (read in full...)
My husband has been unwell for a long time and it disgusts me to have sex with him, as I'm just not attracted to him anymore...
Q. Hi dear cupid! I have a huge problem and I realy need help! My hb and I have been married for 10 yrs and he's been sick for 8 of those 10 yrs. We still don't know what his condition is. But he has dropped a lot of wieght to the point he's skin and...
A. 21 March 2011: If he's been ill then the changes in his body are not his fault. "In sickness or in health"...remember? Talk to his doctor, see if there is something that can be done to bulk the guy up. Close your eyes and imagine him the day you married him. You ... (read in full...)
Do they have a double personality and think they are innocent?
Q. say your partner who swears they love you was to do something again and again,knowing its a deal breaker and will end the relationship when caught,then wont own up,or start making you out to be paranoid or calling you emotionaly abusive when its ...
A. 21 March 2011: Sorry but if you are allowing a deal breaker not to break the deal, and allowing it to occur repeatedly, then I think you are making YOURSELF a fool.... (read in full...)
He doesn't know how to break off with his 19 year old g/f to be with me!
Q. First,let me start with my mistake. I started an affair before I decided for sure to leave my husband of 9 years. Husband is a good man, but we married at 19 and my feelings have changed. I love him, but no longer in love or desire him. We have a 6 ...
A. 21 March 2011: Have you left your husband?... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a woman touches herself on the rear as she walks out of a room?
Q. What does it mean when a woman touches herself on the rear as she walks out of a room? I share an office with a woman, and it seems that every time she leaves she touches her butt on the way out. Three possibilities come to mind for me: 1. Sh...
A. 21 March 2011: Usually I do this while saying something along the lines of "Kiss my butt". Of cousre that may just be me.... (read in full...)
Does ignoring someone you are attracted to make the attraction go away?
Q. Hi guys. Just a quick question for you... Why would two people who are really attracted to each other avoid or ignore one another? And, does this mean the attraction will go away or will it get worse? Wondering what you all think!...
A. 21 March 2011: Anyone married in this scenario?... (read in full...)
Are these good baby names?
Q. I am hoping to have a boy. If I do, his name will be Kylan Jake. But if I have a girl, her name will be Joselyn Nicole. Do these names sound good? Please help!...
A. 18 March 2011: I am also hoping you are not pregnant. If you aren't, don't get that way for many more years. So going on the hopeful assumption that you aren't pregnant...my advice is for you to go get a puppy and name him Kevin.... (read in full...)
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