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writes:What does "I care for you" in man language mean??? We've already said I love u. Is this another way of saying I love you? He doesn't say the "L" word a lot he says the word scares him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2011): "What does "I care for you" in man language mean???"
It means exactly what it says!!!
In woman language it could mean a million things...
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reader, ironman777  +, writes (22 March 2011):
I'm very sorry but I have quite a different take on this, I care for you means just that I only care for you - your nice but I'm not in love madly with you...He will want to protect you and comfort you and will have sex with you, but maybe something is holding him back from saying I love you - I know that I used to not say it much, until you are actually in mad, hopeless love and then it just flows from your lips like no bodies business. There could be a doubt left unsaid that he has - you may have to decide what you want, the fairytale love or the companionship and deep caring of a good man - its also dependant on your needs.Who knows, caring can change to love over time - I hope it works out for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2011): I care for you means just that..He cares for you..It is only in your own head that you are trying to equate it with being in love...He could love you as a good friend(ie care) and not be in love with you(true emotional connection...Women spend too much time being dishonest with themselves trying to decipher some secret code which isn't there, and having expectations that are simply not happening
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reader, papertowels +, writes (21 March 2011):
Men who don't say "love" unless pressure is applied don't mean "I love you" the way you are looking for it.I would feel hesitant of the long term compatibility of the relationship, and he may too, i:e - if you are wondering, and he is dodging - there are obviously differences in what the two of you see the relationships potential to be. my 2c's.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (21 March 2011):
 my BF cares for me. He loves me too but he can't say the L word to my face. He has put it in email.. he has left it on voice mail...we are working on a code phrase for him to say that means "I love you" Mine for him is "damn you to hell" it sounds horrid but I said that to him when I realized I loved him... He has said to me "I care about you" He has said to others "I care about her"....her has asked me if I mind that he can't say "I love you" and I told him NO because he can't say it emotionally but he lets me know in many ways that he DOES love me and when he does manage to say it, well it means so much more to me than someone who says it all the time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2011): Hi there. Try not to worry; like the others have said he's already told you he loves you. Believe me, if he didnt he would probably tell you that he didnt. I think you are overanalysing things. I fall in love very quickly and told my current bf i loved him after about 6 months. He struggled more to tell me and like your guy, he felt uncomfortable with the word love. He does tell me he loves me but not as often as I tell him. He also tells me he cares about me. I've come to accept it. No relationship is perfect but I know he loves me and it's enough. Try not to worry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2011): It means exactly what he is portraying it to mean. He cares for you. He already told you the "L" word scares him. Doubtless the future will hold more of the same, as if the "L" word scares him, what about everything else that comes with it? Does the "C" word (commitment)scare him too? I am always wary of men that cant say the "L" word but seem to have no problem carrying out everything BUT the actual commitment part of it. Lord knows they seem to have zero problem with the "S" word (sex). Just be careful so as to ensure he isnt a closet emotional vampire drama king.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2011): Yeah care and love are two different things, but both are positive.. love and caring so I wouldnt worry too much.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (21 March 2011):
 I'm with DB, if he's told you he loves you then he's just more comfortable saying he cares for you. However, if a person NEVER mentions love, "I care for you" is something quite different. I mean I care for the neightbor next door, but I sure as hell don't love him.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (21 March 2011):
 It means he cares for you. It's not code, especially if you've already said you love each other. It may be more comfortable for him to say than "I love you" but to me, love = caring + attraction. At least at the basic level.
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reader, lakers_lover09 +, writes (21 March 2011):
it means the same as it does to women lol just with more passion i think. i think when a man cares for someone it is like nothing else in the world. When i care for a girl there inst anything on earth that could stop me from protecting her..but that shouldn't be confused with love ok? don't over analyze what a guy says because we confuse ourselves and everyone else in the process lol. if he cares it just means he cares for you.
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