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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2011): Truthfully? NOTHING. Nothing would make me cheat on someone. I am a 41 year old woman and I have never cheated. No emotional cheating OR physical cheating. I have been cheated on but I have never and will never. There is no excuse for that. I take vows, commitments and promises seriously. If someone is that unhappy, then they should split up if they cannot resolve their differences. Every effort should be made to save the relationship if there is real love, respect, remorse for mistakes and a desire to build a healthy future together. If those things are there and it's worth it, then all effort should be made to salvage the relationship. If not, then I would end the relationship, rather than be deceitful. I don't turn to others and allow an affair to take place. I don't flirt because I am MARRIED. I don't invite temptations and I do not get closer to someone I find attractive. If I found myself attracted to somebody, I would avoid them and allow the feeling to dissolve. I have respect for myself, my wife and my relationship. I am a lesbian and I have a wife. I have been cheated on but I am totally against cheating. I would not cheat out of revenge. If someone is TRULY sorry, accepts responsibilty and NEVER talks to that other person again and never cheats or does something sneaky again, then we can try to forgive and forget. But I would not cheat.If someone finds themselves truly unhappy or unable to resolve a dying or bad relationship, then don't get stupid or greedy. Just break up and find someone else.I don't know why anyone cheats. Male or female. Some people want it all and they won't admit it. Some people justify why they do deceitful, hurtful, greedy, selfish things. It takes a lot to honor commitments and be truly faithful in life. You have to have self control and respect and ethics. I am glad to have those. And some people cheat because they WANT to end a relationship and they know it's the fastest way out and ensure their partner won't likely want them back and hound them with mushy love letters. But many people want the security and love at home, and also sneak the feelings of new excitement with someone new on the side. That is selfish and it's wrong. It forces the partner into an open relationship without the partner knowing there is another person involved. If you want to live like you are free to see others, then you should either be single or you should date someone who doesn't mind if you see other people.That's what I think about cheating and why people do it and why I will never do it. I like what I see in the mirror.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2011): I always told my friends I have no reason to cheat on my boyfriend if he makes me happy and gives me everything I want..I cheated on my boyfreind cus for a almost a year he wouldn't get intimate with me if its not a threesome.when I complained he gave me excuses like he's lost his sex drive,he's stressed and all but will have sex with other girls till I cheated on him with a girl.it crushed his world and now he hates me so much its not even funny.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2011): Women cheat because they have no respect for their partner but dont want to leave through fear of messing up. If its a serial cheat,then the exitement of forbidden sex and maybe secretly hate the one they cheat on. Nothing is ever a good enough reason. I did it once and got found out in the strangest of ways. He was my everything and i lost him for someone who was nothing. Not even good im bed. I had no explantion why i made such a stupid decision and lost my everything who i now cannot move on from and fear the day i hear someone else has got him either sexualy,emotionaly or both .
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (22 March 2011):
 Maybe the Question should beWhat would cause a women to THINK about cheating on their men?My top one would beNo sex or little sex with current man.No time or very little time to actually have a RS with a current man. Being ignoredNo fun, dates, parties, tripsNo deep discussions, no mental activity, world events, spirituality, philosophy, etc..All the above spell No Relationship is currently in process, I would consider cheating on him out of anger and frustration. But would and have just ended the RS and moved along.
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reader, AnalyticalMentalityOx  +, writes (22 March 2011):
Let me start off by saying i have never cheated!! And i am not justifying those peoples actions.........But if i put myself in the cheaters shoes i can say that people do it for many reasons. When a couple are married they cheat because they might feel bored in their relationship and want something exciting or fresh.Whereas a lot of teenagers and twenty year olds cheat because either a drunk moment, or some have no will power and are easily tempted that they don't think about what they're doing or they like the thrill to see if they can get away with. I know a lot of people who have cheated and many say they regretted it and the words that most cheateas here 'it just happened' .....And i'm not going to lie, sometimes it does 'just happen'. I've kissed a guy without even thinking about it till after because i got caught in the moment or they caught me off guard.I know it sounds stupid but even the most perfect man could get cheated on by his partner and there is no real reason why they do it, everyone is different. Sometimes there is honestly never a reason
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reader, lucky lynne  +, writes (22 March 2011):
 There can never be any real reason for it,as if there was,you can choose to end the relationship. By cheating and lying,it means you dont want to break up. It also means you are unworthy. All i can say is maybe you dont respect or care for the emotional pain of your other half. I believe if you love someone 100%,you wouldnt in the wildest dream cheat,you simply wouldnt want to. All forms of cheating whether physical,emotional or those inept misfits who have a relationship through e-mailing etc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2011): I'm willing to bet that in many, many cases it is about not being fulfilled by one's partner....not on a physical level but emotionally. Usually if the respect and time spent giving her quality attention is present then she is happy. I have known some women that were just down right skanking but more often than not it was about so much more ---- romance and feeling like someone cares. I know it seems crazy because that is not the way to get someone who really cares but remember those that do this are messed up on some level. Soemtimes the guy she is with isnt the right guy but she doesnt want to let go, with the crazy notion that somehow he eventually will be.
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (22 March 2011):
 Interesting question... I used to be a cheater (yes i know, how awful of me) and i guess it was just all about the excitement. Well that was until hearts got broken :(There are many reason why women cheat, they may not be happy in their relationship (i know it's no excuse, if ur not happy you should try and fix it or just end it) some women like the danger and excitement, and unfortunately, some do it because they know they can get away with it...Thankfully i changed my ways after breaking my first loves heart and destroying two best friends. I met a man and from then on i have never felt the need to even look at another guy when i've been in a relationship with someone. So guys, don't lose all hope. Women can change, and so can you guys too!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2011): when i was in my marriage i cheated on my husband. Why even though this is not an excuse he didn't give me enough attention and he refused to have sex with me. I think the main reason most women do it is because they have lost the emotional connect with their husband. When i told him my problems he wouldn't want to hear them he wouldn't take me out..instead he was hanging out with his friends... he was constantly yelling at me. he made it very easy for another man to take his place. The new dude we were just friends at first talking on the phone and hanging out with each other and that eventually led to sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2011): Here's a man's point of view: women leave you because your not giving good enough sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2011): I was absolutely loyal to my previous partner, backed him up and put his interests before mine. However, I did cheat on him to get some attention and reassurance, as he'd often tell me I was worth nothing. Now a days, with a new partner who thinks the world of me,I would not dream of cheating in any way. And Eyeswideopen, please use them to look around!
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (22 March 2011):
 A woman with honesty and integrity would never cheat on her man. Those who do are missing those two traits.
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