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writes:hi, I'm a 14 year old girl and just yesterday, I was asked out by a 12 year old boy that I liked. I'm really scared that people will make judgements about the age difference and my mum fears I will get bullied for it. He is really sweet and caring and I don't want to hurt him if I say no. Please help?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2012): Hi, I'm that girl that posted this. I really appreciate all your comments and really advice is all I needed, I will tell him that being friends will be best for us and maybe in the future (far, far future!) we can be a couple. Thanks to all of you for your advice!!.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (23 October 2012):
 If he were 16 and you were 14 that would be one thing, but he is twelve. I'm with your mum on this one. He is too young. And considering young girls tend to mature sooner than young boys that makes the mental age difference considerably more than two years.
For him it's like having a crush on his babysitter.
My advice is politely decline.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2012): I'm your age, and I can tell you I fancy someone but I have no interest in dating. One of my best friends had a crush on a girl in the year below us and he got teased for that. These answers are not at all helpful because they are all from grow ups. They don't understand what out generation is like. There were people in my year who were dating in y7. If you genuinely like him and don't care about what people think then go out with him. If you like him and do, explain gently to him. In later life, a two year age difference won't be a big deal.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (23 October 2012):
 You are 14! TOO YOUNG TO DATE... but old enough to have FRIENDS!
you told your mom and her only fear is that you will be bullied? what about the fear that you will be labeled CHEAP EASY and a slut for dating at such a young age?
you say he asked you out... for what drinks? dinner and a movie? perhaps you define a DATE as something different than I do?
honey you are just friends at 12/14 and that's fine.... just be friends.
BTW the OLDER you get the less age matters but at 12 and 14 it's
a. a big difference
b. too young to be dating
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (23 October 2012):
 A 12 year old? Where are the parents these days? Sheesh.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2012): just say no. its best he learns the concept of rejection at an early age. and plus your allowed to as he cant force you. also, proper relationships do not exist at your age. enjoy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2012): To be honest, relationships at your age(s) really are nothing more than close friendships anyway, so why not just be friends?
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