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writes:I am good looking to the limit of annoyance, it caused me a great deal of trouble looking the way I do.I had major psychological issues because of my looks, I isolated my self thinking everyone interested in me because I am pretty I felt like If I was ugly no one will love me so I end up breaking up with my boyfriend and going single!I stopped having sex and I was so depressed for years.Yes, a very hot girl who doesnt get any actions because of being paranoid that people only talks to me not caring what I have inside but rather what I look from the outside.with time, I made good friends who love me the way I am and I am proud of my self picking my self up and out of this dark place I was inMy problem now Is I no longer suffer my head issues, which making me very horny like I wanna make up for the last 2 years!!!!The thing is I dont wanna have a boyfriend at least not right now because I need to find the one who is suitable for me.so I need to ask this questions and I need guys to answer meI cant have sex with any of my guy friends because I do not wanna lose them or give them any wrong signals so I decided to have ex with someone who is not a good friend of me, some one I just know so, do you think it is weird if a girl came up and asked you to have sex with her?and what is the best way to ask this guy without making me look like a foolp.s I can easily have sex with people who are interested in me or ppl who asks me out (I am a pretty girl after all) but I dont want to, I want to have sex with someone who isnt going to be in my life not to get things complicated and this is why I decided I have to be the one who choose !!!!!!
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reader, Johnsgirl1982  +, writes (24 October 2012):
Honestly, you can look into making a profile on websites designed for the purpose of hooking up only not dating. Just Google for Adult Dating Sites, or go to Adult Friend Finder. Those sites allow you to post an ad like page telling what you want what you dont want and why you want it. You can find someone who is searching for the same thing you are, meet them, hook up, and thats all. If either of you want to meet up after that great if not great. There are no feelings getting hurt no one getting used and everyones on the same page. I dont agree with people just sleeping with anyone and everyone cause of the dangers of STDs so use protection please.
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reader, Candid Cally +, writes (23 October 2012):
Why not pursue a man who is as attractive as you are?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2012): You broke up with your boyfriend because you "thought no one liked you"? That's kind of ridiculous. Generally, physical attraction is what triggers a relationship to begin with. If the poor b^^^^^d stayed with you for that long, I don't doubt it was for what was on the "inside". Try reading, picking up a hobby, and broadening your horizons, and then you won't be just a pretty face, but rather the "whole package" which is something to be proud of in my opinion. Good luck!
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reader, Staceily +, writes (22 October 2012):
 Go to a bar. When a guy approaches you and starts flirting then flirt back, allow him to buy you a drink, go home with him when he asks if you want to get out of here- or ask him yourself. It is common sense what all that means, you don't need to spell out I WANT SEX WITH YOU. It's very, very easy. That's what guys in bars are looking for. Most guys will not turn down no strings attached sex. If casual sex is what you are looking for it is quite easy to get. Make sure you are careful though. And one thing to remember when in a relationship is that looks only get you so far. So don't worry a guy won't love you or is only with you for your good looks. Sure it may be what attracts them in the first place but I can promise you if you are bat shit crazy it won't matter how beautiful you are, the guy will leave. Beauty will get you sex and all sorts of attention and short lived relationships, but no guarantee to get you something that will last forever. So if someone is with you for years and says they love you believe them.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (22 October 2012):
 Hi
I think you DO still have head issues, your focusing on your 'good looks' way too much. People on the whole are not shallow and see past the outer skin.
If you want to see a stranger for sex,which is who it would be as you don't want it to be somebody in your circle, then you will have to be extremely careful.Not many men would turn down free no strings sex with a woman,even if they're not attractive or hot. Its just a female body and relief of urges to them.
If you read the FWB questions and answers on this site you will have a good view how these arrangements end up.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (22 October 2012):
 I totally agree with our maverick. I don't see a problem either. When the next guy hits on you just be honest, say you are in it only for the sex and no strings. I think your dance card will fill up quick, fast, and in a hurry. However if you want to play it on the safe side I would just buy a couple of toys and wait on that special guy to come into your life.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (22 October 2012):
 Sister, I can identify with you. I, too, am so handsome that women are intimidated by me.....
Darndest thing is.... even when I tell them that I am humble and interested in them, they usually say, "Yeah, buster, fat chance that YOU'LL ever get me in bed..." What IS IT with these women?????
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (22 October 2012):
Okay, so what I'm gathering here is that you want a one-night stand or a FWB arrangement. So why not say yes when a guy approaches you? Guys that are quick to do that are usually not interested in anything serious anyway, so why not have sexy times with them if you get approached a lot?
I honestly don't see the problem here. Just be clear and direct about what you want: sex, no strings attached. There are plenty of guys who are happy to do just that. If you're really as good looking as you say and guys approach you because of that, you'll have no problem finding someone who is only out to have sex.
Just be safe, use the pill and a condom. And stop fussing so much over the problems your looks are bringing you. Just savor the moment that you have them, because it's temporary. You can still spend the rest of your life being old and over-the-hill looks wise. So don't complain when you've got something other people spend their lives wishing they have or spend their money trying to emulate.
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reader, Hennessy1989 +, writes (22 October 2012):
 What you should do is meet a guy who you think is suitable man for what you want, have sex with him once and then tell him you want a 'friends with benefits' thing, if your as hot as you say you are then no guy is gonna say no to that. Plus guys are less likely to get emotionally attached so I don't think you will have any problems, good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2012): Just don't lose your self worth in the process. And protect yourself from STD's and pregnancy as well as the many men out there that are can seriously hurt or kill you if you hook up with the wrong person, not that any of this is right to begin with, but you are going to do what you are going to do. I would also suggest counseling and get all this sorted out. Just keep in mind, you are not going to find a man of substance or a man who "loves you for you" approaching them for sex only. You are not someone they would want to bring home to mom down the road. You are a right now girl and nothing else. You will get all the attention you crave, but will always feel empty inside. Sex is temporary, feeds and satisfies one need and one need only, the rest is lost with what you want to do and how you want to go about doing it. Good luck, and please go get some counseling. It's sad to see someone so young beginning to live their adult life like this.
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