| A
female
,
anonymous
writes: Well me and my ex went out for about 4 months. It's been a year since our breakup. In that year, I was totally over him...Until now. All of the sudden, I like him all over again. I found out that he's in a relationship and it kills me. It's been a long time and I still can't move on. Can someone please help me?!?!?
View related questions:
broke up, move on, my ex Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (13 January 2006):
 I don't think this is about the way you feel about him at all, I think this is more about the way you feel about yourself. Are you happily attached at the moment? If not, I think you have your answer. You're not in another relationship yet and you don't want him to be. You're maybe just a bit jealous, not still in love with him.
I know this may sound harsh but it isn't meant to. We all feel insecure sometimes and we just need to find it in ourselves to get over this and realise that we're fantastic on our own and we don't need anyone else.
If you are with someone else, then maybe there is still some feeling there. Just carry on with your life and forget about him. You obviously don't love him anymore, as for the last year, you haven't been bothered. We all like to think that our exes are traumatised after finishing with us and will never be happy again, I know I've been there!! But people move on and you must too. Good luck
A
female
reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (13 January 2006):
 Humm...let's see...you went out for only 4 months and have been broken up for a whole year and now it's killing you that he has found someone else. Well I suggest you best start getting on with your life. Find a hobby, get a therapist, take a class, anything to get your mind on something other than this ancient history. Life is too short to waste time on deadends.
...............................
A
male
reader, Mr.Ed +, writes (13 January 2006):
 Stop and think for just a second.....................50 states, 7 continents, tons of countries and your hung up on ONE guy? Have you looked at another man since him? Hunny, you really need too. It's been a year and what have you done? Get out there and just say hello to ONE guy today! Just one! See where that takes you.
Sincerely
Ed
...............................
A
female
reader, CCNJ +, writes (13 January 2006):
You don't like him all over again. You simply haven't found someone else yet (or he hasn't found you). If you're anything like myself- you fall in love quickly...but it doesn't mean that the person you fell for was the right one for you. Just remember that you broke up for a reason. You deserve someone who will be completely in love with you where you can see it in his eyes. If you settle for less- you're cheating yourself.
...............................
|
