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writes: Somebody please help me. I don't know if it's normal but i have started to have sexual feelings for my twin sister. My bedroom is being re-painted and i have been sleeping in her bedroom, i can't stop staring at her when she is asleep. She is really confident and extrovert with lots of friends but i'm not sure if she has a boyfriend. I split up with my boyfriend (i'm bisexual)because i couldn't continue the relationship whilst i was having feelings for my sister. I'm finding it harder and harder to suppress my feelings and don't know if i should just tell her how i feel. Does anybody have any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2006): Love is a mentality and shouldn't be blood-restrictive. As I posted in another thread, objectively, there is nothing wrong with it. However, based on common westernized society, there is something immoral about it. Therapists are those people who think they are correct (self-righteous) and everybody else is wrong. Personally, I wouldn't follow through with your 'plan', as I also have some societal poisons in my system too... [shrugs]
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2006): Agreed, do NOT tell her.
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reader, shania  +, writes (17 January 2006):
 Im afraid that this isnt normal.I wouldnt think that it would be in your best interests to tell her how you feel about her,she would be horrified.The quicker you have your room painted the better and my best advice would be to seek therapy.I dont think that this will go on its own....trained counselling is what you need.
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reader, Anika +, writes (17 January 2006):
 While I won't even try to judge your feelings, I do think you need to refrain from telling your sister about them. Most people would not react kindly to such information from a sibling, and sometimes there truly are emotions that we must keep to ourselves for the benefit of others. If you still feel the need to bring it up to your sister, you may want to figure out what reaction she has to incestuous relationships in the news/in literature. If they disgust her, be kind and don't mention it.
As far as yourself - you need to find a way to deal with this. While it would be one thing if your feelings weren't so strong as to cause problems in your life, they do. You will not be happy unless this is somehow resolved, and if you don't think you will be able to get over this yourself, therapy may be a good choice. Just make sure not to find a therapist who will make you feel guilt-ridden. Guilt does not help.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (17 January 2006):
 You need therapy like yesterday. Find a good one and see them frequently. And as far as telling your sister, best put a cork in it.
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