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writes:I'm 13 and my boyfriend is also 13.We have been together for a couple of months now and really want to do more. We've thought about sex(and condoms)but i wouldn't really feel comftable. I do wanna do more sexual stuff but i don't know what?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2008): DONT DO IT, im 15 and have a 1 year old son, i have got to drop out of school and get a job so i can look after and feed him, i will never be able to forfill my dream of being a lawyer, i will be to busy being a parent, wait until a special person comes along and wait for that special time.
If you are going to ignore what everyone is saying and you are going to do it anyway, at least be careful, very careful, dont get yourself into my situation
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2006): be careful - you're too young even to be thinking about sex, at 13 (i know you think you are) but you arent grown up enough to make an adult decision - mainly because you're not an adult. the lawful age for sex is there for a reason, to protect you. find something which isnt sexual which you both enjoy and do that instead - spending time with him is good. being intimate at 13 isnt, also you dont sound entirely convinced you want to. i dont really feel comfortable about giving you much more advice - enjoy being young. you cant get back your virginity.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (19 January 2006):
 Gee Whiz Youth IS wasted on the wrong people! You and your boyfriend need to lighten up. There are some really great suggestions here. Enjoy yurself with these youthful pastimes. Plenty of time for sex later on. Make it something to look foward to years from now.
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reader, Dawnest +, writes (11 January 2006):
Do you know something kiddo? Its much more fun being part of a couple and enjoying bowling/skating/dancing/kite flying and sending cutesy texts then it is actually having sex when your 13. because it can be messy/fumbling and very unsatisfying if you havent done it before.
Go ahead and Kiss, pet, enjoy the tingly feelings/give each other a massage but dont get into sex just yet because neither of you will enjoy it as much as you think.
Save yourselves for the right moment in time and you will be grateful you did. Share a big pot of Haagen Daz - thats much more fun and sexy.
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reader, uncle ed +, writes (11 January 2006):
i agree with person 1. if you play around with sex at this age, i guarantee you it would be something you'll regret in the future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2006): Thirteen is pretty young to be thinking about things like condoms.
Instead of focusing so much on sex, why don't you try focusing on other things?
It sounds to me like what you guys are hoping for is a way to feel even closer - even happier with each other, and more wrapped up in each other. But the best way to do that (at any age) is to establish true intimacy, and that doesn't come from sex. In fact, sex (and even too much making out) can actually work against intimacy.
Here are some things you and your bf can do together to help you feel closer to each other, without risking getting pregnant. (when using condoms, almost 2 out of 10 girls will get pregnant each year - it's not something to mess around with.)
1. Play Truth or Dare ... without the Dare. I bet there are lots of things you and your bf don't know about each other. Go somewhere the two of you can be somewhat alone (the backyard is a great spot) and take turns asking each other questions. When was your first kiss? Who was your first crush? What was it like?
2. Do Something Physical. Why not go play a game that requires you to get really sweaty and dirty? Play paintball, or build a tree-fort together; go sledding. If you have younger siblings, take them along. They'll be so happy to go with you, and I bet you and your bf will feel closer to one another when you've gotten to know each other's families.
3. Buy a Teen Magazine and make him do one of the quizzes with you. :)
4. Try cooking something together - you'll feel more grown-up, and your parents will love it.
5. When you're alone together, spend less time thinking about how close you can get to sex, and more time thinking about how nice it is to be together. Give each other back rubs. Try kissing weird body parts. But you really should keep your clothes on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2006): Well like the other person said I won't tell you what you can do but will tell you that you are really young and theres more to sex than you think first of all sex isn't supposed to be just sex it's done with someone you love and they love you it's a feeling.Something you may not expierence until your older. When I was your age I thought I knew what I was doing and did stuff to this day I regret always think before you do something think about it long and hard and make sure you know it's a decision you won't ever regret believe me a few months of being with a guy isn't long enuff to be experimenting wait until you guys have been together for a long long time treasure your body there is so many years ahead of you don't let just any guy touch you especially not someone you've known for a short time wait good things come to those who wait!good luck
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reader, lizabeth +, writes (10 January 2006):
don't through your body away to anyone. theres plenty of sexual activities that you can do but sexual activities can become uncontrolled and things can get out of hand. just make sure you don't go too far. your very young and your virginity and body is one of the most important things in a girls life. i don't feel comfortable giving you actual advice due to you being so young but i hope what ive sed has helped you in some way xx
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