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writes: Help!My mom won't talk to me anymore. She hasn't spoken to me in nearly a week. She is angry because I am 21 years old and I'm tired of being treated like I'm 13, so I told her what I thought about her practically oppressive parenting style.I posted on this before, but just a recap: I am finishing up with college this year and am still living at home. Last week, she established a curfew for me, then told me that I'm not allowed to drive to my boyfriend's house anymore because it's increasing the mileage on MY car, which I paid for in full. Lately, everytime I go out and have a nice time with my boyfriend, who I have been dating for almost one year, I come home to a lecture or a mean note sitting on my desk, which makes me feel guilty for enjoying myself. I'm at my wit's end. I know that I have to move out of my parents' house as soon as possible, but why do they (my mom in particular) hate me so much for growing up and being my own person?
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (13 January 2006):
 The last time you wrote us we told you the same thing...get your own place. If you can't afford it on your own get some friends to move in with you. Nothing is going to change as long as you live in your parent's house, it's that simple. Get moving.
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reader, harshbutfair  +, writes (13 January 2006):
 Your mom has her own issues that she needs to deal with. You need to, and are old enough to, move out and get your own place. You know this and accept this who why not get The Action Habit and get the hell out of there and get your own place? Your life will be so much better for it. Despite loving my parents to *pieces*, I moved out when I was 18 and never looked back.
Until you move out you need to be clear. You do not expect to be treated like a kid. You do not expect to be lectured. You *will* pull your weight in the household like an adult.
Good luck kidda.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2006): She is your mother, one day when you have your own children you will understand, she wants to protect you and is trying to do what is best, i do think she has gone abit over board, i think the best option for you is to move out asap, i dont think she hates you for growing up i think she just doesnt want to beleive that your not her litle girl anymore and while your still sleeping under her roof she will still treat you as a child, this is not any fault of your own its just your mother being over protective and not being able to let go and wake up to the fact that your an adult now.
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