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writes: Hi,I have a major problem. My best friend's girlfriend recently told me that she is in love with me, and I feel the same way about her. I know that they had been having a few problems of late and that she wasn't happy with the relationship. She recently broke up with him and we have talked a lot about our feelings for each other. My best friend, however, is devastated that she has left him. I don't know what to do as I am sure that I belong with her. I dont want to hurt him or lose his friendship, but I also don't want to lose her.Any suggestions?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2007): hey man, i cannot relate to you more. im in practically the exact same situation except that theyre not broken-up..but she tells me they have a stupid relationship. im not entirely sure what to tell u but ill probably wind up following my own advice here haha. lately my friendship with my friend has been crumbling cuz ive been jealous that hes with her and im not which i guess is only natural. but what it really comes down to is deciding which relationship is more important to you. right now the girl i like has prtty much filled his gap..but losing his friendship isnt something i want but if theres no avoiding it.. though id hope hed understand my feelings. Feelings arent something you can control you know but id probly just wind up going out with her in secret you could say if they broke up nd we talkd things over nd such.. i wouldnt look at it as a betrayal or nething. if theyre broken up then thats that. he has his shot and now you deserve urs and hopefully ill get mine. dont pass up your chance, if u really love her then that should b the most important thing to you. commit to it and itl work. good luck. greg
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (6 June 2006):
 What's your rush? I'd let the pot simmer down if I were you. The girlfriend should be willing to wait for you out of respect for your friendship with the ex. He needs to recover a little bit before you move in. I'm not saying waiting a lifetime but at least give the guy time to get on his feet. Friends are too valuable and he'll feel better shortly and will be in better shape to accept your dating his ex. Good luck.
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reader, Smiler +, writes (6 June 2006):
 Hey there
hi sweetie.. this is a tricky one cause you don't want to loose this lady you have feelings for but you don't want to hurt your friends feelings either, your a very sweet guy for considering his feelings thoughout this situation, many would have carried on regardless so i commend you for your loyalty to your friend... but having said that if i were you i would go and see my friend and explain the situation fully, clear the way ahead as it were... tell him how you feel about this lady but don't over run that bit cause remember to take into account he used to love her to and he's probably still hurting, explain that you just wanna set the record straight between you and him cause you value his friendship and don't wanna loose him but you can't over look the feelings you have for her either explain that you are torn down the middle and just wanna put him in the picture if he is a true a friend to you as you are to him he will respect your honesty and value you as a true friend an step aside kinda thing and shake your hand and wish you luck with her.
I hope my advise helped you a little, Good luck sweetie, if you ever wanna talk or just more advise feel free to email me i'm always here for you ok would love to hear from you again
You Take Care Sweetie X
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