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writes: Just please help me. Yes I have typed this many many times but the answers I have got aren't helping! This girl I like, we are both girls, she recently made a couple of jokes about me being a lesbian and she is my girlfriend. I used to really like her but recently that spark went out. She has recently been acting like she's been attracted to me, because she watches me intently and she comes extremely close, and 'bumps' my hand with hers. I dunno if this is a sign she likes me but I don't care. It's been sitting on my lips and I really want to tell her I like/liked her. I been getting these mixed feelings about her, like one hour I like her; next I can't stand her.
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reader, matron +, writes (25 June 2006):
 Thats because you dont know where you stand with her, you dont know if she seriously fancies you or just joking about, does she know that you are gay? is she gay? you both need to sit down and seriously talk about the way you both feel, then you can move on with this either as freinds or in a relationship.
Be honest with yourself and her its the only way you can draw a line under your predicament. Lots of luck x
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (17 June 2006):
 The answer to your situation is the same for about 90% of the problems people write in with...just sit down with her and have a nice long talk about how you feel and listen to each other. 9 times in 10 you can straighten things out. Give it a try. There are no magic wands, you need to work things out for yourself. Good luck.
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reader, Jadzia1127 +, writes (17 June 2006):
 It is as easy as; Figure out what you want, then be honest with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2006): Maybe this girl likes you too but she is just not as open about being a lesbian. You have to just tell her that you liked her but she is giving u mixed signals. Tell her that it is not fair for her to be toying with your emotions. And even if she is not lesbian then you should tell her that even if you are not like her atleast you have the courage to be who you are and not who everyone else tells you to be. And that is something you should be very proud of :) Good Luck
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reader, Mickey_Powell +, writes (17 June 2006):
 Thats exactly what its like with my friend! One minute she is my best mate and we get along next minute (when shes drunk) but not that drunk! She says to me "your really pretty" "you are my best mate "i love you to bits" and wont stop touching me!
You should come straight out with it and ask her why is she doing it and the problem will fade away... tell her that u r feeling uncomfortable about what she is doing!
I told my friend that im 100% straight and i would never whatsoever have any feelings for the same sex! I told her that i feel uncomfortable about her always being there! And she stopped!
Trust me, when you tell ur friend, she will stop making u feel uncomfortable only if u let her know how u r feeling!!
Good Luck!! XxX
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2006): Perhaps you can answer this question yourself. How would you respond to a guy who jokes that - you're lovers - when in fact you aren't. Can the same response (slightly altered perhaps) work in the case you've written about?
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reader, auntie claire +, writes (16 June 2006):
 dear reader. these mixed feelings you are having and the used to "like" her do you mean you have been attracted to her??.
whatever way you liked/like her you need to be honest, she will e feeling these mixed feelings however hard you try to hide them.
i would like to knwo how old you are? if you are of school age then your not alone loads of girls go through the same thing. If your older then you need to find out who you are before you can be honest with her.
all the best to you i hope you find your answers
keep me posted xxx
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