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writes: do you think im too young to get married? i am 19 and me and my boyfriend are thinking of getting married pretty quick but is it the right decision dont get me wrong i love him to pieces but.... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2006): OK...Dont get married! You should enjoy yourself as a single girl. I dont mean like go out and date, but to enjoy your freedom. You dont get to have that much freedom when you're married, like going out to a club. Its almost like being stuck at home with your parents. You have to notify him when doing things at all times. You may say well I do that now, but its not the same as if you were married trust me. I was very young when I got married and I now know that I regretted doing it so early. I mean you're too young and its harder to deal with marriage right now. Of course you're of age and are an adult, but that doesnt mean nothing. Marriage is a huge commitment and something that is very serious. Your not your own person when you marry. You become one! You wouldnt even know for sure now if you're ready right now to take the big leap. I thought I was and I now look back and know that i was still a little immature (i was 18!) I thought i knew exactly what i wanted back then! I didnt. Our marriage was ruff because we werent ready! One because we were still immature and didnt know how to handle certain situations, we werent financially stable. Your problaby thinking well every marriage has there problems, but when you're young it 10 times harder! So dont do it. Trust me I know from expereince. I hope this helps!
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (6 June 2006):
 If you are wondering about this then you most likely are. Everybody is different. Marriage should never be entered into unless both parties are 100% sure about it. What harm could waiting do?
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reader, jessekk69  +, writes (6 June 2006):
 im 17 and im married to the father of my two children (well one and a bit, my second is due next week) im so happy and i dont believe for one minute i have the wrong descion!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2006): If you're not sure, and you know yourself better than anyone, then I would say you're not yet ready. You're 19....what's the rush?
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (6 June 2006):
 You are right to be concerned about getting married young. I know you love him but there are lots of other factors to consider too. Marriage is about more than love at the end of the day. It is about having the right financial and emotional balance to make it work. I am not saying it cannot work at 19, but you should give consideration to things like how this fits around your career, educational goals, housing situation, income etc. You may wish to live together to figure out if you are compatible. Marriage is a huge commitment and there is a greater failure rate amongst young people because of the added stress like low income and having to camp out with relatives as you cannot afford a place of your own. I waited until my 30's to get married because I had sorted out my career by then, dated enough men to be 'sure' that I wanted to commit to my husband and I had a home of my own. I am not saying don't do it, but don't get carried away with the romance of a wedding and the thought of being hitched. Maybe you should delay the wedding for a while until you are 100% sure.
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