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writes: Im needing a mans opinion on this, women are welcome. What turns a man on about a woman. Im wanting to spark up my relationship with my husband and I want him to desire me the way he used to when we first started dating. I try to do the things that I used do like dress provocatively and so on, but I cant seem to get his attention. I've tried to communicate to see what he likes, but he doesnt seem to want to communicate back and give me a hint. He says he loves me and that he's very lucky to have a hot wife, but yet he doesnt seem to show that much interest like come up and touch me. I would really like to get a mans opinion on this. Could you please give me some advice on what you men love in a woman?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2006): Hey
i understand your problem. SO, i can only give you some sex advice since i have done practicaly everyhting with a woman.
1) Does your husband have a fetish he is not telling you about? Try figuring it out: Legs, feet, BDSM, panties... See what you can do.
2) I know this may sound crazy, but have you tried alcohol? Not only will he tell you more, but if he loosens up, he might be more willin to do the "kinky" stuff.
You can always ask for more tips if you want,
Enjoy & good luck. I know it's hard, but remember confidence is the sexiest thing a woman can have. It's much sexier than any body part.
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reader, Helping_is_good +, writes (10 June 2006):
Hey
i understand your problem. SO, i can only give you some sex advice since i have done practicaly everyhting with a woman.
1) Does your husband have a fetish he is not telling you about? Try figuring it out: Legs, feet, BDSM, panties... See what you can do.
2) I know this may sound crazy, but have you tried alcohol? Not only will he tell you more, but if he loosens up, he might be more willin to do the "kinky" stuff.
You can always ask for more tips if you want,
Enjoy & good luck. I know it's hard, but remember confidence is the sexiest thing a woman can have. It's much sexier than any body part.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2006): [strokes fuzzy chin] Hmmm... Though some sort of reward would be in order, I don't think it would beat nor match the reward of riding Larry. [wink]
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (7 June 2006):
 Martini,
I might!! but what would my reward be, oh the naughtyness!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2006): Come on Smeedle, I know you want to purr and meow for me... [wink] Haha... 8]
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reader, smeedle +, writes (7 June 2006):
Right well ignore Martini, he clearley needs more help than you do, If I was you I would stop trying I would go totally the opposite of what you do now and just for a time try not bothering, you should just masterbate yourself nightly and definatly buy some "womans" mags, the ones with the naked blokes in, buy a porno film and tell him you are off upstairs for a bit of self pleasure and he can either stay downstairs or come up and join in or watch.
Dont exclude him, just ignore his not wanting you.
No reason you should miss out, and lets face it if this does not work he just aint worth the effort, If I thought my man was having to "sort himself out" and was not needing me for pleasuring then I would sit up and take notice and start to worry that I was not needed and so a spare part, this would make me get interested.
Give it a go, what have you to loose.
Oh and Martini "cats" please, the naughtyness!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2006): This is me again replying back to your answers. I dont thinks it a medical problem because we're both young in our 20's and because he takes testosterone pills for weightlifting and well those pills are suppose to get him going for sex also. We've been married for about 7 years now. I dont think he's cheating on me because he's very open on things (lets me see his phone, email etc.) and I already investigated (smelled cloths, check phone records, follow him to work, etc.) you name it i did and there are no signs! I seriously doubt that he's gay because he is so manly and I catch him every now and then looking at atractive women that walk past us when we go out just like any normal man does, and he is subscribed for playboy. May sound crazy, but i dont think he masterbates behind closed doors either because there really isnt that much privacy in our house to do such thing, and why would he choose to do that when he has me, his little hot wife to please him and who is willing to do anything he wants. I try to be creative and dress differently in lingerie, do different sex acts, create fantasy plays, do my hair a certain way, etc. So he wont get bored. I dont know, but this is frustrating. We only have sex once a month, twice a month if im lucky! Im in bad need of some love, affection, attention, and sex! Please any man out there, could you please give me some more very helpful tips on what I do to get him going or give some of your personal experiences! Thanks alot, for helping.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (6 June 2006):
 You don't say how long you have been married or how old you may be. Maybe he needs to get a check up and see if there is any physical problems and whether a medication (viagra) could help out. He obviously appreciates your loveliness and thinks you are hot so I'm thinking that it might be physical. Talk to him gently about this but talk you must.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (6 June 2006):
 Talk to your man and ask him if there is something bothering him. Men usually like to be desired by their women for their "manliness". How old are you? I think some amount of tapering off of sexual activity is to some degree, normal. It sounds like yo're doing all the right stuff. I know I'd be thrilled.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2006): Well I don't think you are willing to do the things my past companions had done for me, so... HOWEVER, I'll say it anyway... [laughs out loud] Clear heels... Oh yeah! 8] Or super high heels. Wow, those things really get me going. NOT all the time though. Hmmm... White or navy blue thongs. [scratches head] Something to do with personality - umm, sweet and silly. I would be watching television or on the computer working, and she'll suddenly very gracefully appear beside me, give me a hug or something and bat her eyelashes at me, bite her bottom lip lightly and give me this super 'naive' but perverted look. HAHAHAHA!!!
[ahem]
Damn, I have to stop thinking about stuff like that.
This is may be an odd thing for some of you, but I seem to have a thing for women that resemble cats - no, not fuzzy with a tail, though I wouldn't mind a girl with a tail... [laughs] Just a round head, big eyes, big smile, cleft-upper lip, loves to be patted... AH!
Okay, I will stop now. 8X
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