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writes: Hi I am 13 years old and I have a 15 year old boyfriend. We don't do anything sexual or anything and we aren't ready for that yet. I had a picture took of me in my sexy underwear and I was laying in a sexy pose. He swore to me when he took it he wouldn't show it to anyone, and we had an argument the other day and he showed it to everyone. He had loads of copies made and he has put it up round school and on lamp posts and I daren't let anyone see my face. It is so embarrassing. Does anyone have any suggestions what I could do? I am scared of what people will think. Thanx for advice given. Hope it gets posted.
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reader, snowbird  +, writes (4 July 2006):
 Dump him, and make your own poster, saying "I have'nt got any pictures to post up of this loser as he has nothing worth showing - and don't you think it says a lot more about HIM than me!!?" Well, that is what I'd feel like doing, but you don't have to lower yourself to his level...Just remember that is the conclusion most people will come to - and remember to warn any other poor girl who is thinking of going out with him that this is the way he treats his girlfriends!! But most of them will have seen the posters and will know what a rat he is anyway. So he has done himself more damage by doing this! You are young, and can learn from this mistake, so these things happen for a reason. One day you will laugh about this, beleive me! Take it as a lesson and be more careful who you trust next time, chick! :o) Good luck, hope you find someone who deserves you!
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reader, Astaroth +, writes (21 June 2006):
 agreed wombatwilly! one way to cut a guy to shreads in 3 words... 'its fucking tiny!'
another way, in 4 words... 'is it in yet?'
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (6 June 2006):
 I'd go with Dr Pete, if you look good in the photo don't worry.....tell everyone he has a small one, and see what happens....(like Pete says this may not be the best advice - but hey! sometimes revenge is sweet)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2006): Tell everyone you saw his penis and it is realllllllly small!
[may not be good advice]
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reader, Angelicc +, writes (6 June 2006):
 I agree with the answer written but if i was you i'll be thinking revenge dumping him wouldn't be enough for me, i would have to completely embarrass him. but that's just me
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2006): Advice? Dump his PATHETIC ass. He obviously doesnt care about your feelings or respect your privacy at all.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (5 June 2006):
 People will think whatever they want to think. Just hold your head up and wait for it to become old news. Nothing else can be done. Be a tad more choosey next time picking your boyfriends might help as well.
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reader, carebear +, writes (5 June 2006):
 Laugh and say "you should see the ones I took of him"!
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (5 June 2006):
 You've already done two things, I hope:
1. Dump this arrogant ass.
2. File this incident in your long-term memory, for the next time you're tempted to pose for a sexy wank-shot for some future boyfriend.
Let's reiterate your situation. You agreed to pose for this photo so that he'd have something to look at whilst he masturbates. Make no mistake about what he wanted it for. You made him promise not to show it to everyone, and as soon as you two had a tiff, he broke his promise, and in fact made an effort to show it to as many people as possible!
This boy is an nitwit and a loser. Dump him as fast as you can and never look back.
Now about the photo, and everybody in town: the only thing you can do when faced with an embarrassment this monumental is to accept it. If someone mentions anything about the pic and tries to dig at you over it, all you can so is shrug and say words to the effect of "Yes, that was a mistake I'll never make again". Leave it at that, and try to keep your face neutral.
Denying doing it, blaming him, getting embarrassed or angry are options that are only going to ensure that more attention comes your way. Face the problem head on and refuse to be embarrassed by it. (I know that's a BIG ask.) But if you do, and if you don't show that it gets to you, then it'll blow over much faster. Eventually people will stop giggling over your predicament, and start wondering about why your dickhead boyfriend would do such a thing.
In future, never, EVER agree to something like this. Right?
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reader, sam12344321 +, writes (5 June 2006):
 hi, this is an unusual way for someone to act, maybe he thought it would make him look big in front of his mates, this guy don't deserve you, if i was in your shoes i'd temm him straight its over, then see what he does, he may even beg for you back, but my reply would be CHANGE! hope this helps good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2006): dump the idiot! to teach him a lesson, then he will be running to u apoligising. ha! serves him right!
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