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writes: Did I give the wrong answer to his question? I have posted a few questions on this website before as have had a very difficult three months trying to get over the shock of my 4 year live in boyfriend dumping me out of the blue. Following advice I went out with my friends even when I didn't feel like it and was trying to get on with my tattered life. Anyway two weeks ago I met up with a guy who as we talked I found we had millions of things in common and when he even brushed my skin I felt electricity and when we kissed it made us smile lots which after all I'd been through I didn't think was possible. The next night we met up again and lituarally had to fight our urges as we were so attracted to each other. Last week he came round and we ended up sleeping with each other and then we met up with friends at the weekend and flirted and had a laugh again. Anyway he phoned two days ago and during the conversation mentioned he wasn't looking for a relationship as had come out of a 5 year relationship 6 months ago. I replied neither was I as I don't know what is going to happen as I have to move out of my flat I own with my ex in 2 months but I told him he makes me smile and I like him a lot and that was cool for me right now. I texted him yesterday asking if he fancied going to see a band with me on Thursday and I haven't heard anything back. So did I answer his question wrongly? what should I have said? I'm not a fool I know I'm not in love with him but we are definitely in lust and neither of us expected to feel so passionately about someone after being hurt by our exes. I don't think it is a rebound thing either as he has made realise that my ex was a waste of space if he couldn't treat me right and this new new guy is ten times better than him. He was the first thing to make me happy in ages and I'd like a few more smiles so what should I do now?
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reader, Smiler +, writes (5 June 2006):
 Hey there
hi sweetie no i don't think you answered wrong at all in fact you sound alot like me speak from your heart and wear your heart on your sleeve thats not a bad thing at all you were just being honest with him in my opinion, maybe he just does'nt wanna look to keen and be in touch in the next day or so you never can tell... in fact he may well repsect you for your honesty you never know, so hang on in there and see what happens even if he don't call or text back think of it as his loss honey you two had fun and thats that chalk it down for experience.. we have all been there
I hope my advise helped you ut a little sweetie Good luck, if you ever need a mate to talk to or just some more advise don't hesitate to email me i'm always here for you ok... would like to hear from you again let me know how you get on ok..
You Take Care Sweetie X
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (5 June 2006):
 All the aunts are in agreement here, you are doing just fine, hang in there. It's takes time to regroup after a break up and you might have gotten alittle too involved with this guy too fast but as you said you were having a great time together. If he responds back to you then great and if he doesn't at least you now know that men find you interesting and attractive and that makes your future much brighter than it did not to long ago. Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2006): No dear, you didn't answer his question wrong. You were honest. However, now that you've put the ball in his court by asking him out to see a band, it's up to him to answer and lob that ball back, in your court. If he doesn't answeror get back to you, just strike this up as a loss and get on with life. I will say, women have a tendency to get have sex and allowing their heart to get involved much too soon. Men have the ability to to do otherwise. It sounds like you want nore with this fellow but just don't expect a lot right now. Get out there and have fun with friends. Enjoy the freedom of being single and please rethink it, if you are ever tempted to have one-night stands again. Some people are quite emotionally equipped to keep their feelings 'at bay' when it comes to one night stands. Like many of us, I sense you may not be able to. You seem like a nice girl ...so protect your 'heart and emotions' until you have healed and recovered from your breakup. Good luck dear...and be happy.
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reader, shania  +, writes (5 June 2006):
 You didn't do anything wrong...you met this guy,you both wanted sex and enjoyed the moment.This fella only wanted sex...nothing more...thats why he didn't respond to you when you asked him out on a date to see a band...no strings attached.You say it wasn't a rebound...but it probably was...you were with your ex boyfriend for 4 years...thats a pretty long time so you are going to feel vunerable.Im not telling you what to do but i would wait until you feel emotionally ready for another relationship.One night stands are ok but not emotionally satisfying.Give yourself time to heal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2006): Hello, just take things for what they are, a bit of fun at the moment. Just remember that your feelings are very vulnerable at this time, you don't want to jump into the frying pan from out of the fire and get hurt again.I wouldn't text him now because you don't want to seem as tho you're chasing him. he did say that he wasn't looking for a relationship, so if he does contact you all well and good, but if he doesn't move on.
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