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male
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:I am a divorced man for the last 4 years. now I have a Girlfriend and we have been together for a year. We have discussed our relation ship and would like to take it to the next level. But my parents are very against it. I am 35 and I am only getting older. I can not take my time as good relationship does not pass you by everyday.So, I don't know how to confront this problem. It's like my parents dislike every girl I meet. It's almost like they don't want me to get married anymore.Yes, I know i have to talk to them, but they are not sort of a persons you feel quit comfortable to talk with.What steps should i take?
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (13 June 2007):
 that's "explain".
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (13 June 2007):
Good lord man, you are 35! You don't have to expalin your actions to your parents!!!! You are a big boy now. If they don't like your girlfriends...tough.
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reader, LauraE  +, writes (13 June 2007):
It would obviously best to talk to them, but if you can’t then you have to figure out what to do without involving them. Maybe they just don’t want you to be hurt again, or maybe they thought your ex-wife was perfect and still regret the divorce. This is their problem, not yours. Remember that you have only one life, and it belongs to you. You love your parents, and will always want to be their friend, but you are no longer their little boy. Don’t get together with this woman unless you really love her, because there is still plenty of time left for a man of your age. But if you think she is the one, then I think you should do whatever feels right. Be firm, but friendly with your parents, and above all, keep calm. In that way you won’t allow this to develop into a break between you and your family. It is likely that once they realise that you are going to get together with your girlfriend and they can’t stop you, they will come round and make an effort to be friendly with her. Maybe they will never be best mates with her, but I think you will find that you both can cope without that.
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