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writes:me and one of my really good guy friends have been talking about having sex..because we feel there is something between us...but i am only 14..should i consider having sex w/ him? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2007): im 14. AND my boyfriend is ALSO askin me if i want to have sex. but i said YES. but we havent did it yet. its a good thing i read ALL the comments. if i did not, my life will be a disaster and i will be so regretful. i keep thinking " what would it feel like to have sex for the first time in a young age? " i thought it would be pleasant. but i knew it WOULDNT. because i feel like i dont want to. SO, the next time my BOYFRIEND ask me that question again, i will say " srry, i dont want to.
if we did it, our love wont be the same. " and if he DUMP me for not having sex wit him, it means he only WANT to get my virginity and he'll show off to his friends that he HAD sex with me. AND that isnt a nice thing to do.
all im saying is; DONT HAVE SEX. im 14; like YOU. i know you are tempted to have sex but please dont. because all i know is, having SEX and not married yet is a SIN. so please dont. be SAVE by my words.
good luck. remember, we're here to support you to say "NO".
God Bless!
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reader, Sbrwneyes +, writes (24 June 2007):
 Being 14, it isn't very wise for you to have sex. I was 15 when I lost my virginity..and trust me, it's something that you will regret. You have something great, and well, once you loose it, it's like loosing apart of you, and you will never get it or that feeling back again. You should wait until you find someone great,and who you know for sure isn't using you. I'm not saying that guy will, but you never know. Wait until you're ready, and if you do...be sure to get tested, afterwards, you can never be to sure. =)
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reader, Choongalicious  +, writes (20 June 2007):
 I do not think taht this is a very wise decision and you will live to regret it when you get older. This sounds slightly patronising, but concentrate on more important things such as school. How will you feel when you sleep with your 'good friend' and later on in life you fall in love and wish that you had slept with the boy that you fell in love with??? Please leave it til later when you are a lot older and do not sleep with this guy. Wait until you are fully aware of what sex is about.
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reader, Ask_HanBan +, writes (19 June 2007):
 say no,
people who have sex at such a young age get sexually transmitted diseases which cause major effects in your reproductive system, like Clymidia
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (19 June 2007):
 Whenever anybody asks this question the answer is NO.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2007): please just trust me. at 14 you realy are still a child whether you like hearing it or not. im 21 years old and i didnt have sex for the first time until i was 18 years old. i actualy wish i was still a virgin, something so precious should be saved for the man that makes you his wife. trust me no 14 year old boy is thinking about marriage right now, they want to have sex with as many girls as they can at this age and all you will be is just another notch in his belt. and the sex is gonna feel 100 times better to him than it does to you. dont let this guy sweettalk you out of your innocence. if you wait god will send you the right man.
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reader, darksecretangel +, writes (19 June 2007):
 HeyNo i dont think you should. Your still very young and even if you want to do it, you might regret it when you are older and you meet someone who is special and you cant lose your virginity to them since you already did. Just because you feel a connection with him, doesnt mean that you two should have sex. Are you sure that there is something between you, instead of the normal friendly feelings. My advice is wait until you are older, and wiser and when you do lose your virginity dont forget to take precautions.Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2007): No, No No. Hold off, dear. Most of the Aunts on this thread below, made a good point to you about one important thing...regret. I cannot tell you how many young women have told me that they had wished they had waited to have sex, until they were much older. Some readily admit they were far too young and naive to make this choice, they didn't realize the value of their bodies. Many 13, 14 year old girls are only interested in what sex is like, they have no understanding of how special sex really is in a committed, adult relationship with a man you really love. Many girls your age feel the actual physical experience of sex was good, but they all said, they felt really, really bad emotionally, afterward. By the time you reach your late teen years, you'll have a better chance of being able to really think through decisions, take precautions and understand the possible consequences of sex (pregnancy, disease, a broken heart). The longer you wait, the better the chances that you’ll be happy with your decision and with that comes self-esteem and the value for yourself. Take Care, hun
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2007): Hunny,
we are not all the same, your friend having sex and feeling fine doesnt mean you will feel the same, my friends had sex before i did... I was 16 when i first had intercourse and i got pregnant and lost the baby.. sweety i always regreted it i was to young then TAKE CARE HUN LOTS OF LOVE XXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2007): Hi love,
No would be my answer, wait untill you are older you would regret it and you wont be able to take it back.. You have plenty of time to enjoy your life untill sex comes into it.. Hunny give it time you wont regret it TAKE CARE LOTS OF LOVE XXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, cnfsdnluv +, writes (19 June 2007):
Please don't! You have your ENTIRE life ahead of you to have sex there is no need to rush!!! And, whether you want it to or not, it will change your relationship with your friend and it will change you. Not to mention, and I know you dont' want to hear it, but I remember high school (which I'm assuming you are entering or already in). And, I remember that these things always got around the school and caused more havoc than necessary for whoever they involved. In other words, save yourself the hassle of being "that girl" by waiting until you know yourself better AND you know and love your partner better...
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reader, im_still_daddys_lil_girl +, writes (19 June 2007):
im_still_daddys_lil_girl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionjust recently my best friend who is 15, had sex with her boyfriend. and she seemed just fine after it happened? i've been considering having sex w/ my good friend for sometime, and her having sex w/ her boyfriend helps w/ my desision...what should i do?
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reader, drbroz +, writes (19 June 2007):
 Because you feel there is something between you is not a good enough reason. And, frankly you are too young. There are a lot of better, less dangerous things that you two can do together, now aren't there? You are so vulnerable to getting your feelings crushed and perhaps even worse.
You need to see a medical professional and seek out birth control if you are thinking of becoming sexually active. At the very least read on-line everything you can about the dangers of casual sex. And, please read about how teen-age mothers cope in this society. It's not pretty.
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reader, deejuliet +, writes (19 June 2007):
 No, sweetheart, you should not even consider having sex with him. You are way too young. Lots of people look back and regret having sex too early, but nobody looks back and regrets waiting.
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