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writes: My husband wants to have sex twice a day and I am not able to comply. I feel so sad. What should I do? Reply to this Question Share |
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reader, DV1 +, writes (20 June 2007):
If you can't have sex twice a day, you could try doing other things to stimulate him. There is always oral sex, or masturbation. That may help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2007): There are those who desire sex more often than the "norm" and there are those who can go without indefinitely.
There are times when I am happy in being in love with a good man and desire him for marathon sex. Then there are days when I am content to just be held.
It is so easy to say that he has a problem, and I don't think he does. Some people wake up in the morning and are wanting to have sex as a means to start the day, relaxed, happy, in love. And some are happy to end the day with sex, to release stress, be content, relax.
Sex is an act that is meant to bring to people closer, create a stronger bond with one another, to be pleasureable and that your husband wants it of you is acceptable.
It is another issue if you yourself do not enjoy it where this is just a sexual mismatch and communication is key to resolve this issue as is listening and acceptance as well as working together to come to an "arrangement" where the both of you can be happy.
Good luck.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2007): im so jealous, we can swap partners if ur ok with just twice a week instead of twice a day?
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reader, eddie +, writes (20 June 2007):
There is a range of what would be considered normal for sexual frequency. I'd say your partner is off the scale. While it's not a bad thing if you both want sex twice a day, the fact is, you don't. He needs to adjust his demands.
If you were offering sex twice a month, I'd say you were the one with the issue. In reality, whatever the frequency, it's only an issue when one partner is getting what they need. I think that needing sex twice a day indicates something else. I'm not sure what it is though.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (20 June 2007):
Twice a day, EVERY day? Sheesh! Show him where the shower is and how to turn it to cold.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (20 June 2007):
Talk to your husband about how you are feeling. He has a very high sex drive where as I'm guessing you dont have so much. My partner at the moment has a higher sex drive as I'm pregnant and I sat down and spoke to him about it and he thought I'd gone off him or something, which I hadn't I'm just not in the mood a lot of the time. Your partner should respect you don't want it twice a day.
xxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2007): Sex is an activity for both of u to enjoy and is unfair of him to make it seem such a chore to you. Have you tried talking to him about it he may be more understanding than you think, or make your own demands, girls have got to have fun too. If he still insists and pressures you then maybe you should think about the relationship further than just the sexual side of it.
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