A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have a problem. I am married to my husband but i'm in love with another man. I don't know what to do. The guy who had taken my virginity is who I am in love with even before I married my husband. I haven't seen or heard from that guy for 2 years now. I know he doesn't want anything to do with me. I just cant get this feeling I have for him out of my system. The reason I stoped talking to him was because I wasn't as tight as I was when I met him(If u know what I mean) so he stop talking to me. I knew he had other women but I just loved him and I still do. I never see him any more anywhere I go places where I think he is going to be but he is never there. This love never dies or subsides and I dont know what to do. I know deep in my soul that he is my soul mate. The way i connected with him and the way I felt in his presence made me feel unbelievable. I fight day by day to forget about him but I can't. Please what should I do?????????
View related questions:
soulmate Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2007): You hit it on the head. That is what I'm going through but, I haven't seen him in 10years he moved to New Yersey. He was my high school lover, I think about him all the time.Why I'm I feeling like this.
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2007): Divorce your husband, and focus on finding the man you really love. And do what ever you can to win his love.I just found my high school sweetheart after 53 years. She gave me her virginity when she was 16 and I was 19. I went into the Army, and she married someone else when she was 18. She always loved me, and still does, even though she is still married. I've been married twice, because she is the only girl I really loved. We were soul mates, Both musicians and both very much in love. Our parting, was the biggest mistake of our lives. She and I both agree to that............Good luckPS We found each other through "Classmates"
...............................
A
female
reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (14 June 2007):
 In all fairness you shouldn't have gotten married while you were still carrying the torch for someone else but that's water under the bridge at this point. Since there is no future with your "soulmate" (a term that makes me cringe)why are you still dwelling on him? Is it because you lost your virginity with him? Everyone remembers the first person they had sex with but usually it just remains a fond memory and that's it. I assume you must have feelings for your husband or you wouldn't have married him. Focus on those feelings and get busy with your marriage. That's where the future is.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2007): Hi darling,
oh you are going through a bad time, a wise lady once said to me we may meet our soul mate and we may loose our soul mate but that doesnt meen we have lost for ever.
You had a wonderfull expierence and you want it back if you did get it back it may never be as it was, I no your not happy at the moment and your mind is focused on this man, There is a book called how do you no if you have found your soulmate now ive read so many that off the top of my head the author has gone, if you go on to the amazon site and pop in soul mates you should find it love.
You need to do something other than searching for this man as much as your heart is telling you to and i do feel for you and understand what you are going through, If you carry on the way you are going it could make you quite ill.
So im saying slow down take a breath all your energy is going into this and you are not leaving anything for you and in the end you will burn out.
if you need to talk im hear and i hope you can sort this out i do feel my love you need to slow down you cant sleep breath and live like this its all to much for you, please take care lots of love xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
...............................
A
male
reader, kenny  +, writes (14 June 2007):
 I think you have got to get this other guy out of your head and concentrate on you marriage. You said yourself he does not want anything to do with you, you don't see him around anywhere, so don't ruin your marriage over something that will never be.
Good luck x
...............................
A
female
reader, Jualsy  +, writes (14 June 2007):
 We can all feel special about our first loves, but you are ion a situation today that you have CHOSEN to be in, so ask yourself why you made that decision initially?
What are the chances of you going back and being at ease with yourself? Is it really what you want, or sentamentality and remembered affection??
You say you cannot stop thinking about him....sure you can!! No one else but YOU is in control of what you think. The past has gone.....live for and appreciate what you have today....you made vows when you got married. Think about that and value yourself enough to keep them.
Onwards and Upwards hopefully!!...its up to you!!
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2007): If you mean what I think you do, you have some pretty warped worries and concerns about your body. I have no idea how you can think that issues means you do not deserve his love. It seems you will just have to get over it and if your husband is a good man you are very lucky. Please get some counselling about this demented self-image that you have and this love for someone who is cruel. There is obviously a lot going on behind this and you need some help.
...............................
|
