We are both history professors and I hate to ask but I need tips on how to pusue this beautiful, intelligent woman!
Q. I have never been the most confident or the most attractive male and at this point in time. I actually hate to admit that. I am 32 years old, single, have only had three girlfriends in the past, and only had sex with two of them. Now, I know my ...
A. 25 March 2009: Awwww this is so sweet. I hope the very best for you.... (read in full...)
I think he's gay and I want to break it off! How do I end this?
Q. I have been dating this guy for a month now and I have always suspected he was gay. Here's why: 1. He likes to get manicures and pedicures. 2. He knows nothing about cars or sports...I know way more than him. 3. He talks about how his male frie...
A. 24 March 2009: If you don't want to be with him any longer then just tell him as gently and as FIRMLY as you can. Some things were just not meant to be, he'll be just fine he just sounds like he likes the drama.... (read in full...)
I am hurt by this behaviour and wonder if I should behave the same way
Q. I am a married woman that has a great male friend through a business partnership. We would spend long periods of time talking to each other and I confided some of my marital problems to him. I realised that we developed feelings for each othe...
A. 24 March 2009: Stick with the business as usual. I think you just dodged a bullet, Congrats!... (read in full...)
How does anyone ever trust a cheater again?
Q. Many answers advise that if you have been cheated on, the cheater is going to lie to cover up the truth or to make things seem less serious than they actually were. I am in that situation and my question is, if the cheater is assumed to be lying, h...
A. 24 March 2009: Deciding to forgive a cheater depends on the circumstances I guess. Was it a one time mistake? Was it physical or emotional cheating? Was it full blown sex over a period of time? Lots of different circumstances and lots of different decisions? Trust ... (read in full...)
What would you make him do to win you back?
Q. This will be really long and complicated because I am afraid if I don't explain it right then I will get advice when people still just don't understand and I'm getting enough of that as it is. I'm 16, so is my boyfriend, it's been six months. ...
A. 24 March 2009: You can't "make" him do or think anything. I for one wouldn't want to be with someone who doesn't think of me as #1. Where is you pride? Sorry you don't want to hear it but here it is: DUMP HIM.... (read in full...)
Opinions on women going braless
Q. Well I have been doing some research and I keep finding out that it has never been proven that bras help keep breast firm, or stop them from sagging. I've been thinking about this issue, and what bras mean in the bigger picture, and I just don't ...
A. 24 March 2009: Ahhhh the 60's are back!!!!! Speaking as an ex-hippie I'll share what the pundits were saying back in the day. If you can put a pencil underneath a breast and it stays there (not pointy end in first mind you) then you need to wear a bra. If it ... (read in full...)
I've gotten my tutor into big trouble!
Q. Ok im 17 and basicly I have a tutor who I have liked for a long time and i was pretty sure he liked me too because of how flirty he was with me he'd like stroke my leg, playfully grab the back of my neck,ask me to stay behind class to help him do ...
A. 24 March 2009: As long as you told the truth then you should not feel any guilt. Parents expect teachers to teach and protect their children while under their care. It sounds like this guy dropped his end of the bargain. If you told the truth the guilt belongs to ... (read in full...)
I have moved out because of wife's emotional abuse but now I can't see my daughter
Q. I have been having marital difficulties for the last 6 months. I have now moved out as I cannot no longer put up with my wife's mood swings,lack of trust, emotional and verval abuse and ingratitude. We have a 6 month old daughter who I am now ...
A. 24 March 2009: She can't deny you visitation unless she can prove you are unfit, see a lawyer ASAP.... (read in full...)
How do I walk in high heels?
Q. Hey! This is one for the girls [i'm not sure there are many guys who will know!] I've been a bit of a tom boy all my life [i'm now almost 18 - in 2 months] and when i go to party's i usually wear a skirt with tights and flat boots. I'm now ...
A. 24 March 2009: Practice, practice, practice. Walk on stairs, carpet, smooth floors, all over the place. Remember to scuff up the bottom of the shoes on some cement so you don't have to worry about slipping. You'll get the hang of it.... (read in full...)
Why won't he trust me? Should I tell him that I over heard him?
Q. I have been with my husband since high school, we got married last summer and I thought we had the perfect relationship. He is in the army and will be leaving to do a 8 month tour on April 15. Last night I overheard him telling his brother that...
A. 24 March 2009: Bless his heart, he's just suffering from the "I'm leaving my pretty young bride,(who any guy would be lucky to have) who I love with all my heart, behind to fend for herself for 8 months" syndrome. Talk to some of your friends in the military, it's ... (read in full...)
We are both history professors and I hate to ask but I need tips on how to pusue this beautiful, intelligent woman!
Q. I have never been the most confident or the most attractive male and at this point in time. I actually hate to admit that. I am 32 years old, single, have only had three girlfriends in the past, and only had sex with two of them. Now, I know my ...
A. 24 March 2009: I hope the poster writes back when he gets his answer. I can't wait.... (read in full...)
His behaviour has made me feel jealous. Help!
Q. I am a woman who can admit to other women as being beautiful but enough is enough. My boyfriend stares at every nice looking girl...not look but stares. So when I'm talking to him he doesn't hear a word I say. I asked him to stop doing that around ...
A. 24 March 2009: I told you why, men can be such dorks, some more than others. Find a guy who is mildly dorky if you can't deal with this one.... (read in full...)
Will having anal sex ruin you or stretch you out in "that area"??
Q. Just curious... will having anal sex ruin you or stretch you out in "that area"?? How long does it generally take to work up to being able to actually have anal sex without it hurting so much?...
A. 24 March 2009: When you eat your dinner do you shove the peas up your nose and down your throat or do you use that perfectly functional mouth? I firmly believe that if you use body parts for things they aren't designed for you ARE going to regret it sooner or ... (read in full...)
I really want to be in porn!!!
Q. I really want to be in porn. It's my dream. What do I do. I'm even on chatrooms where I meet up for all sorts of sex with all sorts of people and send photos of me. Everyone says I'm a stunner and I really just really want to be a porn star. Advice ...
A. 24 March 2009: Ask Mommy and Daddy to drive you to see an agent. I like to see young people who aim for the stars.... (read in full...)
His behaviour has made me feel jealous. Help!
Q. I am a woman who can admit to other women as being beautiful but enough is enough. My boyfriend stares at every nice looking girl...not look but stares. So when I'm talking to him he doesn't hear a word I say. I asked him to stop doing that around ...
A. 24 March 2009: Men can be such dorks. Sit him down and tell him to keep his ogling under control when he is out and about with you or you won't be going anywhere with you in the future. It's rude behavior pure and simple, both to you and the other women. As far as ... (read in full...)
I don't want to lose my husband but I can't live with a liar!
Q. Hi, Need some help.. How do you trust a husband that has lied on numerous occasions?? He's never cheated or anything like that but we've had alot of problems lately over his drinking and friends.. We seperated earlier this year because once aga...
A. 24 March 2009: If he won't go to counseling, go without him, you may learn some important information. You can't force him to change his behavior. Go get all the information you can so you can make an informed decision.... (read in full...)
I was tricked and I'm hurt .
Q. Oh my god I can't even begin to tell you. The love of my life is NOT what I thought he was. I thought he moved away, at least that's what I was told, cried myself to sleep that night when he comes back. I thought we had broken up but you know that ...
A. 24 March 2009: That's "improves"...apparently even though life improves my typing doesn't.... (read in full...)
I was tricked and I'm hurt .
Q. Oh my god I can't even begin to tell you. The love of my life is NOT what I thought he was. I thought he moved away, at least that's what I was told, cried myself to sleep that night when he comes back. I thought we had broken up but you know that ...
A. 24 March 2009: You won't be 13-15 forever, just try to gut all this nonsense out, life imporves dramatically when you get older.... (read in full...)
Help me before this teacher crush turns into a obsession....
Q. Well firstly I was one of the first people to meet him years ago. I think it was love at first sight (I know it sounds cheesy but just bear with me) I developed a crush on him for months because he was the sweetest guy I'd ever met in my whole ...
A. 24 March 2009: Try to funnel all this passion into your class work, that will pay off in the end, whereas a deadend crush does you no good. Get involved with your school activities as well because that looks good on college applications and keeps you busy at the ... (read in full...)
She really wants me to go to her party... what should I do?
Q. One of my best friends is going to invite me to her party. I want to come and I know I can come but the thing is I'm not really friends with the people she is inviting. Some of them are total bitches to me and she doesn't know that. A couple of ...
A. 24 March 2009: Do exactly what Irish suggests, she is a very wise Aunt. Go and have a wonderful time, you may have to pretend at first but I'm willing to bet you will end up actually enjoying yourself!... (read in full...)
I've been sneaking around having sex with him and now I want his baby
Q. I have been having sex with this guy, who has a kid who I believe is around the age of 4 or 5 with a woman and he is an excellent father, the kid likes him better than the mother. He is not married to her but still lives with her he has been living ...
A. 24 March 2009: You don't need advice you need a therapist. There are too many things fundamentally wrong with your thinking. Get professional help. Oh and keep getting those shots.... (read in full...)
Moving in with girlfriend and her kids
Q. Hay everybody, My girlfriend and I have been in relationship for almost two years and have decided to move in together.She has three kids (7,9 and 11 from first marriage).She is seeling her house and with that money will pay off her mortgage and...
A. 24 March 2009: Yep David you need to discuss this with an attorney.... (read in full...)
Broke up with ex, I'm happy, he's not, how can I help him cope?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend of 4yrs just over a week ago. He'd given me many reasons to doubt his love for me, he just stopped caring about everything and refused to ever talk to me about it. Throughout the relationship i'd caught him having sexual ...
A. 24 March 2009: It's not your responsibility to help him cope. I think you better find it in yourself to drop all conversation with him after all. Break ups are best if they are done cleanly and there isn't that dangling hope of getting back together on anyone's ... (read in full...)
Abnormal nipple erection
Q. I am 21, female, single. I have a problem of abnormal erection of my nipples. I have good firm breasts but only my right breast nipple erects and becomes really hard while the other nipple remains the same i.e. it does not errect. Please advise in ...
A. 24 March 2009: Everyone has differences from one side of their bodies to the other. You may have an inverted nipple, no big deal until you need to nurse a baby. Ask you doctor if you need some reassurance that you are just fine. I guarantee no guy is going to care ... (read in full...)
Why do my friends and himself won't tell me why he stopped talking to me?
Q. I met this boy about a year ago in the summer, when I went back down South to see my old friends. He's a friend's friend, and we hit it off straight away. It's just a friendship, he was basically in love with the friend that introduced us. After ...
A. 24 March 2009: He most likely is involved with someone else at the moment. Maybe nobody wants to hurt your feelings by telling you, you kind of make it clear you think of him as more than just a friend, you know.... (read in full...)
My b/f touches me in intimate places whenever he feels like it! Normal?
Q. Hello there, My boyfriend of 7 years likes to come up to me and touch my breasts and private area whenever he feels like. When I tried to tell him stop because I am in the middle of something, he would ask me if I would be happier if he di...
A. 24 March 2009: There is a time and place for everything. Tell him the time and place you like him to touch you. Unless he is a total idiot he should be able to accomodate you. Your body your rules.... (read in full...)
I'm really falling for my friend with benefits!
Q. I'm 14 and he's 15. We're friends with benefits! It started about a year ago with just fingering, then oral, then vaginal sex in all different positions and then anal. Now we just do whatever whenever. I think I'm falling for him, he's so lovely ...
A. 24 March 2009: Well at least you are a happy slut. As long as you don't care that you will used, bruised and tattooed before you are even an adult I guess we Aunts shouldn't give a rip either.... (read in full...)
OMG my life is such a mess!!!
Q. hiya ;) well right my mum's married to this guy who i actualli hate like not dislike he hates me too and if i ask my mum a question he will always but in and earlier my mum was telling me off and i said well why are you shouting at me and then he ...
A. 24 March 2009: Not much you can do. Try to keep a low profile when he is around and do as your mother says and try to ignore him when you can. Study hard at school so you will be able to make plans to get out of the household as soon as you can. Where's your Dad ... (read in full...)
My husband had an affair with our daughter in law!
Q. four months ago my husband came to me and confessed to an affair. this was the second time he cheated-or at least that i caught him. first was ten years ago with his secretary. i forgave him then but this time was much harder. it turned out the ...
A. 24 March 2009: I agree with the guppy. This is nuts. Your husband goes beyond just "weak", he's a total loser. It's especially wrong since you son is currently serving his country. What kind of man does this to his own wife and son? Yuck. Get rid and tell your ... (read in full...)
Will he get back to me?
Q. Will he get back to me? The other day I discovered my "man" still had feelings for his ex. I truly love him and told him I would be prepared to wait for him, but seeing I was also a bit annoyed with him I also told him I didn't know when I would se...
A. 23 March 2009: Why on earth did you tell him you'd be willing to wait for him? He knows he has you in his back pocket. Get busy, go out with your friends, go on dates and hopefully he will hear about it and realize you aren't sitting home waiting for his call. You ... (read in full...)
Husband refuses to pull his weight
Q. I have a problem with my husband. We have known each other for about 2 1/2 years and have been married for about 7 months now. We have been through a lot together, and I have recently immigrated to be with him, and am now trying to get my papers ...
A. 23 March 2009: Completely stop picking up after him. Leave his stuff where he leaves it (unless the wet towel is on your side of the bed, in which case toss over to his side). Maybe after awhile he'll get sick of wearing dirty shorts and start putting them in the ... (read in full...)
13 year age difference an acceptable age gap?
Q. Once both parties are legal, is 13 years an acceptable age gap? Some people say it's gross or awkward, but my parents had an age difference of 14 years (they ended up getting divorced, but not because of that...). WHat do you think?...
A. 23 March 2009: If you are truly only 16-17 then a 13 year gap is way too large. There is a huge difference between a 16 year old young lady and a 29 year old man. Once you are in your twenties it won't matter as much.... (read in full...)
Is a girl sending him photos of herself?
Q. I'm 14. My boyfriend is 17. I found loads and LOADS MEANS LOADS of porn on his laptop. I came off straight away, but can't stop thinking about it! He asked me to show me my vagina on webcam anf i refused! Some of the pictures look like from phones ...
A. 23 March 2009: Yikes you are only 14 and you have to deal with all this crap? Your boyfriend sounds like bad pizza to me, I'd start looking around for a decent guy if I were you, in fact I'd just hang with friends and have some fun. Put having a boyfriend on the ... (read in full...)
Broke up still sleeping together, but he says we shouldn't
Q. Can anyone shed some light.... My boyfriend finished with me a few weeks ago and since then we have continued sleeping with each other, i am still crazy about him and it was my fault we broke up, we argued a lot. It's obvious he still cares about me...
A. 23 March 2009: I think you should stop sleeping with him. In fact I would stop all contact. He will then be able to see what his life is like without you in it. Don't settle for less than the whole tamale.... (read in full...)
Use vibrator for stimulationj want boyfriend involved!
Q. I don't honestly know how to say this but the other week my boyfriend and I were having anal sex. It's a regular thing. But when he 'pulled out' I emptied my bowels involuntarily. At first I thought something was wrong and my boyfriend was a bit ...
A. 23 March 2009: Yuck, keep it to yourself.... (read in full...)
Is it possible we could get together in the future?
Q. Me and my boyfriend of 11 months broke up because i had gotten bored with our relationship and felt like it was going no where. Im 17 and he is 19. I can see us together later on but just not right now. Do you guys think that we could successfully ...
A. 23 March 2009: Never say never. Anything is possible.... (read in full...)
I'm so tired of being a faithful good girl when no one else is!
Q. I have fallen for my boss. He is young, funny, beautiful and very sexy. The problem is that he is married and I already have someone. Recently, I find out that my someone else is seeing somebody too. He has been seeing her for a year.I am so tired ...
A. 23 March 2009: Firstly, at 41-50 years old you are hardly a "girl" good or bad. And secondly, you should be old enough and wise enough at this point in life to see that screwing your married boss is a bad idea and that your so called "someone else" needs a ... (read in full...)
He's not a teacher, just a trainee teacher and not that much older than me. I think this is more than just a crush.
Q. Hi, everyone :) Here goes... For a while now, I have had feelings for a male member of staff at my school. He's not a teacher, but a trainee teacher who takes classes as a supply teacher from time to time. He looks to me in his early twenties...
A. 23 March 2009: Off limits. Other wise he can kiss his teaching career goodbye and I'm sure you would want to be the reason now would you?!... (read in full...)
My husband became suddenly impotent. Any ideas why and what can be done?
Q. Hi, I;m really looking foreword,to see your take on my situation... This is about my husband. So we live together 25 years ago, and a few years ago ,my husband went limp suddenly in a middle of an intercourse. It never happened before. We just sto...
A. 23 March 2009: I think the doctor made a bad call. Erectile dysfunction is not easy to diagnose. Ask the doctor to prescribe Viagra or Cialis and see if that helps. He may be acting cold because he's embarrassed about all this. If you guys are upfront and relaxed ... (read in full...)
He says he didnt write that email. Could the computer have a virus, or is he lying?
Q. Just a couple of hrs ago I was mailing out an Invoice for my partener of 8yrs and opened up his contacts which opened up an old email account of his that was rarely used. I found an email in the drafts folder addressed to Sexy Men Directory. The ...
A. 23 March 2009: A virus does not COMPOSE an email they may be attached to an email but they don't write them, people do. The fact that it was in a drafts folder makes it likely that he never sent it out. It's definitely time to sit down and have a long chat. Good ... (read in full...)
I've been confused with his behavior
Q. How can I forget about a man who has cheated on me twice been physically abusive.. I've been with him for 4yrs and I know he love's me we've had a rocky relationship cuz I've been confused with his behavior. I'm a single 33yr old mother with 2 b...
A. 23 March 2009: Sorry you are confused, I'm not. He used you for a punching bag, that ends the confusion as far as I'm concerned. Unless you want to raise two more fatheads that think punching a woman is okay then you'd best get the hell out of Dodge.... (read in full...)
Should I be happy that even though he goes out and he gets female attention it's me he wants?
Q. My boyfriend is gorgeous. He has the charm to go with it that's why I love him so much. Thing is he has lots of friends, female ones too! And I seem to have a problem with this. I know that they fancy him and would love to be with him he gets a lot ...
A. 23 March 2009: You should be happy and get a handle on the jealousy issue, it's a realtionship time bomb.... (read in full...)
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