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*edjpd
writes:I have been having marital difficulties for the last 6 months. I have now moved out as I cannot no longer put up with my wife's mood swings,lack of trust, emotional and verval abuse and ingratitude. We have a 6 month old daughter who I am now being denied access to as she will not communicate with me. Is my only option now to instruct a solicitor to get access/custody? We have/are been doing counselling - things improve for a while and then slip back.I have tried but have had enough of the abuse, constant derision of me,my family, my friends and my job.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2009): You might have to leave it for a little while until she calms down a bit. When my husband left me - for near enough the same reasons I wouldn't let him see our son as I was so angry with him for leaving me. Yes you can get a lawyer involved but believe me it costs thousands of pounds and if she doesn't want to play ball whatever the lawyers say she will prevent you from seeing her. I kept this going for years as I was so angry and even now only let my ex husband see our child rarely. I am not proud of the way I have and continue to behave but hell hath no fury like a woman spurned so I suggest you are nice to your wife, give her a glimmer of hope if there is one and then she will feel more amenable. It is all too raw at the moment. Remember some women do not move on easily.
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reader, Allisseo  +, writes (24 March 2009):
Hi there redjpd!Gosh but this is tricky! The main thing is that the blame lyes on her. You need to be fully aware of your parental rights and responsibilities. You could go to a small family court but some people feel uneasy about this because they feel it drives them and thier partner far apart and have bad feeling towards eachother.Your partner cannot legally prevent you from seeing your child, unless she has gained that right in a court of law.I hope everything works out.Allisseo
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (24 March 2009):
 She can't deny you visitation unless she can prove you are unfit, see a lawyer ASAP.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2009): She is suffering from post partum depression and she needs counseling.You didn't realize it and you are putting her through divorce.PPD lasts for two years.She needs Medical help fast.And you can start reading up on it to help her cope with it better.Love means though good and the bad.This is the worst.Please be there for her.
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