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writes:I have fallen for my boss. He is young, funny, beautiful and very sexy. The problem is that he is married and I already have someone. Recently, I find out that my someone else is seeing somebody too. He has been seeing her for a year.I am so tired of doing the right thing, being a good girl and being faithful when i am only being made a fool of over and over. What can I do?
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reader, guppypig +, writes (24 March 2009):
You would inflict precisely the pain you're experiencing, many times multiplied, on your boss's wife, an innocent woman who has nothing to do with you getting dumped.
Why?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2009): eyeswideopen is spot on as she says you are more than old enough maybe not wise enough though to no better,screwing around just isn't the answer to you problems, as Gina says he's married and you will just be another easy lay and a memory in a few months.Read Mae's story she tried it and read her misery now because she dipped her toe,your b/friend is way wrong but 2 wrongs don't make a right.Do the right thing and forget the married man thing, as you have been told you wil only end up with a lot of misery and guilt.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (23 March 2009):
 Firstly, at 41-50 years old you are hardly a "girl" good or bad. And secondly, you should be old enough and wise enough at this point in life to see that screwing your married boss is a bad idea and that your so called "someone else" needs a seriously kick to the curb. Tempus fugit, babes
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2009): Giving away your body to another becuase you have been hurt will only cause you so much more pain,keep your own respect and one day you will look back and say well even if they were doing wrong then at least I can look at myself with respect.If this relationship doesn't work out then when you meet someone else, you don't want to tell them you had an affair with your married boss and if you meet the right man then neither will you wan't mucky secrets,love is about truth and honesty and don't let others draw you to there levels, wait and your time will come and at least you will be in tact to deal with life and have dignity too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2009): Please don't go there read all the other stories here, married men who have affairs especially one's like boss's who abuse there powers off position are just gross.He is out to get what he can when he can and then you will be left feeling much worse than you do right now.He's married and cheating on everyone, this is often the case he is getting away with it, poor wife doesn't know what or who she's married to and he carries on not giving a damn about anyone apart from himself.Get this man well out your life or he will crash you and your world, he's gross dump him and let him live in his pathectic horrible world full of lies and deceipt, it's not about being a good girl,it's about you having pride and self worth the more you hang on the more he will take and abuse his power.Yuck what a way to live, much more is waiting round the corner find one of the good men who do exist and look bck on this creep with the contempt he deserves.
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reader, Mae5  +, writes (18 March 2009):
 Hi, I am sorry about your boyfriend. If this has happened over and over again and you dont love him then maybe its time to move on from the relationship. As far as your boss is concerned I cant tell you from my own experiance, dont go there. If you are feeling worthless just now it will only get worse if anything starts with your boss. He is married and the chances are he wants to stay married so if he does get involved with you it will only be to use you. Be kind to yourself, tell your boyfriend how you feel, confront him about what he is doing and decide if the relationship is worth saving. If it is at least you can try and sort it out without any guilt about anything. If its not worth saving then you should admit that and move on. At least then it will leave your life open to meet someone else who is single and worth your time and attention. Dont put yourself down any more by getting involved with the married man, it will only end in tears and possibly you losing your job or being forced to leave. I wish you well, take care. Mae.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2009): Come on your logic is really faulty on this one. So you have morals only if everyone else on the planet will do the same? As long as there are humans on the planet there are going to be a good percentage of them who are not very nice and another percentage who are and will always do the right thing and their reward is not in being good because everyone else is, their reward is in doing the right thing because they are a good person....they are living true to their own set of values.....
Married men are off limits, period. You sound like you are a little desperate here, he is young and cute and funny and married......and you must feel you are not so you want what he has got, you want to take some other woman's man to make you feel better about the one you are with going with someone else. That is a sure way to spread your "joy" around!
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reader, kaylagal +, writes (17 March 2009):
 I'm sorry about your bf, he is obviously a tool. Don't hook up with boss, he's married, that's enough for you to leave him alone.
Good girls are taken for granted sometimes, don't change who you are coz of how you're being treated. Let the boyfriend go, and in time you will find a man who is good and faithful to you and only you.
K.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2009): dump your boyfriend for being (well put in your own word.) get your self respect back and fine someone who loves you and wont shag around.
ignore boss that's just lust from your loins as result of boyfriend - behave with dignity and poise and see answer on getting better boyfriend.
Hope that helps
Star.x.
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