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writes:I'm 14. My boyfriend is 17. I found loads and LOADS MEANS LOADS of porn on his laptop. I came off straight away, but can't stop thinking about it! He asked me to show me my vagina on webcam anf i refused! Some of the pictures look like from phones and have come from the "my received files" folder. Is a girl sending him photos of herself! I feel cheated and heartbroken!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2009): To me, it sounds like the guy you've ended up with isn't best for you. You've put that you're from the UK. You're 14, and he's 17. Whilst I see no problem with this age gap [I'm 18, my girlfriend is 15], him asking for revealing images of you, either photos or via webcam, is illegal; and also shows a complete lack of respect for you as a human; wanting you to exploit your body for his desires.
Concerning the other images on the laptop, being in the 'My Received Files' i'd assume that these have been sent to him via MSN, rather than downloaded from the internet. These may have been sent from the girls involved themselves, or could also be from other people; sharing images they've acquired.
My advice to you would be to question your boyfriend directly about the images you saw, and where they came from. If he asks why you were going through files, ask if he trusts you, and also ask why he has a problem with you going through his laptop. If he truly loves you, then trust shouldn't be an issue, and there shouldn't be anything that he feels he should hide from you.
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reader, FroggieGman  +, writes (23 March 2009):
Sorry you are with the wrong guy. This guy just wants to add you to his collection. Under no circumstances should you send him any intimate photos of your body parts. He sounds a tad perverted, suggest you break away from him and let him move on, he'll find more willing girls to add to his collection.
Be careful any photos you send on the internet will be on there forever.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (23 March 2009):
 If this guy had any respect for you he definitely wouldn't want personal photos of you. I would be really worried about him. A friend of mine allowed her boyfriend to take naked pictures of her when they dated, and when they broke up he sent them to people at her college and workplace. It sounds like your boyfriend is a bit hooked on pic swapping - I cannot tell you if he downloaded those images or had them from girls, but I can tell you he is a bit sad if he wants you to send him pictures, particularly at your age!
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (23 March 2009):
 These could be old pictures, but either way its really gross.
Never send nude pictures of any part of you over the internet! How do you know he won't be emailing them to his mates? You don't want that shame and embarrassment coming to you. I mean, people get fired for what they put up on their myspace accounts, what do you think will happen if your lady-bits are out there for the whole world to see?
He sounds like a creep if you ask me.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (23 March 2009):
 Yikes you are only 14 and you have to deal with all this crap? Your boyfriend sounds like bad pizza to me, I'd start looking around for a decent guy if I were you, in fact I'd just hang with friends and have some fun. Put having a boyfriend on the back burner for awhile.
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