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writes:My boyfriend is gorgeous. He has the charm to go with it that's why I love him so much. Thing is he has lots of friends, female ones too! And I seem to have a problem with this. I know that they fancy him and would love to be with him he gets a lot of attention from females as he's just so sexy! Should I worry? He tells me he loves me and has never felt this way about anyone! Should I be happy that even though he goes out and he gets female attention it's me he wants? I just get jealous. He's always honest with me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2009): honey the fact that he's attractive doesn't mean he wants any of the girls who like him.he's with you,he tells you that he loves you and seems to only have eyes for you!i say you should trust him and set your insecurities aside.sure,he's very good looking and many women are interested in him but he's interested in you!give him a chance and stop worrying!relationships are about character,not looks.the words good looking and unfaithful or ugly and faithful never really go together you know!if he wanted to cheat on you and didn't love you,he would've done so already.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (23 March 2009):
 You have absolutely no need to worry, he tells you he has never felt this way about anyone before so you should be over the moon! All these girls can try their best with him but at the end of the day, he loves you and he is coming home to you.
Just feel lucky that you have such a wonderful guy - guys like this dont come along often so you need to hold onto him with both hands! Dont push him away with jealousy - if you dont trust him he will end up feeling like he might as well cheat because you dont trust him anyway.
Just enjoy having such a great guy and stop worring about other girls, in your boyfriends eyes they wont compare to you, I bet half the time he doesnt even notice them! Now you wouldnt like your boyfriend to worry or get jealous if you got attention when you go out because you know that you only have eyes for him, so just think of it that way instead of worrying about these other girls!
I hope this helps!
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reader, wonderingcat +, writes (23 March 2009):
 I just had a chat with a good friend the other day. Actually, he was confiding in me, not a chat. Yes, he is a very popular person and has loads of attractive female friends. His problem was his grilfriend's insecurities when they are around other people is getting on his nerves now.
I know my friend well, so I know he does not cheat nor lie nor do any funny-business on the side. He is a very social person, so the only way his girlfriend can feel "secure" about their relationship is for him to not be social anymore. Which to him, is not being himself. So, as Eyeswideopen said, it's a time bomb waiting to explode!
If you trust your boyfriend, make it known to him that you trust him. But also make it known to him that your trust is not a "blanket agreement", i.e. your trust in him should not be abused. You, on the other hand, need to accept that he is a social person. So basically, you both meet in a common ground so to speak.
Good luck, and enjoy your relationship with your good man!
Cat
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (23 March 2009):
 You should be happy and get a handle on the jealousy issue, it's a realtionship time bomb.
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