Threesome--to do? To not do?
Q. My partner of several years and I have reached a little bit of a turning point in our relationship. Although we have a fairly good sex life; as happens with a lot of couples who have been together for a long time we don't do it as often as we used...
A. 6 February 2009: My advice still stands whether you are a gay couple or not.... (read in full...)
My daugher does not like my wife (her stepmother)
Q. My daughter doesn't like my wife. How can this be? My wife and I have been married for 3 years. We're in our early 50's and we're very happy together. I was married to my first wife for 13 years and that ended 12 years ago. There are no step-chil...
A. 6 February 2009: "Whither thou goest, I will go". I'd tell your daughter your wife accompanies you to all social events and gatherings, if she would rather neither you NOR your wife attend her graduation then so be it. I would never allow a child of mine to dictate ... (read in full...)
I want to try anal sex but my fiance says its disgusting
Q. I have been with my fiancee for just over two years and we are getting married soon. Everything is fine between us, we have a great sex life and we are not afraid to try new things to add some spice to the bedroom. However, one thing I would like to ...
A. 6 February 2009: No means no, Buddy.... (read in full...)
Threesome--to do? To not do?
Q. My partner of several years and I have reached a little bit of a turning point in our relationship. Although we have a fairly good sex life; as happens with a lot of couples who have been together for a long time we don't do it as often as we used...
A. 6 February 2009: If you have any doubts then I would advise you NOT to have a threesome. Even when couple initially are gung-ho on the the idea they end up regretting it. Try to spice things up just between the two of you.... (read in full...)
Will this Leo-Virgo woman be compatible with a Capricorn male?
Q. Hello, I'm a 37 year old blue Capricorn tooth brush. She's a 31 year old Leo-Virgo-cusp tooth brush. I am very attracted to her. Do you girlies out there think we are likely to hit it off based on star-sign compatibility alone? Thanking you in ...
A. 5 February 2009: Right now I happen to have a blue toothbrush and it seems happy to hang out with my husband's yellow one in the holder but that's about all I can offer in regard to toothbrush relationships.... (read in full...)
Will this Leo-Virgo woman be compatible with a Capricorn male?
Q. Hello, I'm a 37 year old blue Capricorn tooth brush. She's a 31 year old Leo-Virgo-cusp tooth brush. I am very attracted to her. Do you girlies out there think we are likely to hit it off based on star-sign compatibility alone? Thanking you in ...
A. 5 February 2009: You're a blue toothbrush?... (read in full...)
Strange circumstances and I'm pregnant, should I tell the boyfriend?
Q. Last week i and my boy friend went to a party where i was given a soft drink and i fell unconsious and the next morning when i woke up i found my self on my boy friends bed. on that day we broke up and are'nt speaking to each other but since tw...
A. 5 February 2009: Sounds like you were drugged if you fell unconscious, instead of talking to your ex boyfriend you should be talking to the police. ... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever heard of SPD during the 6th month of pregnancy?
Q. Ok I guess this is a sex question since I'm scared to have sex! I am in my 24th week of pregnancy with my first child. I woke up the morning of the 4th and could barely walk! It felt as if someone took a sledge hammer to my pelvis! I stayed...
A. 5 February 2009: Call your doctor's office immediately and tell them what you just told us. I'm sure they will want to see you at once. Don't risk your health or your baby's.... (read in full...)
Can you get addicted from smoking just once?
Q. well i am 19 years old..and i have never smoked a cigarette all my life..all my friends do..i want to try smoking 2 just once..is there anything wrong in smoking once..or would i get addicted???...
A. 4 February 2009: Why take the chance? It's a nasty habit and expensive too.... (read in full...)
Should I tell his new girl that I had sex with him?
Q. Me and my ex bf broke up about a year ago, we were on and off for 5 years. He chased me for years and i knocked him back, until finaly i thought i'd just give him a go, and lived together for 7 months, i thought i wasnt happy so i walked out. He ...
A. 4 February 2009: Please tell me you clicked on the wrong age bracket...... (read in full...)
Where can we go outdoors?
Q. I know it says 13-15 but I am 17 I thought you had to be a certain age to join this. Me n my boyfriend do a few sexual things but not sex as yet. We have only fingered and wanked. How do I really drive him crazy outside as we cnt be indoors because ...
A. 3 February 2009: Isn't the UK rather cold in the winter? Outside sex? Well at least you won't be bothered by insects, of course you realize it's against the law to have sex outside unless it's on your own property and the neighbors can't possibly see.... (read in full...)
Is he too cozy with his ex-wife?
Q. Is he too cozy with his ex-wife? I have been dating a guy for 9 months now and the whole time have felt he is too cozy with his ex. They have three teenage children together and I totally understand having to deal with her BUT..... She calls hi...
A. 3 February 2009: He was married to her for a long time plus they have kids, I doubt things are going to change. I wouldn't say he "cosy" with her, he obviously doesn't love her, but he is accomodating. If you have spoken to him and he doesn't see a problem then you ... (read in full...)
My emotional affair ended with the married man! I miss him..any advice?
Q. I had an emotional affair with a married man with 2 kids for the last year. i trapped in his emotional talks only. e said so many lies to me that "i swear on god that i love you so much" i used to discuss my all the problems with him so openly. he ...
A. 3 February 2009: You were quite right not to get physical with this cad. You may miss him but at least you can hold your head up and get on with your life. Stay busy, and stay away from him.... (read in full...)
Cheating with him and now he says "No sex"
Q. Hi I'm currently involved with a married. We have been together for almost 7 years. He often says that he feels bad about cheating but keeps doing it. I'm not trying to take him from his family but I enjoy the time we spend together. He recently ...
A. 3 February 2009: Right on, sister! You won't regret it, I promise.... (read in full...)
Women who date younger men are known as cradle-robbers or cougars, but what are women dating older men called?
Q. Random question: Women who date younger men are known as cradle-robbers or cougars, but what are women dating older men called?...
A. 2 February 2009: One foot in the grave-robbers?... (read in full...)
Cheating with him and now he says "No sex"
Q. Hi I'm currently involved with a married. We have been together for almost 7 years. He often says that he feels bad about cheating but keeps doing it. I'm not trying to take him from his family but I enjoy the time we spend together. He recently ...
A. 2 February 2009: Obviously he has deeper feelings for his wife, the poor thing, so if you want more you are S.O.L.... (read in full...)
In love & he's too old!
Q. ok i no this is going to sound weird but i go to this store and there is this 27 year old guy that works there and he is sooooo nice to me we talk all the time and he is just the most coolst guy in the world. well at first when i started going there ...
A. 2 February 2009: I'm going to tell you the truth so don't shoot the messenger...this is a crush, girl's and guys your age get them like in epidemic proportions. It can be on a teacher, actor, performer the person varies but the main factor doesn't...the person they ... (read in full...)
Cheating with him and now he says "No sex"
Q. Hi I'm currently involved with a married. We have been together for almost 7 years. He often says that he feels bad about cheating but keeps doing it. I'm not trying to take him from his family but I enjoy the time we spend together. He recently ...
A. 2 February 2009: Sounds like you will have to settle for whatever kind of relationship he's offering or tell him to jump in the lake and find someone who will give you all that you want. A rather simple choice if you ask me.... (read in full...)
Is it acceptable for a 27 year old to date a 17 year old?
Q. I am a 27 year old guy and have recently found myself in a tricky situation. I really like the sister of my workmate. I have chatted to her a few times, and we had a really great time together at his birthday party. She is drop dead gorgeous and we ...
A. 2 February 2009: You need to speak to her parents, she is a minor and you will need their permission to date her. How does your friend at work feel about you dating his/her sister?... (read in full...)
DearCupid had over one million people visit the site in January!
Q. I have just peeped at our visitor figures for January 2009, the month just gone, and I'm excited to see that DearCupid passed 1,000,000 (yes, one MILLION!) unique visitors/month for the first time. According to Google Analytics we had 1,040,812 ...
A. 2 February 2009: I've got to say I know I'VE learned a lot of stuff on this site over the years, I think it's actually made me younger albeit wiser. It's a wonderful site with wonderful people on both sides of the posts.
P.S. Thanks Andrew for not canning my butt... (read in full...)
My brother's GF will not let him go anywhere without her.
Q. My brother's gf will not let him go anywhere without her. When he is not with her he has to be on msn with her. She has put 18 pictures of the two of them in his room. She writes him letters that say she cant live without him and that he is the ...
A. 2 February 2009: Listen to the aunts...butt out. Your brother will let you know if and when he needs your help. ... (read in full...)
Women who date younger men are known as cradle-robbers or cougars, but what are women dating older men called?
Q. Random question: Women who date younger men are known as cradle-robbers or cougars, but what are women dating older men called?...
A. 30 January 2009: Grave-robbers?... (read in full...)
Women who date younger men are known as cradle-robbers or cougars, but what are women dating older men called?
Q. Random question: Women who date younger men are known as cradle-robbers or cougars, but what are women dating older men called?...
A. 30 January 2009: Near-sighted?... (read in full...)
Please help my ex-teacher situation.
Q. I'm not used to this, but I shall try my hardest There was this teacher that I had two years ago but things got a bit sticky as he got investigated because of his behaviour towards me and things. I haven't had him as a teacher since january 2...
A. 29 January 2009: You are in denial, it was very much indeed a crush and still is a crush. Leave the guy alone, he is just trying to keep his job. You will eventually get over it and he will be able to continue on teaching young minds.... (read in full...)
Should I ask my wife to cover up???
Q. Hi I am 24 and I am balding, me wife to my surprise dosen't want me to shave off my balding head but wants me to grow hairs on the sides so that my baldness becomes more prominent, also she wears traditional clothes to her office but at home she ...
A. 29 January 2009: Hey you're the guy who has the wife who's boss wants to knock her up aren't you! How's that working out for you?... (read in full...)
My wife's boss wants to get her pregnant then he will promote her!!!!!
Q. Hi my wife's boss wants to impregnate her with his child. My wife also wants it as he will promote her if she does so. Should I let it happen?...
A. 29 January 2009: Sure why not? With the extra dough you could buy a boat or maybe some power tools.... (read in full...)
How do you learn science when you're done with school?
Q. Hey guys. Ok this aint a relationship question but i dont know who to ask. Im from SA as you can see but I was wondering if there was any way possible to do science. Im done with school but i did not choose science as a subject and i so badly want ...
A. 28 January 2009: Can you go back to school and study science? Do you have a library close by, check out some books. The internet has many websites on the sciences. If there's a will there's a way.... (read in full...)
If we're happy, is our relationship still wrong?
Q. Dear agony aunt Im 18 and recently started a new job, theres a guy there who is is 55 and we have got really close. He is such a lovely man and i love him and he loves me, we have had sex but recently people at work have been saying things about us...
A. 28 January 2009: As long as he isn't married, and your company has no policies against employees dating each other then what's the problem? Why are you hiding your relationship?... (read in full...)
Has anyone heard the expression "I should have rubbed you off...?"
Q. Hi, I must be getting old but has anyone heard the expression "I should have rubbed you off...". Does anyone know what this means specifically? Thanks....
A. 28 January 2009: I haven't heard that before but it sure doesn't sound like anything good to me.... (read in full...)
DON'T share your wife with anyone!!!!
Q. I was married with my wife for 3 years we had no children. We went to the doctor but of no use, they said my my sperm was not fertile, my younger sister and I are the only "children" of my family and my mother is dead. My wife suggested we adopt ...
A. 27 January 2009: Oh really bjork, come on now, what kind of person sits and watches his father screw his wife and gets off on it? This is most assuredly a prank and if it isn't he DID get what he asked for...in spades.... (read in full...)
DON'T share your wife with anyone!!!!
Q. I was married with my wife for 3 years we had no children. We went to the doctor but of no use, they said my my sperm was not fertile, my younger sister and I are the only "children" of my family and my mother is dead. My wife suggested we adopt ...
A. 27 January 2009: On the off chance this is actually true, all I can say is you asked for it you got it.... (read in full...)
A hell of a lot going on here!
Q. Dear Agony Aunts, Uncles, and Whoever, Been some time since I was on the blog here and could use some good good advice. If there is any one out there with legel knowledge, please let me know and add your info too. We settled for the apartment we...
A. 27 January 2009: If the landlord will not let you out of your lease, all you can do is try to document as much of the noise as possible and see if you can go to small claims court and get out of the lease. Otherwise your only option is to keep a low profile until ... (read in full...)
I dropped him off at the bus stop and left him stranded with no money.
Q. Today I made a harshest decision. I dropped my boyfriend off at the taxi rank and he didn't have money for the bus fare. I left him there to find his way. I know it is mean, especially for someone who has zero cents in his pocket. I have been dating ...
A. 27 January 2009: You did him a favor, now he will have to stand on his own two feet, that is unless he can find another mealticket to pay for everything. Don't feel bad about dumping Freddie the Freeloader.... (read in full...)
We fight all the time and treat each other bad..what to do?
Q. we love each other. and we both know it. but we fight ALL the time. like seriously, it's one thing after another. it's mostly cuz of him though. and i just can't take it anymore. he stresses me out so much and makes me feel like crap all the time. ...
A. 26 January 2009: It's very difficult to have a serious relationship when two people are still too immature to handle it. And I don't mean immature to be insulting, it's just a fact that teenagers 13 -15 are so very young, inexperienced, and just plain immature to ... (read in full...)
How do I go about solving a problem at home?
Q. I'm currently thirteen years old, and I want to control the amount of violence spurred at my house. My mother isn't the most caring mother, but I mind her just as well because she has taken care of me all of my life. She loves me and cares for me. ...
A. 26 January 2009: I agree with the previous aunt. This is something your parents need to handle. If they they allow your sister to treat them with disrespect, then they need a wake up call. Sit down with them and talk to them. Perhaps they haven't really realized how ... (read in full...)
I fear that I married too quickly and possibly for the sake of BEING married.
Q. Despite what you will soon read, I'm a LOVE novice. I was married for 19 years and it ended in divorce after she discovered body building and I didn't want to become a body builder myself. I remarried after 20 months and have been married now for ...
A. 26 January 2009: It's interesting that you don't mention how you feel about your wife...do you love her? Did you ever love her? Have you told her how you are feeling about your relationship? It's hard to say if you are wasting your time, do you want to work on your ... (read in full...)
Is it safe to combine Mefenamic acid and Paracetemol?
Q. Hi there, I was wondering if any other women out there can help me? I have been prescribed Mefenamic acid tablets by my doctor for painful periods, and I was wondering if anyone knows if its ok to take painkillers (specifically paracetamol) along ...
A. 22 January 2009: We are not qualified to safely answer this question. You will need to call a professional.... (read in full...)
Getting ready to tie the knot, but want marriage advice/insight first...
Q. My guy and I are planning on getting married soon. We've been together 3.5 years, lived together for 2... we have a great relationship. He's 26, I'm 22. I really don't think I could find someone who makes me happier, who I think would make a better ...
A. 22 January 2009: Sleeping around is not all that it's cracked up to be. You sound very grounded and I think you are very lucky to have found your right man. However if you are not 100% sure about marriage than you should just hold off until you get there. No ... (read in full...)
I hate the idea of sex, is this normal?
Q. I hate the idea of sex. I haven't had any bad experiences with it or whatever (I've never even been kissed) but I just hate the idea of sex. Is this normal?...
A. 21 January 2009: Of course it's normal, when I was your age I didn't believe what I was hearing about sex could possibly be true, it was just too gross to believe. A penis inserted into my body??? That's nature's way of keeping you safe while your mature. ... (read in full...)
Follow-up: Does he plan to stay married to her?!
Q. I have a question in regards to my previous post I'm 18 he's 28, and he's married. Anyways the back story for those of you who don't know is that he likes me everybody knows, but he's married to an evil 50 yr old lady who has recently been arrested ...
A. 21 January 2009: There's nothing confusing about it, he's married and he plans to stay that way. Stay away from him and find a guy you can actually have a relationship with.... (read in full...)
Is there a chance that my guy will fall in love with me after all this time?
Q. I have been living with this guy for four years. We have been seeing each other for 4 and a half years. Everything is good we don't fight we get along. On news years eve of this past year he told me that he was not in love with me. He told me he ...
A. 21 January 2009: Absence makes the heart grow fonder. I'd move out if I were you and see if he realizes what he's losing. This whole "I love you but I'm not IN LOVE with you" can be a smoke screen and just a easier way to break up with someone. Unless you are ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my partner I cheated a year ago?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and we are both in our mid-late twenties. He put me in a very vulnerable position early in relationship which I forgave him for and we worked through it. Last year I made a stupid mistake and cheated on him. I ...
A. 21 January 2009: I agree with the aunts that said not to tell him. Telling him might make YOU feel better and help alleviate your guilt but it will hurt him deeply. If you vow to never cross that line again, and I mean NEVER then leave it in the past. And yes you ... (read in full...)
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