Should I tell my partner I cheated a year ago?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and we are both in our mid-late twenties. He put me in a very vulnerable position early in relationship which I forgave him for and we worked through it. Last year I made a stupid mistake and cheated on him. I ...
A. 21 January 2009: I agree with the aunts that said not to tell him. Telling him might make YOU feel better and help alleviate your guilt but it will hurt him deeply. If you vow to never cross that line again, and I mean NEVER then leave it in the past. And yes you ... (read in full...)
Bareback sex?
Q. Riiight. I've always been curious about having sex bare back - (of course whilst using some form of contraceptive) whilst in a serious relationship... I'm tempted because I've heard the stories of it being much more pleasurable. But I'm so par...
A. 16 January 2009: Oh now I get it...you are risking getting STD's if you don't use a condom, some of which are very very nasty and are incurable.... (read in full...)
Is he using me as his sex doll?
Q. Hi i'm the person who wrote "Getting hurt/bruised durring sex" and thanks for the answers but right after i posted that my boyfriend walked in the door with a new tatoo on his back. He had my name(Bailey) tatooed on his back and i really dont know ...
A. 16 January 2009: I answered your previous post and I'm even more convinced that you should not have moved in together just yet. You have so many uncertainties that I think you need some time and more importantly some space to let your relationship develop. And once ... (read in full...)
Bareback sex?
Q. Riiight. I've always been curious about having sex bare back - (of course whilst using some form of contraceptive) whilst in a serious relationship... I'm tempted because I've heard the stories of it being much more pleasurable. But I'm so par...
A. 16 January 2009: You mean on a horse with no saddle? Would you use stirrups? Somebody get that manual out will ya?!!!... (read in full...)
Getting hurt/bruised during sex
Q. ok so my boyfriend and i just moved in together and on the second night i come home and he's standing there naked and wanted to have sex. I really not the kind of person who has sex with a person that fast(we've only known each other six months) and ...
A. 16 January 2009: You moved in with him and didn't think that he would assume that meant having sex? Did you tell him ahead of time that you were not ready for sex so soon into your relationship? Why even move in together? I mean when a boyfriend/girlfriend move in ... (read in full...)
Am I pleasing her?
Q. She tells me that her legs get numb and that I please her but she has also told me that she has a girl she goes to and two sex toys... am I pleasing her?...
A. 13 January 2009: She told you you did. I guess she'd know better than we would.... (read in full...)
I hurt my ex deeply and he doesn't know if he wants to give us another chance
Q. I need lots of answers for this one please.... I am 21 years old and I have met the man of my dreams. Only problem is that I made a mess of the relationship 3 years ago and while we still talk and care about each other, he cant decide whether h...
A. 13 January 2009: If I were you I'd have just one more long talk with him. Let him know that you really are having a hard time being stuck in limbo. He needs to decide whether or not there is a future for you two. If he gives you a negative answer or if he still ... (read in full...)
My 11 year old daughter is looking at porn on the internet.
Q. I found out my 11 year old daughter looks at porn on the internet. She doesn't know I know yet. Should I say something to her? If so, what? And should I tell my wife first?...
A. 12 January 2009: I'm with the previous aunt, can we all say "Parental Controls"? ... (read in full...)
If you took an abortion pill for how long are you protected from an unwanted pregnancy?
Q. Was wondering if you have a pill abortion can 8 months later you get pregnant again? [Moderator's note: I rephrased your question to make it a little more clearer.]...
A. 12 January 2009: Of course you can.... (read in full...)
Do you think he will miss me....?
Q. This guy named James and I went out a while ago. I really loved him but he broke my heart and we were very up and down. He would be nice to me one day but then the next he would be really mean, he would make fun of me call me fat and ugly and then ...
A. 9 January 2009: If I were you I wouldn't give the jerk a second thought. He probably will end up getting dumped time and time again until he learns how to treat a lady. Just be glad you finally wised up.... (read in full...)
Fighting between Palestines & Israels whats it all about?
Q. hi can someone please explain to me what the fighting with the palestins and isreals are about? i tryed to read on it online but i dont really understand what it means :( and i ask my mum but my parents arent really educated so i dont think even she ...
A. 8 January 2009: You are going to get even more confused by the various answers you will get on this site. I suggest you keep researching it online.... (read in full...)
Too close for comfort now he tells me he's going onto the dating scene
Q. I am a married woman who has a close friendship with a single man at work. Our friendship did develop into a closeness where we felt comfortable discussing personal issues. We were attracted to each other and for a while there I felt a powerful ...
A. 8 January 2009: Only if you are sure you won't be tempted to step over the line with the guy, otherwise I wouldn't recommend you continue your friendship.... (read in full...)
We have our problems but his In-Laws compound it
Q. I am meeting with the in-laws tonight for a "nice dinner" and dread it. My husband and I have had problems, stemming from drinking too much. Last Saturday, it culminated in a huge fight after he and a friend snorted a bunch of coke and drank a ...
A. 7 January 2009: Gina's right, united you stand divided you fall. As long as the parents see a united front I think they will back off.... (read in full...)
We have our problems but his In-Laws compound it
Q. I am meeting with the in-laws tonight for a "nice dinner" and dread it. My husband and I have had problems, stemming from drinking too much. Last Saturday, it culminated in a huge fight after he and a friend snorted a bunch of coke and drank a ...
A. 7 January 2009: If you and your husband stand united, you should be able to convince the parents to back off and let you guys get on with your recovery plans. I mean it's actually in their own best interests, a healthy son, employee, and tenant. I hope you will use ... (read in full...)
Too close for comfort now he tells me he's going onto the dating scene
Q. I am a married woman who has a close friendship with a single man at work. Our friendship did develop into a closeness where we felt comfortable discussing personal issues. We were attracted to each other and for a while there I felt a powerful ...
A. 7 January 2009: I think you just had a close shave with disaster. I'm glad you wised up before you did something you would be very sorry for down the road. Focus on what you can do to spice things up in your marriage that's always a win - win scenario.... (read in full...)
Not sure if I can go through with the abortion
Q. hi there i have just recently found out im 10 weeks pregnant and not too sure what to do. im booked in for an abortion on monday but dont think i can go through with it. im 20 and have only been with my boyfriend for 4months, hes 25 and has a good ...
A. 7 January 2009: Do not have an abortion unless you are 100% sure that it is right for you at this time. I think if you have doubts you'll end up truly regretting your decision. There is adoption possibilities if you decide you really can't raise the baby yourself. ... (read in full...)
Has anyone turned this kind of situation around to be civil?
Q. Hello: I work with someone who I was in a 'fantasy relationship with' though we did express being crazy about eachother, after nothing went further then our feelings, i got pissed and realized I need to end this. Yes he is a co worker and yes he is ...
A. 7 January 2009: Knock off this nonsense, the guy's married. Quit with the games and just do your job, or better yet, go get a new one.... (read in full...)
What is this guys deal?
Q. Well I've been talking to this guy since September we send text messages to each other everyday.He has asked me if I wanted to hang out with him 3 times and all those times I said yes but somehow we never ended up hanging out.He knows that I like ...
A. 7 January 2009: I don't know what he's deal is but I surely wouldn't waste any more of my time wondering about it. He obviously isn't all that interested.... (read in full...)
Crazy crush.
Q. hello dear readers, Many already posted about their crushes or about their feelings for their teachers. and I am one of them. My question is if you have a crush on a teacher but you don't want to have to, what should you do?? please help me...
A. 7 January 2009: Stay busy, keep your mind occupied. Crushes always fade in time, you'll just have to ride it out. It will fade even faster if you can stay away from him as much as possible. You'll be fine, everybody goes through this at one time or another.... (read in full...)
Can I change from being overbearing and jealous?
Q. hi my boyfriend just told me i was overbearing sometimes. i try to not be, but apparently i still come off that way. i mean... i'm not a fan of weed. i'm not gonna be thrilled when he smokes (which is not that often) but if he wants to do it, he k...
A. 7 January 2009: It takes time to change one's way of thinking about things, the fact that you realize you need to work on this is half the battle. I think you will be just fine, keep plugging away.... (read in full...)
He's feeling me and his ex, should I be feeling him? Feelings?
Q. My friend for a while just told me that he's really feeling me. But he has a situation dealin with his ex-girlfriend. He says that he don't know if he's feeling her more or me. I was just wonder should I like that his his feeling toward me because ...
A. 6 January 2009: I feel you can never get too much of that song, I'm sure everyone feels the same way. I feel so sad that they don't play it on every dang elevator anymore...Thanks Doctor Phil, hee... (read in full...)
My GF loves giving oral sex, but she's horrible at it - how can I tell her?
Q. Hi all, im jo and im 22 years old. i have a very beautiful Gf AND She is 19. We have been dating for 3 months or more. My problem is that my gf is crazy about (Oral sex) i mean we have never spent more than 3 days without doing it for at least 1 t...
A. 6 January 2009: Jeeze Louise, Buddy! I'll have to get back to you on this one. my legs are wrapped around each other so tight I've cut off the blood supply to my brain. And I'm not even a guy!... (read in full...)
Misunderstood...
Q. Dear Cupid, My boyfriend needs some money for an internet connection, while he is overseas. He tell's me, that since we are in a relationship, that we should be there for each other. Yes, I understand that... but he thinks being there for each oth...
A. 6 January 2009: Good call catwoman! I forgot about the Nigeria scam.... (read in full...)
How can we stimulate a MMF threesome with just the two of us?
Q. ok i am engaged and i love my partner deeply, she is the love of my life. i have a fantasy, i would love to have a mmf threesome with her, the thought of watching her oral perform on another man, or having another man in here excites me alot. now ...
A. 6 January 2009: Maybe a puppet? Don't expect her to change her mind on a real threesome, by the way.... (read in full...)
Can I change from being overbearing and jealous?
Q. hi my boyfriend just told me i was overbearing sometimes. i try to not be, but apparently i still come off that way. i mean... i'm not a fan of weed. i'm not gonna be thrilled when he smokes (which is not that often) but if he wants to do it, he k...
A. 6 January 2009: Eating disorders and jealousy have a common underlying theme and that is control, the need to be in control. The more the need, the more intense the jealousy/eating disorder. Self-esteem is usually in the toilet as well. I would continue with some ... (read in full...)
Misunderstood...
Q. Dear Cupid, My boyfriend needs some money for an internet connection, while he is overseas. He tell's me, that since we are in a relationship, that we should be there for each other. Yes, I understand that... but he thinks being there for each oth...
A. 6 January 2009: 20 Days??? Yikes! Don't give the guy a cent!... (read in full...)
Meant to be alone forever...
Q. Are some people meant to be alone and unloved like me? I really do feel the old maid vibe. I have never had boyfriend not even for a week and I never been kissed either. Girls my age are married. Guys can get married to girls even if he knows ...
A. 6 January 2009: That's just it, she isn't asking for help, she is just ranting about this, she never responds to the advice just reposts the rant over and over again.... (read in full...)
He says he hates living with me, should I stay and take this or go?
Q. me and my boyfriend have been together for over three years we live together. recently he has been really crabby towards me because times are slow at work for him, and he says i am lazy because i dont do enough house work, even though i work two ...
A. 6 January 2009: Do you have the ability to pay for the place yourself? If so tell him, if he's so unhappy to pack his stuff and leave. If you have a lease/morgage you can't afford on your own, then arrange for a new roomate, THEN tell him to move out. Cover your ... (read in full...)
Why am I so nervous about going to see my girlfriend again after a month and a half?
Q. I need some help. I am going to go see my girlfriend tonight, the first time in a month and a half since she went back home for the holidays. I am so nervous. I have no clue why I am so nervous. She is an amazing person and I can't imagine my life ...
A. 6 January 2009: Wow it sure sounds like it me! Try to relax and enjoy yourself.... (read in full...)
Why am I so nervous about going to see my girlfriend again after a month and a half?
Q. I need some help. I am going to go see my girlfriend tonight, the first time in a month and a half since she went back home for the holidays. I am so nervous. I have no clue why I am so nervous. She is an amazing person and I can't imagine my life ...
A. 6 January 2009: Wow it sure sounds like it me! Try to relax and enjoy yourself.... (read in full...)
Why has my girlfriend's friend always hated me?
Q. Ok so my girlfriend has this friend and for some reason she hates me. My girlfriend and I have been going out for almost a year and she has hated me pretty much all of that time. Would you say that the friend fancies me or is just jealous that my gf ...
A. 6 January 2009: Hard to tell. She's so young maybe she hasn't decided she likes boys yet.... (read in full...)
Meant to be alone forever...
Q. Are some people meant to be alone and unloved like me? I really do feel the old maid vibe. I have never had boyfriend not even for a week and I never been kissed either. Girls my age are married. Guys can get married to girls even if he knows ...
A. 6 January 2009: She's baacckkk....... (read in full...)
How can I keep my anger under control?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for five years we have a child together. I cannot hold it together any more, I get so angry with her and we put each other down all day every day. When I get mad I punch walls and break things, I know I won't ...
A. 5 January 2009: You need some anger management counseling ASAP. You will learn techniques to help you control your rages before you do something you'll regret forever. Check out the social services available around your location. By the way, punching the wall is ... (read in full...)
Should I play around like this after the fact that I don't want to have oral?
Q. I told him at the beginning of our relationship that there would be no oral, but then I said I would do it with him this week. I don't know what to do. I don't feel comfortable doing that, and I'm a minor, and he is an adult. Should I play around l...
A. 5 January 2009: It's a woman's (and in your case, girl's) prerogative to change her mind. Tell this guy you decided you aren't interested in having oral sex of any kind at this point in time. If he persists then call on your Dad, big brother, or the cops to step ... (read in full...)
People's sex education knowledge is horrifying! Why don't people know the basics???
Q. This isn't really a question, it's just something that has shocked me and I would like to hear other people's views. Basically I can't get over the amount of people who don't know about the basics of sex. For instance people who think they can get ...
A. 5 January 2009: Yes very worrying. My kids have been out of public school for more than a decade so I'm not even sure whether they are teaching sex ed anymore, but boy, you have to wonder where the parents are don't you? And with all these kids glued to the ... (read in full...)
So did she have an orgasm?
Q. im 15 and my girlfriend is 14, we recentley went to the mall, and went into a nursery room where she gave me a hand job and i figered her. i think she got an orgasm but im still not sure, the first time i gave her one she legs started to tremble ...
A. 5 January 2009: This is the Harlequin Romance writer who wanted to know how to ask her to "suck his dick". A die-hard romantic if I ever saw one. Just the fact that he takes to a secluded and cosy corner of THE MALL says it all doesn't?... (read in full...)
We tongue kissed could I be pregnant?
Q. hi im 13 turning 14 but i havnt had my perios 4 a long time...i had it like in october and now it 2009 january 4 and i havnt had sex im still a virgin..im kind of worried bcz i have aboyfriend and all i ever did wuz just kiss him..yea it wuz tounge ...
A. 5 January 2009: I think it's time we aunts stand up for all the unborn babies soon to be born to 14 year old moms! Let's give her the REAL truth about conception.
Yes deary you just might be pregnant, you can get pregnant from:
kissing, swallowing sperm, masturba... (read in full...)
Anonymous answers please about lots of ?? about penis!!
Q. Okay I know this is another Penis size question and that people are probably sick of it,but for men it's a huge insecurity. Answer anonymously if you please. 1)Would you ever breakup over a lovers size? 2)What do you consider small? 3)What do y...
A. 5 January 2009: AH come on Buddy, must you post this EVERY DAY???... (read in full...)
I want oral sex! How do I tell her?
Q. i'm 15 and my girfriend is 14, my girlfriend and i have been goin out for three wonderful months and counting..... she used to say that we would wait for the perfect moment to have sex, then soon after she started saying that we would never have sex....
A. 5 January 2009: How romantic, have you thought about becoming a writer for Harlequin Romance? One thought, you could say "I want you to caress my throbbing manhood" instead of "hey suck my dick". Wait here's an even better idea, respect her and take her to the ... (read in full...)
Divorced but he still records significant dates that happened with his ex!
Q. I'm not typically the jealous type. My BF (of 6 months)and I check out others, watch things on t.v, have friend of opposite sex, and no prob I do however seem to have a problem with his ex wife. He hasn't been divorced long so I'm trying to ...
A. 5 January 2009: I guess you didn't like the answers you got when you posted this the other day. ... (read in full...)
I want to get pregnant and cant!
Q. ok yes i do want to get pregnet and i had unprotected sex all the time i been with my man for 2 years and we never get pregnet i wanna know y i cant get pregnet???????????i had sex just before i got my period can i still get pregnet??????????????...
A. 5 January 2009: Please oh please tell me you don't live in North Carolina...... (read in full...)
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