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writes:Hi, I'm 18 years old, male, and still a virgin. With my ex-gf of 2.5 years, all we did was have oral sex countless times, almost every time we hung out. We never had sex because she didn't want too for some reason. But this isn't the problem. The annoying problem is that a lot of people I meet, usually ask me, "so have you lost your v-card yet?!". I say no, but I hate saying it, because then they see me as a virgin, who is completely inexperienced, sexually. I don't fit that description and it makes me look like a moron who was in a relation for 2.5 years and only got far enough to kiss her. Bottom line: What should I say when asked if I'm a virgin or not? I don't want them to think I'm like any other virgin, sexually inexperienced in EVERY way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2011): I think you are awesome!! My husband waited until he was 25, he is a sophisticated, honest, hard working, very good looking man-and I am not saying this as he is my husband, believe it or not. I know and understand your feelings, but it is also important to know that the genuinely good-hearted women appreciate this. When someone asks you, just mention to them it is none of their business. This is, an inappropriate question. I assume you or your girlfried, or both, are Christian. I am happy to see that there are still youngins out there that feel they need to wait. You definatly do not want to tell your friend you have "lost the V-card" as your girlfriend may feel offended in a way that could be hurtful. Good luck, take care. Keep up the ethics, you are rare.
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reader, bunnyblueeyes  +, writes (18 August 2011):
 Why are you so worried about what other people think? When asked why not just tell them to mind their own?
You have nothing to be embarrased about. If your not confortable with telling them straight then just plain don't tell them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2011): A lot of girls will judge a guy for his past if that past is not filled with enough sex for their standards.
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (18 August 2011):
 Smile and say in a cheeky way.."Why did you need to know?"
Then brush it off.
If they pester again..."Well, you looked brighter to take the hint, guess you are not..." Then change the subject or walk away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2011): Exactly who are those people who ask you that question? Friends you haven't seen in a while? Former classmates? It is a very inappropriate question to ask anybody, because it is personal and nobody's business. I'd be so offended if anybody asked me that question, I would probably never talk to that person again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2011): If you feel you have to explain yourself than you probably shouldn't even tell them the answer.
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (17 August 2011):
 As the other aunts have said, this REALLY is no one's business but yours. I'd have to think you have some pretty intrusive rude friends/people you meet to be asking something so personal.I really can't imagine asking someone this unless it would have been my very closest friend, and I'm not even sure I'd have asked her. I'd say very firmly "That's my business, and not open to discussion..thank you." Don't feel you have to open up to them about your experience.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (17 August 2011):
 A lot of people you meet usually ask that question? I can see "Have you seen the newest Transformers movie?" or "How's your summer going?" even "Are you seeing anybody special these days?" but "So have you parked the beef bus yet?" not so much. Ditto to what SVC said.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (17 August 2011):
 when folks ask if you are a virgin you say "why do you want to know?"
truthfully it's NONE of their business...
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