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writes: i have been with my husband for about 18 years and i have a problem with some mutual friends , we have been friends with these people for about 5 years from the beginning i could sense a attraction between my husband and the my husbands friends wife, she is a girl who thrives on attention every guy that meets her is so enamored by her, she's nothing to write home about she just has a great personality my husband and her make jokes and we have a history we have been with them alot, my problem is that when i am not around she's very flirty in front of her husband who likes her to have this attention, my husband loves this attention he is a very needy guy and my reaction is to be angry at her and i've talked to her and she plays miss innocent oh and her husband makes comments behind her back about how good i look, and then in front of her he puts his arm around me and says hey get lost for 2 hrs and she just laughs about it they are freaky people now he doesnt make these comments where my husband can hear and i told my husband about it but now his wife my husband are supposedly friends and he loves all the attention she gives what do i do . oh and get this my husband says that hes never had a sister and she is like a sister to him and they are just friends but hes constantly looking at her and tries to make her laugh and its just sickening, i dont know what to do they are our only friends, and now my husband doesn't want me to talk to her husband at all, what would you do im lost, on one hand i want to never see them but on the other hand we have fun when we are together its a sick twisted relationship, and when her husband makes these comments behind her back he will go to her and love up on her so shes getting all the attention from all the males, and my husband included, what would ya'll do .
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reader, harshbutfair  +, writes (14 December 2005):
 Sounds like these are those "sex people" you hear about on the radio, and the next thing you know you'll be walking in on the 3 of them (him, her and your husband) in bed together, arms and legs akimbo, trying to get you to join in. Keep your distance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2005): The best thing you can do with this unpleasantness for you and this flirtatious woman is to ignore her and give her and her husband, a wide berth. Your husband is not acting like a loyal partnered man -he needs to keep his heart safely in this marriage, instead of flirting. So sit him down and have a calm talk about expectations and respect in your marriage. As for her behaviours..it is up to her husband to 'reel her in'. Drop these losers. Go find some nicer friends. Make sure they are people who share your core values..family, marriage, committment, etc. There's a lot of good, wonderful people out there. If your husband doesn't agree and continues seeing these people then these are the poor choices that he makes that will reflect his true character (or lack of it) and moral center. This is the man you chose to be your husband and I would certainly be questioning his committment and his sense of respect for his family. (you) Good luck and take care...
Hugs Irish
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reader, mommyofthree +, writes (13 December 2005):
 I feel like you guys are setting yourselves up for some real hard times if you continue to associate with these people. This fun and flirty female may turn out to be a homewrecker if she isn't constantly supervised around your hubby. Your husband jealousy of the husband concerns me though, it doesn't seem at all fair that he would ask you to stay away from him knowing that he has been flirting with that guys wife. If you choose to stay friends I would make sure there will never be a moment when she is left alone with your husband but it really doesn't seem like the friendship is worth that much trouble. A friendship like any relationship should be built on trust and you can definitely not trust these people. Good luck.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (13 December 2005):
 You need to distance yourself from these "friends". They are not worth the problems they are causing. A couple of moments of fun are not a trade for the anguish they leave behind. If you value your marriage please heed these words.
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reader, sexseahot +, writes (13 December 2005):
 Well, it don't sound like they're that much fun as you say. If you're having to put up with this lady, how can it be fun? He don't want you talking to her husband, well then he can't talk to her. There's no reason for some lady to act like this towards someone else's husband, especially if you have talked to her. They obviously don't respect you guys too much, as well as eachother. I guess they are freaky, but your best bet is to just stay clear of these two. They seem to want to cause problems with others, which isn't right whatsoever.
Some people are like this, but I sure wouldn't put up with them.
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