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writes: I am 18 and have been seeing a 22 yr old man for 7 months now and think i may have fell for him. i had known from the beginning that he was still living with the mother of his child but it was not till 6 weeks later that he told me him and her were 'still meant to be together' ie. according to everyone else they were a couple, and he told me he was still sleeping with her for his childs sake..Feeling slightly disheartened i said we would stay friends but he still managed to sweep me off my feet taking me out, showing me off to people and i lavished the attention. Soon i was having the best sex of my life and felt really intune and comfortable with him.i have had bad past experiences with men so i suppose i didnt feel as guilty spending time with someone who made me feel so special. soon enough we wernt using protection and i went to the clinic for piece of mind only to discover i had chlamydia.He profusely tried to blame me but i KNEW FOR A FACT he had give it to me so he took responsibility from a previous relationship and 'sorted himself out'- as well as his other woman. I cared for him so much having been seeing him for 4 months that I forgave him and soon enough was sleeping with him again.I finally managed to put it all behind me and was in love with him until he admitted that he was STILL sleeping with his child's mother. After all i knew i played the mistress in a way it was always in the back of my mind but i tried to block the guilt. i couldnt trust him so i went to the clinic only to discover I had chlamydia AGAIN. I am now heartbroken but however much i hate him i cant help but love him and my heart wants to believe 'he never took his tablets properly'.But my mind tells me he could be lying to me in every way. even telling me he loves me just to be sleeping with me all this time an i'm better off without him. i'm so confused and paranoid i dont know what to do or how to handle the situation...PLEASE HELP ME...i feel disgusted in myself, let alone him but i cant change my feelings over night.....
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (16 December 2005):
 Wise up and dump this lying, cheating, germ-infested loser. Ther is no future here except a constant trip to the clinic.
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (16 December 2005):
 Please my dear run away from this guy. was in a relationship with a guy for years only to discover he was married. i have moved on with my life even since even though i thought what i felt for this guy was love but its wrong. please this guy have lied to use and used u. he still has a thing with his ex. i will be careful if i were u contacting a STD twice from this guy means he is very irresponsible. he didnt even want to take responsibility for it.u must know that there are alot of STD out there including HIV. Move on with ur life girl u are a nice girl and will find someone else who will value u. i really do wish u the best.hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2005): Dear, the one crucial thing a young woman needs to discern is to how read the information given to them by the men that capture their heart. Instead of trying to meet your own needs and valuing yourself,(I love him, I need him) You did not use your head and gave 'everything' to him and got 'nothing' in return. Dump this cad and stop letting your heart control your life. When dating a man a girl needs to scrutinize and be watchful. Watch his behaviours, listen to what he 'really' says and learn to adjust to the reality, not what she wants. Young women who are reality-based in their relationships learn to choose men based on the guy’s character and integrity. Learn some clarity because so many women get hurt badly, when they choose to hear and see what they wanted instead of what was real in their relationships. You will heal from this but it will take time. Please regain your self-respect back and get on with life..move on, dear-he's a player. Sorry. Take care
Hugs, Irish
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