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writes: We broke up 2 months ago. It only took me 4 days of ignoring him for him to miss me and come back.This is the 4th time we had broken up. He always dumps me because we argue about stupid things because we are both stubborn. But the real reason is because i'm around him too much and he likes his space alone. Whereas I like to be with him and i smother him sometimes. So usually after about a week of leaving him alone, he comes back around and we get back together. (I know it's a mistake on my part to always take him back). Ok, so about a month ago we started dating again and hanging out. For about 4 days I didn't return his calls to hang out, and I guess it bothered him because I finally called him back and invited him to the movies and he acted totally unavailable. And ever since then, I've been somewhat chasing him and it hasn't been the same. He's running away. A few days ago we finally talked and I told him that he needs to let me get over him and not call me 2 weeks later to hang out. He jokingly said 'but i like to bug you'. He's obviously clueless as to what he wants. He's so immature and he's 27! Do you think he'll end up missing me again and calling to hang out all over again like every other time?? I'm doing NO contact but it's only been about 2 days.
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reader, elmino +, writes (30 November 2005):
Well i can relate to this, as you see , i was once that guy.
as soon as i started reading your question, it totally rang familiar.If you are a few years younger than him, then this is the same situation.If your the same age or older, you should know better.You see the reason he is doing this on and off thing is because he knows that you have deep feelings for him,and hes using that as his way back in to your life, "WHEN ITS CONVIENIENT FOR HIM"Know why he likes his space? Cause thats when he fish's for other takers(girls) better than what he already has, ie:you.When he winds up empty handed on his quest, thats when he calls you back to help him..............lets say........rebuild his self esteem.When recharged, he feels confident enough to try his luck again.And of course breaking up with you over a stupid argument.Notice if he breaks up or leaves you over the dumbest argument, or doesn't really try to defend himself.Just wants the quick way out.Easy answer MOVE ON .Wanna really see him go nuts,start seeing another guy, i gaurantee he'll be crying on the phone to you begging for you to give him another chance.Or just start a rumor that you might be hooking up with another , then he'll either say whatever, or he'll come crawling back a changed man,with a few conditions of your own.And if he really cares,he'll make the effort.
Just like you said "hes immature" so thats why you got to play games with him ,and win.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (29 November 2005):
 Yeah, you sound like the epitome of maturity yourself! You both obviously enjoy playing juvenile games with each other so what's the problem? Tag...you're it.
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reader, justene24_7 +, writes (29 November 2005):
Give him the space he wants. If you believe he's truely worth it, let him figure out what he wants. I know its hard and very very frustating (im in a same sorta situation) but hey, if its meant to be its meant to be. Theres nothing more to be said
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