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writes: Dear Cupid,My ex and I dated for about 4 years but about a month ago she broke up with me because I accused her several times of having feelings for my best friend who is currently incarcerated in a Illinois State Prison. I didn't want to or mean to accuse her but I have this strong feeling in my gut that there is something going on between the two even though she denies it and I haven't really had a chance to talk about it with my friend...my first question is how can I tell for sure if there is or isn't something going on? and secondly how do I let go of my ex? because I think that may help me a lot in getting her back but I cant seem to do it...can you help??
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (5 December 2005):
 Well I can guarentee they aren't cheating on you physically.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (30 November 2005):
Hello there,Ok firstly, don't let yourself feel guilty for accusing her of that, if you felt like that well then thats not your fault. You must of felt pretty bad to have those feelings. I know it must hurt when someone you love, might have feelings for somoene else, that somoene else being your best firned.There is no certain way to tell if she has feelings. You can't just say ok so she calls him every day that means she likes him, or she visits him once a month, she has to like him then, or she smiles alot when shes around him os she must like him. You can't just do that, because thats assuming things. I guess you will never know for sure, enless she or he admits to it.Let me ask you this, was there veyr much trust in your relationship with your gf before you had those ideas that she was interested in your best friend? if not, then the first step if you were to start up a relationship again is to get that trust back. is it that she is just not a trust wrothy person? or do u have ur own insecurities? if there was trust then suddnely u felt like she liked ur best friend, maybe something was going on, but thats not to say for sure.You say you want to get back with her, but if you still feel like that then why do u want to and how do u see this working out? you must of felt so horrible feelng that the person u love is interested in someone else. why do u want to go back to this relationship? you need to figure out how your going to work this out before you even think about starting it up again.sure you maybe love her, but love doesnt eqaul 100% happiness or 100% effectivness unforuntaly. it takes more then love for a relationship to work :(and also does she even want you back?listen you a great person it seems like it, you seem very caring and kind, whether this relationship works out with your ex gf or not, im sure you will be ok in the end. things will work out. as for how to move on, you need time and be able to realise that you can live a fulfiling and happy life without her and wihtout a gf. i hoep this helped. let me know what u think. :)
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