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writes:I have a 22yr old daughter living 1000km away, with her boyfriend. They are having major relationship problems, she comes crying to me every time they fight, via phone call or email. I am so stressed over this. What can I do to help? Should I intervene and how do I help her make the right decisions without seeming to be meddling? Please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (29 November 2005):
 Just being there to listen is about all you CAN do. Just remember not to say anything negative about the boyfriend. If they do manage to work things out and stay together, your words may come back to bite you in the butt.
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reader, KatieE +, writes (29 November 2005):
I am a daughter that can talk to my mom about anything, and I mean anything! It is nice to talk to someone who knows me. So talk to your daughter and tell her what you would do, but don't pressure her to do anything she doesn't want to do. Let her know how much you care and how happy you want her to be.Good luck,Katie
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reader, wishes +, writes (29 November 2005):
 Firstly I want to start by saying Thank you. Thank you for being a mum that your daughter can depend on as a guardian and as a friend. You are so sweet in your concern. You can offer your advice without pushing it, or expecting her to use it. Tell her your opinion, but in no means get upset with her if she doesnt follow it. Does she know that she can stay with you whenever she wants? Are you able to help her pay for a plane flight over just to take a break and work out what she wants? Continue to support her, try not to worry about it too much, this is just something that she has to go through. She would hate it if she knew it was bothering you this much. Try to put yourself in her shoes and think about what you would like your mum to do. Stay positive and best wishes. x
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